That sounds like an excellent plan, that way you can always work shitty jobs and never get anywhere in your life. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif
Employers can tell you what to do because you WORK FOR THEM. Just think about that for a second, they don't work for you.... YOU WORK FOR THEM.
Now, I do understand that a lot of places don't appreciate good workers, that is just a bad job but I think there is a point where some thing become unacceptable.
Think about it like this, you need to get new windows put into your house before winter. You hire some guys to come and do it. You have 1 month to install the windows it before it is going to snow and freeze and be all sorts of hell. It takes about 1 month to install them normally, so you should be perfectly ok on the time. You are also paying the guys by the day to do the job. They come and work and it takes them 2 months to do the job. Why, because when you aren't home they are sniffing your wife/girlfriends panties and playing on the computer. So, not only does the job not get done by the time it should have you paid them pretty much to play on the internet and get their jollies on your girls snatch smell.
Anyway, I think that you are misguided on your ideas however. Most jobs that pay well are going to be demanding and harder work, that just comes with the pay increase. I guess to some that would come as being 'bossy' or what have you. It is also not true that if you 'respect' them they will respect you. This is dead wrong. We do everything we can humanly do to make things great for our employees and all some of them do is slap us in the face.
I think you missed my point. A. I am self employed. B. I worked the same $60k job for almost 9 years and realized no matter how much of yourself you put into your job it will always be for someone elses benefit, and someone else will dictate how much money you can make. If you cant keep your people off the internet, then that is a reflection of your leadership skills. Maybe they dont respect you, maybe they dont take you seriously,or maybe they dont care about there jobs. Whatever the reason it is your job to motivate them and if you cant motivate them replace them. I did hire some guys to put windows in over the summer, and the job was completed on time and at the price agreed upon. If I would have hired 5 drunks and trusted them to do the job with a winter deadline then i would have been an idiot for getting inferior personel to do the job. I can see this from your point of view, I subcontract some jobs out from time to time and if my contactor doesn't do the job in a timey fashion then it hurts my business.