Woman situation, what to do

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

I catch more shit than you'll ever know. I still see my friends, but not all the time. And it catches up to me, I get *****ed at daily, and it never phases me. I'm 10x happier bullshittin with her vs hanging out with my friends for the most part.

Is she worth it? I dont know, I just layed down some ground rules and I feel like I'm going to die.

Ground rules were layed down

I wont be around those two together. Ever.

I wont call her, txt her, write her, whatever, I wont. If she wants to talk/see me, she'll call.

She cant see me every day, she gets one day a week, if she's lucky.

Right move?

 

[konechiwa 10+ year member]

I catch more shit than you'll ever know. I still see my friends, but not all the time. And it catches up to me, I get *****ed at daily, and it never phases me. I'm 10x happier bullshittin with her vs hanging out with my friends for the most part.
Is she worth it? I dont know, I just layed down some ground rules and I feel like I'm going to die.

Ground rules were layed down

I wont be around those two together. Ever.

I wont call her, txt her, write her, whatever, I wont. If she wants to talk/see me, she'll call.

She cant see me every day, she gets one day a week, if she's lucky.

Right move?

****.

Tell her how you ****ing feel. If she doesn't feel anything like that towards you, then do your "ground rules".

Just don't sound like a ****ing weirdo when you tell her. Nothing good about scaring a girl thinking your some stalker or some shit.

im pretty sure your probably wrapped up in infatuation right now...

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

We already had that talk. She's "not sure" which means she isnt feelin it like that.

So now, I put the ground rules down.

Now its up to her how much we talk/see each other.

But for some reason I feel like I'm pushing her away more than anything, and it's a feeling I'm not used to nor one that I like.

 

[2kchevy06civic 5,000+ posts]

I catch more shit than you'll ever know. I still see my friends, but not all the time. And it catches up to me, I get *****ed at daily, and it never phases me. I'm 10x happier bullshittin with her vs hanging out with my friends for the most part.
Is she worth it? I dont know, I just layed down some ground rules and I feel like I'm going to die.

Ground rules were layed down

I wont be around those two together. Ever.

I wont call her, txt her, write her, whatever, I wont. If she wants to talk/see me, she'll call.

She cant see me every day, she gets one day a week, if she's lucky.

Right move?

sounds like a good start man. If you really told her all that and are enforcing it then you are off to a good start. I didn't want to let mine go but I had to try, it was hard as h3ll I'm not gonna lie. She came back to me though and we are way happier then we ever were the first time around. Just be prepared for one thing though because I've been hearing this from a lot of people who have been in similar situations as I. If they start doing this back and forth thing, it's not worth it. I hope that doesn't happen with mine but I'm just telling you what I've been hearing from a lot of older and wiser people then myself.

that old saying, "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me." Just hope that she isn't that kind of girl.

 

[konechiwa 10+ year member]

We already had that talk. She's "not sure" which means she isnt feelin it like that.
So now, I put the ground rules down.

Now its up to her how much we talk/see each other.

But for some reason I feel like I'm pushing her away more than anything, and it's a feeling I'm not used to nor one that I like.

by not sure did you mean:

1. "its about 1/1,000,000"

"so your saying i HAVE A CHANCE?!"

or

2. like the wedding crashers ending w/ the hot girl and owen wilson.

go to vegas and get a **********.

 

[2kchevy06civic 5,000+ posts]

We already had that talk. She's "not sure" which means she isnt feelin it like that.
So now, I put the ground rules down.

Now its up to her how much we talk/see each other.

But for some reason I feel like I'm pushing her away more than anything, and it's a feeling I'm not used to nor one that I like.

lol trust me you aren't pushing her away by not talking to her. What you are doing is giving her the space and time she needs to really think about you. If she doesn't come back to you, then you know it wouldn't have worked out and she really doesn't like you. But if she does come back then you know there is a chance. It sounds weird to cut them off completely and it's hard but it's the right choice. If you are constantly begging to come back then you are just pushing them further away.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

****.
Tell her how you ****ing feel. If she doesn't feel anything like that towards you, then do your "ground rules".

Just don't sound like a ****ing weirdo when you tell her. Nothing good about scaring a girl thinking your some stalker or some shit.

im pretty sure your probably wrapped up in infatuation right now...

I see your ninja edit. It's not some kind of stupid infatuation. We've talked regularly for over a year now, and talked daily for months.

I know her pretty **** well, I would like to think.

I've also known her since she was about 8 years old, I was friends with her brother once upon a time, been to many family gatherings with him plus spent countless hours at their house.

Her parents like me, so that is no problem.

But shit.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

by not sure did you mean:
1. "its about 1/1,000,000"

"so your saying i HAVE A CHANCE?!"

or

2. like the wedding crashers ending w/ the hot girl and owen wilson.

go to vegas and get a **********.

Not sure as in I'm not sure if she's afraid she'll hurt my feelings, or if she just doesnt know what to think.

