Woman situation, what to do

[EGGmane 10+ year member]

You're putting the pussy on a pedestal

"Why does everyone keep saying that!?"

But yeh, that's pretty much what he is doing.

 

[SilverSquared 10+ year member]

I say quit wasting time, energy, money, and emotion on her.

She's reading you like a BOOK. She knows you want her. She knows you'd lick dog shit off her feet. She knows no matter what she does, you'll be there to console her. Why? ITs what SHE wants. She's got power over you, and she'll keep it that way as long as she can.

Tell her straight....you want to be in a relationship with her because this friendship is getting deep. If she stumbles, or denies, move along little fishy. Many MANY more gallons of sloppy moisture to swim in...

 

[cpierce 5,000+ posts]

Brah, you wouldn't have this problem if you drove a JEEP //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/fyi.gif.9f1f679348da7204ce960cfc74bca8e0.gif

 

[808_bass 10+ year member]

maybe you should stop being the little shoulder to cry on. make her stand on her own to make a point that you want to be with her. when she asks why you are not there for her 24/7, tell her, instead of making her play the guessing game.

 

[thatkidbob 10+ year member]

Dude... you're completely screwed. Number one, you don't want to date a chick that one of your friends has already f'ed. Maybe you can smash her too... but you don't want to date that. Its gonna create all kinds of problems down the road.

Number two... a girl should never have you wrapped around her finger unless you've been together for a significant period of time, and even then she shouldn't be able to walk on you. Girls don't like guys they can walk on.

You my friend, are being walked on.

Here's the solution... i want you to hang out with the guys you know that get the most @ss. If you don't know guys like this, meet some. If the way you dress now isn't cool, change the way you dress. Basically, i want you to become an entirely different person like a f*cking caterpillar emerging from the cocoon as a butterfly. I want you in bars and clubs at least 2 nights a week... And I want you approaching chicks... If you aren't getting *** within 3 months of that then you're probably beyond help.

oh, and don't be a ***** and tell your friend and the chick about how you feel... it's just gonna make you look like a dumb@ss.

edit: and i want you to watch swingers. You'll probably figure out which character you most resemble really quickly. just a hint... it ain't vince vaughn.

 

[DDSC 10+ year member]

maybe you should stop being the little shoulder to cry on. make her stand on her own to make a point that you want to be with her. when she asks why you are not there for her 24/7 tell her you dont want to have the answers to her problems anymore, you want to be the solution and if she dosnt want that then your not the answer, so tell her to stop bringing you all her baggage

fixed

 

[kovemaster559 5,000+ posts]

So, been talkin to this girl for a while, tried to date her and got the friend thing - some of you know how it is, some of you are straight pimps and dont understand. So, anyways, back to whats happening.
A very very good friend of mine ****ed her in the past, and it seems they're starting to hang out more and more, and possibly going to start dating?

So I've seen this girl every day, literally, for months. I'm wrapped around her little finger, sad to say, and I dont know how to take it.

What are you supposed to say when someone you care about is wrapped up in one of your best friends arms?

Seriously

Someone loan me a gun?

AND YOU'RE NOT GETTING ANY FVCKING PICTURES. IF THAT MEANS THREAD FAIL, THEN SO BE IT. fegs. I figured the CAPS would help you figure out what I was saying.

here comes my dr. phil. tell her how you fell about her. bishes like that stuff!

she might fall for it and be like ahhhhhhhhhwwwwwwwwww. or she might look at you like wtf i dont like you that way. either way if you dont have a s\chance in hell just do what i said. you dont have nothing to lose!

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PICS PLEASE!

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

Pictures might come, but highly, HIGHLY doubtful. I will say that because I have respect for her

She did **** him, but it was just one of those things, neither one has any attachments because of it.

Anyways, I'm about to tell her what it is. She's not going to be here 6-7 days a week anymore.

She gets 1 day.

And I am about to change who I am, kinda. I normally wear the typical polos, and I'm going to all button ups - they just look nicer. I'm gettin started on my shit, and I'm about to start a process of getting a little ripped, so to speak. I've got a friend's father as my personal trainer, he's not charging me any fees, and he's happy to go every day with me.

And you'll have to excuse me posting this on a forum. I dont believe in it, I think it's stupid in fact. However - in this situation a completely outside view is probably the best.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

But honestly - is it the right thing to cut her off?

I tried, and couldnt do it. I know I'll get flamed for this, but whatever.

