You're going at this the wrong way. Your body is set up where every muscle group complements another. Basically, your whole body works together to give you what you want. Because of this, you need to work out the foundation of what you WANT to get more of said results. What that means is, to get a strong upper body, you NEED a strong lower body. That is unless you want to look like a gorilla on stilts.
Either way, you should stop lifting so much and begin what is called cutting. Basically, this is the dieting stage where you are going to want to remove as much excess body fat as possible. After that, you can begin bulking which is just taking in a large amount of calories and just trying to gain mass. The reason being, if you want strong abs, that's fine, but your larger abs are just going to push out the fat that's already down there making you look larger.
The forum expert, illz_faded isn't around much, but you can sometimes catch him on AIM. Or you might want to try tapout, that guy is ****ing monstrous. Phat took from dave (illz), so he'd be able to help ya out as well.