i have not seen/talk to my dad in 20 years

[BigSix 10+ year member]

You should call him and ask him where do I get all my gayness from......lemme know what he says......

 

[audioholic 5,000+ posts]

i will read every post even yours.

My bad, I didnt mean to sound tripe. I just meant to say you are the only one here who will have to live with your decision, so our comments are flippant at best. Good luck with this man.

 

[MONSONwarrior Premium Member]

I'm 17 and haven't seen my dad in 3 years.. but that's because he had a heart attack at 49 and passed away..

I say go for it, only have one dad.

 

[1rockford1 5,000+ posts]

I'm 17 and haven't seen my dad in 3 years.. but that's because he had a heart attack at 49 and passed away..
I say go for it, only have one dad.

im sorry about your dad.

 

[Louisiana_CRX 5,000+ posts]

I'm 17 and haven't seen my dad in 3 years.. but that's because he had a heart attack at 49 and passed away..
I say go for it, only have one dad.

you never know Sorry about your loss...

 

[MONSONwarrior Premium Member]

im sorry about your dad.

you never know Sorry about your loss...

thanks, but just take advantage while you can.

 

[audioholic 5,000+ posts]

thanks, but just take advantage while you can.

I agree, to an extent. I didnt see my father for many years when I was young. That changed when I turned 18. And I watched him take his dying breath in front of me a little over 2 years ago. So I understand not missing an opportunity to make up for lost time. But there's also validity to say some parents who abandon their kids will not improve the child's life by coming back into it. That's something that must be decided on a case by case basis.

 

[MONSONwarrior Premium Member]

I agree, to an extent. I didnt see my father for many years when I was young. That changed when I turned 18. And I watched him take his dying breath in front of my a little over 2 years ago. So I understand not missing an opportunity to make up for lost time. But there's also validity to say some parents who abandon their kids will not improve the child's life by coming back into it. That's something that must be decided on a case by case basis.

Yeah, I get what you mean. If you talked to him and he wants back into your life, try it, just keep your guard up.

 

[-01limited- 10+ year member]

Although I never seen my real dad after I was young, I had a step dad that took care of me until we moved up here to Indiana, then I just got to see my stepdad every summer. But I consider him my father.

 

[audioholic 5,000+ posts]

Although I never seen my real dad after I was young, I had a step dad that took care of me until we moved up here to Indiana, then I just got to see my stepdad every summer. But I consider him my father.

I glad you see it that way. IMO someone who steps in to be a dad is highly respectful, and shows a high degree of love for the child. You and he are both lucky.

 

[connersdad19 10+ year member]

i think your right me adding another issue i really dont need somthing that can effect me in a bad way. i really dont wana talk to him cuz i just dont know what to say. i dont wana call and just get nasty even though i have a right to. u know how they say u should respect your mom and dad well i think i dont have to follow that for my dad.

That is exaclty what i did. I was pissed. I had a right to be and so do you. My biological father told me that he expected me to act that way. I am more calm now after hearing things from his side though. Another way that I looked at it was people make mistakes big or small but in the end they know when they have fvcked it up. Its all up to you though and I wish you the best of luck.

Although I never seen my real dad after I was young, I had a step dad that took care of me until we moved up here to Indiana, then I just got to see my stepdad every summer. But I consider him my father.

Same for me. My stepfather was my real father no way around that as he had been in my life for 20 plus years until he passed in 2008. I do not call my biological father dad or anything i call him by his first name and that will never change. I feel that the word father and dad are very heavy words. IMO.

I glad you see it that way. IMO someone who steps in to be a dad is highly respectful, and shows a high degree of love for the child. You and he are both lucky.

I agree.

 

[Traks 10+ year member]

Just do whatever feels best for you. As a father myself I never understood how a father can walk on on his kids no matter the situation. My ex tried to hide and keep my son from me. I was not even allowed to talk to him on the phone. Alot of hard work,money and time (almost a year) I ended up with full custody of him. Point being nothing will keep me from seeing my kids.

 

[audioholic 5,000+ posts]

Just do whatever feels best for you. As a father myself I never understood how a father can walk on on his kids no matter the situation. My ex tried to hide and keep my son from me. I was not even allowed to talk to him on the phone. Alot of hard work,money and time (almost a year) I ended up with full custody of him. Point being nothing will keep me from seeing my kids.

That's because you have integrity not everybody does. I salute you.

 

[audioholic 5,000+ posts]

dbl post

 

[MisterDeadeye 10+ year member]

If I were in your situation, I wouldn't talk to him. There's a difference between parents leaving from death and them leaving from their own issues.