I tried a few days to walk out, she started bawling, and I couldnt help but go back in there and make it right, it's just who I am. So yes, she probably knows she has me right where she wants me...

 

[SSS 18734 5,000+ posts]

You want more than friendship with her. She does not. If you're not getting what you want from her, there is no need to hang out with her (especially her coming over with your best friend - WTF?) She clearly can't provide you with what you want, so you should reject her. None of this friends nonsense. By staying friends, she wins and you lose. She'll feel perfectly happy with your friend because if it doesn't work out, she can just come back to good old reliable you (i.e. good old boring, pushover you)! Do you REALLY want to put up with that? Don't you have more important matters to deal with other than waiting for her to come around and trying to convince her to come back to you?

You can NEVER convince a woman to date you. She has to make that decision on her own. And she will be far more likely to make that decision after a few months of no contact. By rejecting her, you will have sparked her interest and curiosity, as well as her respect for you. Not to mention you will constantly be on her mind, especially if she breaks down in tears when you try to leave.

This probably isn't going to work out in your favor for a while, but pushing her away and moving on with your life is the best way to get her back into your life in the future. But don't prioritize her in your life. Prioritize yourself instead. She may come back, she may not. But if you move on with your life, you will be in a good situation to deal with it regardless.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

True.

But

What if she never calls? If I do that - I cant be the one that calls

And also, it's very very hard for me to walk away. It is.

 

[Fusion_FREAK 10+ year member]

You need to tell her how you feel, and you fvcked up by telling your friend to go for it. If he knew how you felt about her, and still went for it, he's a total douche bag.

If you don't sit and talk with her about it, you're going to lose one or both of them as friends. I had the same thing happen to me. I was dating a girl who I was completely obsessed with. I knew her for about a year before I let her know how I felt. Before we dated, I was just like you, talked and spent time with her every single day and shit, havinh 3 hour conversations on the phone and all that gay stuff.

Then she dumps me and goes out with my best friend. My best friend knew how I felt about her, and he asked me one day if it was okay to date her, told him absolutely not, and it would be a very big dick move to date her. Well, they've been dating for about 6 months now, and I no longer talk to or see them at all. If she left him, and wanted to get back together tonight, I'd tell her to go fvck herself, being my view on her is being a dirty ****.

Just cut your loses before you lose a best friend, and a broken heart man, there's other girls out there who will feel the same way about you as you do them.

 

[pcolasfinest 10+ year member]

You want more than friendship with her. She does not. If you're not getting what you want from her, there is no need to hang out with her (especially her coming over with your best friend - WTF?) She clearly can't provide you with what you want, so you should reject her. None of this friends nonsense. By staying friends, she wins and you lose. She'll feel perfectly happy with your friend because if it doesn't work out, she can just come back to good old reliable you (i.e. good old boring, pushover you)! Do you REALLY want to put up with that? Don't you have more important matters to deal with other than waiting for her to come around and trying to convince her to come back to you?
You can NEVER convince a woman to date you. She has to make that decision on her own. And she will be far more likely to make that decision after a few months of no contact. By rejecting her, you will have sparked her interest and curiosity, as well as her respect for you. Not to mention you will constantly be on her mind, especially if she breaks down in tears when you try to leave.

This probably isn't going to work out in your favor for a while, but pushing her away and moving on with your life is the best way to get her back into your life in the future. But don't prioritize her in your life. Prioritize yourself instead. She may come back, she may not. But if you move on with your life, you will be in a good situation to deal with it regardless.

this guy has a good point. Unfortunatly your gonna have to do something to this effect.

 

[bass-aholic 10+ year member]

Shes ****ing with your head. Get out now before it kills you.

 

[2kchevy06civic 5,000+ posts]

first of all your first mistake was telling your friend it was ok whenever you truly feel like it's not. I would be EXTREMELY pissed off if one of my friends dated the girl I've been seeing for near 9 months. If I ever found out any of them did anything with her or was talking to her I would write them off as a friend no more and probably beat their a55.

Seriously though dude, is she really worth the heartache? I just recently had one and I've gone back to her but the heartache was/is worth it because I really do love her. Everyone thinks I'm a fool for doing it but what can I say I love the girl. So you have to ask yourself is she TRULY worth the heartache? If you can say yes without any doubts then perhaps stay close to her in case she changes her mind otherwise I'd walk away and move on. Trust me, when a girl makes up her mind it's hard to change it. Perhaps if she dates this guy and you aren't around(by this I mean not talking to her, cutting her off completely) then she might realize what she had and realize she misses it.