As it stands right now, she does not want to be with me. She wants me to be her "bff" and be her little ***** pretty much. You know, the guy who is always there, never complains, and is always nice.

I'm always that guy, and I normally dont mind one bit. This time I do.

 

[konechiwa 10+ year member]

I see your ninja edit. It's not some kind of stupid infatuation. We've talked regularly for over a year now, and talked daily for months.
I know her pretty **** well, I would like to think.

I've also known her since she was about 8 years old, I was friends with her brother once upon a time, been to many family gatherings with him plus spent countless hours at their house.

Her parents like me, so that is no problem.

But shit.

woah woah woah.

not fast enough i guess.

I didn't mean what your feeling isn't really a deep emotion, it just seems like you had your deep emotion, and you didn't do anything and it built up, so now it's like a infaution/creepy obsession.

I'm not saying that in a bad way. I've had the feeling before too. I know what you mean, i'm just saying that you need someway to blow off some steam. Think about something else for a while and then come back to your situation.

Not sure as in I'm not sure if she's afraid she'll hurt my feelings, or if she just doesnt know what to think.
As it stands right now, she does not want to be with me. She wants me to be her "bff" and be her little ***** pretty much. You know, the guy who is always there, never complains, and is always nice.

I'm always that guy, and I normally dont mind one bit. This time I do.

ah hah. Seems like you need to watch the movie "Just friends".

i think you should start complaining and being not nice.

what your doing isn't working i dont see why not to try.

 

[bigbowtie 10+ year member]

females dont know what they want, and 4 real theres another one out there so dont go freakin out just b cool/you and a little distant, i didnt even talk 2 my gf 2day shes my #4 for the summer btw:laugh:

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

lol trust me you aren't pushing her away by not talking to her. What you are doing is giving her the space and time she needs to really think about you. If she doesn't come back to you, then you know it wouldn't have worked out and she really doesn't like you. But if she does come back then you know there is a chance. It sounds weird to cut them off completely and it's hard but it's the right choice. If you are constantly begging to come back then you are just pushing them further away.

I'm not completely pushing her out. I'm still giving her the choice - but just that, it's now her choice not mine.

If she wants to see me or talk to me, she'll call or make arrangements, if not then oh well it wasn't something I need to worry about.

It really does **** balls to be a dick though, I can genuinely say that I am quite possibly the nicest guy in this town, no lie, or at least when it comes to most things. It hurts for her to "need" me there, and to refuse to be there.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

And earlier someone asked how old I am - I'm 21. Yes I'm young. Yes, I'm probably stupid. But I at least attempt not to go about things the wrong way and keep my cool. I've dealt with this for a little over a week and it was just time to stop it somehow.

 

[konechiwa 10+ year member]

I'm not completely pushing her out. I'm still giving her the choice - but just that, it's now her choice not mine.
If she wants to see me or talk to me, she'll call or make arrangements, if not then oh well it wasn't something I need to worry about.

It really does **** balls to be a dick though, I can genuinely say that I am quite possibly the nicest guy in this town, no lie, or at least when it comes to most things. It hurts for her to "need" me there, and to refuse to be there.

//content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif you are like me.

you need to channel your anger bro.

be a ***** to someone.

And earlier someone asked how old I am - I'm 21. Yes I'm young. Yes, I'm probably stupid. But I at least attempt not to go about things the wrong way and keep my cool. I've dealt with this for a little over a week and it was just time to stop it somehow.

your old enough to know what you want.

 

[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

So, been talkin to this girl for a while, tried to date her and got the friend thing - some of you know how it is, some of you are straight pimps and dont understand. So, anyways, back to whats happening.
A very very good friend of mine ****ed her in the past, and it seems they're starting to hang out more and more, and possibly going to start dating?

So I've seen this girl every day, literally, for months. I'm wrapped around her little finger, sad to say, and I dont know how to take it.

What are you supposed to say when someone you care about is wrapped up in one of your best friends arms?

Seriously

Someone loan me a gun?

AND YOU'RE NOT GETTING ANY FVCKING PICTURES. IF THAT MEANS THREAD FAIL, THEN SO BE IT. fegs. I figured the CAPS would help you figure out what I was saying.

There's your problem. This chick never once saw you as anything besides as a friend and she never had to worry about your acceptance of her.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

//content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif you are like me.
you need to channel your anger bro.

be a ***** to someone.

your old enough to know what you want.

I did. Last week. Some little prick that talked shit in the past, I let it go.

Get to a party, he was bein a little rough to some of the women there, and then tried to walk shoulder to shoulder with me, then preceded to talk shit.

One hitter quitter. I'll get a video next time so you people dont call me a liar ha.

I hate fighting too, I'm pretty much a ***** by most peoples terms. Only do what ya gotta do when the time comes, for me at least.

And yes, I know what I want. She's sitting at home very upset right now because of the conversation we just had. I chose to do it over the phone because if she were here and I said it, I would have broken down and given in.