Woman situation, what to do

[2kchevy06civic 5,000+ posts]

girls go for guys who are d1cks. Women who want a serious relationship go for the nice guys. Trust me.........I've been the, "nice guy," all my life.

 

[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

Personally, I don't know enough about the situation to fix it. I don't even know if it's fixable at this point. It sounds like you're in the friend zone and nothing short of a miracle will get you out of the friend zone usually.

 

[konechiwa 10+ year member]

I tried - I cant. I look at myself in a lesser manner if I'm a dick.
Seems that all of the good women go for pieces of **** and dickheads though, so maybe it's a trend I should consider more seriously

Bastards

i'm not saying have to be a dick. Just don't be a pushover. Show some backbone you know.

I was a dick for awhile. Not fun. You have to find the middle ground.

I didn't like being called an ******* everyday at school.

 

[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

girls go for guys who are d1cks. Women who want a serious relationship go for the nice guys. Trust me.........I've been the, "nice guy," all my life.

Girls don't like guys who are dicks. Girls like guys who are confident in themselves and everything they do. These people tend to be very successful in life. It just so happens that dicks portray this quality the most often.

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[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

Personally, I don't know enough about the situation to fix it. I don't even know if it's fixable at this point. It sounds like you're in the friend zone and nothing short of a miracle will get you out of the friend zone usually.

Quite true.

It's funny too - you remember the chick that was your avatar that got you so much **** and started the fanclub?

This chick reminds me of her, a lot. A tad smaller tits, everything else is the same. ***** is nicer on this one though, I will say. She's got a cute punk thing goin, but she's prep. I dunno, anyways

Any solution you think is feasible throw it out there.

At this point it might be best to walk away and forget about her. I really, really, really regret saying these words already.

 

[konechiwa 10+ year member]

Girls don't like guys who are dicks. Girls like guys who are confident in themselves and everything they do. These people tend to be very successful in life. It just so happens that dicks portray this quality the most often.
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exactly the middle ground i meant.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

Here's a good one.

So we talked about dinner one night. She's excited. I ask her where, she says wherever.

I decide on a semi-nice restaurant out of town, it's fun to go to and it's *relatively* expensive.

She says hey, I dunno that's expensive. I dont want to spend that much on dinner.

I told her it doesnt matter, it's my treat.

She gets defensive **** near, and REFUSES I repeat ABSOLUTELY REFUSES to allow me to pay for dinner.

I'm still a southern gentlemen, I cant have that.

I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T or what, shittin me

 

[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

Quite true.
It's funny too - you remember the chick that was your avatar that got you so much **** and started the fanclub?

This chick reminds me of her, a lot. A tad smaller tits, everything else is the same. ***** is nicer on this one though, I will say. She's got a cute punk thing goin, but she's prep. I dunno, anyways

Any solution you think is feasible throw it out there.

At this point it might be best to walk away and forget about her. I really, really, really regret saying these words already.

So if you are stuck in friend zone, first things first, you need to stop beating around the bush. When you talk to her again, make it known you are interested in her, but not in a creepy way mind you. Ask her on a date...No...Tell her she is going on a date with you. Don't give her an option so to say. You see what I mean here, naturally if you are telling her she is going on a date with you, it makes you appear you have a ton of confidence in yourself. An example of this would be something like finding out a day she is free and then be like "I'm going to go see such and such movie and you should come with me. It'll be lots of fun!" You get the point.

 

[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

Here's a good one.
So we talked about dinner one night. She's excited. I ask her where, she says wherever.

I decide on a semi-nice restaurant out of town, it's fun to go to and it's *relatively* expensive.

She says hey, I dunno that's expensive. I dont want to spend that much on dinner.

I told her it doesnt matter, it's my treat.

She gets defensive **** near, and REFUSES I repeat ABSOLUTELY REFUSES to allow me to pay for dinner.

I'm still a southern gentlemen, I cant have that.

I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T or what, shittin me

That's red flag for "FRIEND ZONE". You're screwed man. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

So if you are stuck in friend zone, first things first, you need to stop beating around the bush. When you talk to her again, make it known you are interested in her, but not in a creepy way mind you. Ask her on a date...No...Tell her she is going on a date with you. Don't give her an option so to say. You see what I mean here, naturally if you are telling her she is going on a date with you, it makes you appear you have a ton of confidence in yourself. An example of this would be something like finding out a day she is free and then be like "I'm going to go see such and such movie and you should come with me. It'll be lots of fun!" You get the point.

No choices eh? So what if I'm, in fact, forcing her to go because she's feel obligated?

Also, that's a bit childish sounding isnt it? ha, oh well, when all else fails stick to the basics/principles.

And I'm kinda ****ed on that, in order to do this I would have to disregard my friend who is admittedly starting to feel something for the girl, so that *****.

But **** that, if it's what has to happen, it's what has to happen.

What do you think about this. Give it a couple of weeks, maybe a month. Give her time, space, give her what she needs. See how much she calls, or how rarely I talk to her/see her, either one.

After a few weeks/a month, I then proceed to do this, giving her no option but to join me for the evening?

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

That's red flag for "FRIEND ZONE". You're screwed man. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

I was kinda scared of that as well, that's why I posted it.

