Punishment too hard?

[twisztdauthorit 10+ year member]

the kid has straight d's ? thats a little different. I thought u cant play sports if your grades are lower than a c- ? or is that only private schools?

tell him to strive for better grades and if he can, reward him.

But almost all d's, ive heard of some teachers that give you a c just for showing up to class everyday on time =/

 

[Macklessdaddy 10+ year member]

You ever heard of a figure of speech? If you honestly think that I would kill them you need to get your head on straight. Obviously I wouldn't kill them, I'd more or less just ***** and moan about it and more than anything make their lives completely miserable. I hope he does the same to you. Taking things he likes away from him isn't necessarily going to make him start telling the truth. You obviously have let it go too far.
So fine don't take my advice. Tell your kid he can't play football. See how well that works out for your household. You honestly want a pissed off 17 year old wandering around your house with nothing to do?

And I'm curious why did you make this thread when everyone who has disagreed with you you have disregarded and contradicted? If you already knew the answer what was the point? If the kid gets D's he shouldn't be allowed to play football anyway. When I went to High School (which wasn't all that long ago) we had to sustain AT LEAST a C average in order to play sports... Then again anything less than 69 was failing at my school.

What more could he need? How about excercise? Competition? A rush? ANYTHING? If you honestly think a 17 year-old is happy with food, clothes, and a location then you need to meet the real world.

He doesn't scare me:fyi: I'm the first to admit I made some bad decisions regarding him but now I'm trying

 

[dumple 5,000+ posts]

Sorry, but that is an excessively false statement. Football kids were some of the absolute (dumbest) and worst acting kids i've EVER met. They all seem to think that the coach is their buddy so they are always trying to get coaches to get them out of classes, and every time they get in trouble the coach just goes and gets them out of it so they can keep playing. Total bullshit, but whatever.

did u get picked on alot?

 

[Macklessdaddy 10+ year member]

Do you currently have his computer in your possession?

yeah

 

[BoomBoomBoy 10+ year member]

yeah

Good for you. And you're right, it's never to late. If it doesn't work out at least you can say you tried.

 

[Macklessdaddy 10+ year member]

Well if a computer is required for course work the father could supervise the homework so the son doesn't fukk off and game. The kids deserves a smack down of some sort.
As long as he lives under the parent's roof, he abides by their rules....PERIOD!

Otherwise, kick his *** out and let him see how the real world works. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

You must be an adult as I'm starting to figure out some of these posters are in high school themselves.

 

[funkyab 10+ year member]

You must be an adult as I'm starting to figure out some of these posters are in high school themselves.

There was a thread a while back where members were posting how old they are.

Seemes as though many of the ultra regular posters were very young.

 

[BoomBoomBoy 10+ year member]

You must be an adult as I'm starting to figure out some of these posters are in high school themselves.

I've seen far too many parents try and be their childs friend rather than their parent.

You're doing the right thing and you should feel good about your effort.

 

[Macklessdaddy 10+ year member]

There was a thread a while back where members were posting how old they are. Seemes as though many of the ultra regular posters were very young.

Funny you say that as I was 1 of the people who made the thread,I know someone made 1 later though

 

[Speedbump3]

I say go fuck his mother. That will teach him!

 

[andrewmoore13 10+ year member]

I'm not in High School but regardless you don't take away positive activities that induce hard work, leadership, and comradeship. Its counter-productive.

I agree with the limiting the computer to certain hours. I also think it's pointless to punish the kid for trying to get away with keeping the computer. You forgot to ask him for it. That's your fault. The fact that he didn't bring it to you is irrelevant. It is your job to enforce the punishment. I would NEVER just wave a white flag and hand over something like that. If my Dad came to me repeatedly and asked me to give it back, would I back talk him? No way. If i fuvk up and get punished that's my fault. But you can't blame him for your mistakes either.

Him disappearing for the night is unacceptable. You should have called the police and told them to pick his *** up and bring him back home in the backseat of the cruiser. That would scare the shit out of him. If not then he's a lost cause and you tried.

 

[miker 5,000+ posts]

I wouldn't listen to some of the people here... You're a parent and need to act like a parent.

Anything kind of punishment you give him he will likely get over, if he drives I would say take away the keys and license.. That would really upset me I know...

 

[Macklessdaddy 10+ year member]

I've seen far too many parents try and be their childs friend rather than their parent.
You're doing the right thing and you should feel good about your effort.

"raises hand"i'm guilty

 

[scarolinablazin 10+ year member]

if you want to let him play football again simply give him a way of earning it back. that way you don`t look like you're being a softie or a pushover. if he really wants to play he`ll be willing to earn it. as for the sneaking out try making him do yard work or something you know he hates doing. whooping his *** will solve nothing as once the whooping is over it's over. but the thought of have to scrub the toilets with a toothbrush everytime he wants to break the rules may cause a bit of second thought.

 

[andrewmoore13 10+ year member]

Edit: ^^ I like that idea. Don't just ban him from playing forever.

"raises hand"i'm guilty

You don't necessarily need to be his friend. But as I have said football is a positive experience and he will use some of things he picks up on the field in his life after school.

I am a far better person because of the sports I played, not to mention the people I met because of the sports I played.