How did the buyer pay? With credit card or check? The only way I have seen a pending payment is if the payment is check and it takes 5 days to clear. Your paypal acct should tell you when the payment will be released, shouldn't be 21 days either or what you need to do to get it off pending. You don't have to wait for the buyer to leave you positive feedback, he might not ever do that. I've got over 300 buys/sells on
ebay and I know I have missed out on at least 100 feedback from buyers and sellers just not leaving anything. Selling isn't that hard, but
ebay and paypal take too much out of the payments IMO. Everytime, except once from a check payment, the payment hits my acct immediatly after payment, no pending.