I'm just gonna go shoot myself in the foot, see ya'll when I'm back with the cast.

 

[konechiwa 10+ year member]

That's red flag for "FRIEND ZONE". You're screwed man. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

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sorry grubbsy but thats funny.

I remember this time i was in canada, and their was this girl and me and my friend were hanging out with her and her friends. Her friends (at least her best friend) liked me so i told her first and she said she would give me her number if i asked.

We were all leaving the next day so i told her i'd like to talk to her and she completely blew me off.

****ing *****.

hurt for awhile. but *****es like that don't deserve to feel bad for.

 

[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

No choices eh? So what if I'm, in fact, forcing her to go because she's feel obligated?

Also, that's a bit childish sounding isnt it? ha, oh well, when all else fails stick to the basics/principles.

And I'm kinda ****ed on that, in order to do this I would have to disregard my friend who is admittedly starting to feel something for the girl, so that *****.

But **** that, if it's what has to happen, it's what has to happen.

What do you think about this. Give it a couple of weeks, maybe a month. Give her time, space, give her what she needs. See how much she calls, or how rarely I talk to her/see her, either one.

After a few weeks/a month, I then proceed to do this, giving her no option but to join me for the evening?

If she doesn't like you, then she'll just flat out say no. Another pointer, if she does go to the movie with you, as you're going into the movie theater, sit in two seats where the arm rests are up already. If she puts it down, game over.

 

[SSS 18734 5,000+ posts]

True.But

What if she never calls? If I do that - I cant be the one that calls

And also, it's very very hard for me to walk away. It is.

If she never calls, so be it. You’re not waiting for her to call, remember? And if you tell yourself you aren’t but deep down you are, you won’t get anywhere and will be so happy when she DOES call that you will turn into a ***** once again. Remember, you are rejecting her, not playing games with her.

I catch more **** than you'll ever know. I still see my friends, but not all the time. And it catches up to me, I get *****ed at daily, and it never phases me. I'm 10x happier bullshittin with her vs hanging out with my friends for the most part.
Is she worth it? I dont know, I just layed down some ground rules and I feel like I'm going to die.

Is she worth it? The answer is NO, plain and simple.

But for some reason I feel like I'm pushing her away more than anything, and it's a feeling I'm not used to nor one that I like.

Yep. There is no reason to keep her close. She is messing with your head and disrespecting you by dating your best friend. Respect yourself and push her away. You and your friend should have a chat too. It sounds like he is genuinely concerned about what you have to say. Why would you tell him it is okay to date her when it is not?

As it stands right now, she does not want to be with me. She wants me to be her "bff" and be her little ***** pretty much. You know, the guy who is always there, never complains, and is always nice. I'm always that guy, and I normally dont mind one bit. This time I do.

Good. You shouldn’t put up with that ****.

It really does **** balls to be a dick though, I can genuinely say that I am quite possibly the nicest guy in this town, no lie, or at least when it comes to most things. It hurts for her to "need" me there, and to refuse to be there.

You can reject her and still be a gentleman. There is no need to be a dick here. She clearly doesn’t “need” you if she has pushed you away.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

Some reading for after hospital :

So since I'm specifically, for sure, in the friend zone. What now? Changing that seems to be impossible from what I've seen and from what I'm hearing on here as well, so what now? I just gave her no options earlier and told her how it would be. Period.

So what do I do? Sever ties and cut my losses? **** I dont want to walk away, it's almost worth the pain to be with her...

 

[konechiwa 10+ year member]

If she doesn't like you, then she'll just flat out say no. Another pointer, if she does go to the movie with you, as you're going into the movie theater, sit in two seats where the arm rests are up already. If she puts it down, game over.

truth tb is a smart one listen to him.

 

[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

I feel you man. I used to be just like you. Zero game at all. Didn't know jack ****. I'm sure that's why 2k was laughing at me. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif

 

[babaganoush123 10+ year member]

for get about her its a waste of your time and don't do anything stupid to get arrested please its not worth it.

 

[konechiwa 10+ year member]

for get about her its a waste of your time and don't do anything stupid to get arrested please its not worth it.

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i hope we actually get to see a resolution to this. It seems interesting enough to warrant a finale.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

If she never calls, so be it. You’re not waiting for her to call, remember? And if you tell yourself you aren’t but deep down you are, you won’t get anywhere and will be so happy when she DOES call that you will turn into a ***** once again. Remember, you are rejecting her, not playing games with her.



Is she worth it? The answer is NO, plain and simple.

Yep. There is no reason to keep her close. She is messing with your head and disrespecting you by dating your best friend. Respect yourself and push her away. You and your friend should have a chat too. It sounds like he is genuinely concerned about what you have to say. Why would you tell him it is okay to date her when it is not?

Good. You shouldn’t put up with that ****.

You can reject her and still be a gentleman. There is no need to be a dick here. She clearly doesn’t “need” you if she has pushed you away.

I'll leave this one short. I said it was okay because it was a situation where I could tell he wanted to, but I was getting in the way. I will NOT **** block a friend. Before I ever made this thread, I was almost certain I was ****ed anyways. Now I know it and I'm just looking for a way to fix it. If I cant, oh well. I'll do what I gotta do and find me a new *****