Has anyone here dealt with depression?

[LazyRider 10+ year member]

Deep seeded depression takes years bro...years and help from friends/family and get yourself a therapist...you don't have to stick with one try one out see how you do and try others if it's not working well enough. What do you want in life, what will make you happy? Ask yourself that. Once you've found an answer create small goals to work towards those things...you have to work on those goals everyday straight for at least a month for it to become habitual. Six months till you start feeling better about your life if you are capable of sticking to your goals everyday. Make no mistake though it's the hardest struggle out there, depression is a psychological disease, those are worse than physical diseases. Learn the warning signs of what makes you depressed, develop coping methods (smoking can be one of them), however you'll need a multitude of coping mechanisms for a while. Exercise is a really good one try to exercise 5 times a week. Read up on coping mechanisms and goal achievement. Hope that helps a little stay strong brother when the light comes it's far more powerful than the darkness.
P.S. I've made strides but I still suffer.

Ummm wtf? Go tell some kids in a terminal ward "hey I know you have cancer and live in aching pain every day but at least you don't suffer from depression". One of the dumbest things I've ever read.

 

[LazyRider 10+ year member]

And OP if you don't mind me asking, what's going on in your life that's causing your depression?

 

[BlactimusCrime 10+ year member]

Bass bro, you need more bass in your life...

but seriously, i think ive teetered on the brink of depression before, and good friends, family, and chill social gatherings helped me. Eliminate stressors, like bad relationships, working out helps me relieve stress, and so do hobbies.

 

[subzero 5,000+ posts]

Like on a serious note...what did you do to over come it?
I'm going to the hospital tonight again for the second time in 3 months. Was prescribed anti-depressants and seroquel the first time i went in. was also in a psych ward for 3 days...yet still didnt help yo. I dont know what else to do,seriously.

If anyone has dealt with it or is dealing with it. What helps you?

i have deppression and bi polar issues. and I am probably skitzo, but what helps me is staying involved with the things that make me happy and help keep my conciouns clear. What also helps me is being in a relationship. My girl is like my life saving safe house. She keeps my mind clear about thats inportant. The psych ward is an option if you are pysically causing harm to yourself and that becomes and obsession. For a while I used to walk the streets paraniod. thinking or dying and how people would react to my death and then I would fear death and freeze at every blind corner. The imagination can drive a man nuts.

i smoke to escape.
try it, it actually helps.

Smoking weeds does not help if your truely deppressed. I triggers extreme paranioa.Deppression is a reality check. You only get better when your reality gets better. ARe you worried about something? Could be any trigger. I could name hundreds of things I worry about, but I dont want to add to your issues.

 

[Mookie 10+ year member]

I dont smoke weed though man. was really never into it...i smoke here and there but honestly it just makes me think more.

Your def not smoking enough then.

Go chase women, get yer cake up, lift weights to make yer self feel better about yourself. I thought I had depression and I started doing those things. I really had nothin wrong with me at all. If your thinking to much then its not depression, its pry yer aneixty. Get on some xanax or something.

 

[benzmansl65amg 10+ year member]

Talk to a doctor see a therapist get help man take care of yourself. God Bless.

 

[AATorres28 10+ year member]

About 6 years ago I lost the woman who helped raise me and at times showed she loved me more than my real mom. At the same time my ex was cheating on me. That by no means is the same as what you're going through, but it was my personal hell. The way I got through it was though immersing myself in the bible. Sounds unbelievable but it's helped me. Read!! Read and pray for peace in your heart, strength to keep going, patience that it'll get better, and pray for faith that god will help. Remember this, as gods children he wants us to succeed and be happy. With that being said, it all happens in his (god's) time. Please be patient and have faith. I read your quote " you told me god..." and I understand. You will be in my prayers and I'm hoping things will get better soon.

Quick suggestion, read the book of Job. That truly helped me. God bless you

 

[Germ305 10+ year member]

Torres you seem like an awesome guy and no offense...if you couldnt tell by my sig i dont believe in god.

But on a sidenote...I got meds prescribed to me and i have to make a follow up appt. for a psychiatrist.

 

[AATorres28 10+ year member]

Thanks and No offense taken bud, was just offering some help. Glad to hear about your developments. I wish u the best and keep us posted!

 

[tpmeredith 10+ year member]

Seems like a lot of disinformation here from a lot of people who have never even taken a intro to psych class. (There is some good advice but a lot of misinformation like I said). So lets go through.

Deep seeded depression takes years bro...years and help from friends/family and get yourself a therapist...you don't have to stick with one try one out see how you do and try others if it's not working well enough. What do you want in life, what will make you happy? Ask yourself that. Once you've found an answer create small goals to work towards those things...you have to work on those goals everyday straight for at least a month for it to become habitual. Six months till you start feeling better about your life if you are capable of sticking to your goals everyday. Make no mistake though it's the hardest struggle out there, depression is a psychological disease, those are worse than physical diseases. Learn the warning signs of what makes you depressed, develop coping methods (smoking can be one of them), however you'll need a multitude of coping mechanisms for a while. Exercise is a really good one try to exercise 5 times a week. Read up on coping mechanisms and goal achievement. Hope that helps a little stay strong brother when the light comes it's far more powerful than the darkness.
P.S. I've made strides but I still suffer.

I agree it can take years, however tendenancy for episodes depression in a lot of people will never go away completely, does that mean you'll be depressed your whole life? Not at all, you can be happy for years, however for seemingly no reason you can experience another depressive stage. Depression is NOT Something that is responsible from an environmental trigger, as that is not the true definition of depression.

Most people with age will experience less and lighter episodes and it MAY go away completely, as it's different person to person.

However, depression while it is a "Psychological Disorder", it is also a physical issue in the brain. Most (Not all however) scientists today agree that most (again not all) depression cases are results of chemical imbalances.

Again, smoking, drinking, or any recreational drug is a bad idea for anyone experiencing psychological distress, as EVERYONE reacts differently and it takes a professional to know where to even begin trying to medicate the issue.

Proper diet and excercise go a long way. Voulenteer at a soup kitchen or otherwise helping pathetic unfortunates. If you drink alcohol or do any depressents/narcotics cut that out. Hang around positive people.
Last resort would be to medicate IMO. I've seen too many good friends and family go that route and it's basically a chemical lobotomy. Also pro-tip if you're on SSRIs or other psych meds don't even think about stopping abruptly. Most need MINIMUM 6 month detox to do it safely without risking a psychotic break.

I agree with pretty much all of this, however I do think medicine combined with a good psychologist/psychiatrist can be much more effective than either alone. I don't think medicine is a long term solution at all and the goal of any good doctor should be (if possible and not too severe) to be able to get their patient living without the need for medicine on a day to day basis. However if an episode reoccurs it may be necessary to be on medicine again until it's over.

I quoted this to speak on it...I stopped abruptly because i never had a follow up appt. after being in the ward for 3 days it was like a wake up call to me. i took the meds..not all of it because i was told from one of my uncles who is a psychologist that once i feel better stop taking it because it would make me mental...i was good for about a month or so but lately the last 2 weeks have be a living nightmare that i wish i could escape from.
What i am hoping for tonight is just for the doctor to prescribe me the meds again but this time have a follow up appt and keep prescribing me the meds until i really am better.

Before i went in the first time i was doing 12 packs or bottles of bacardi in an hour...daily...after they took my blood they noticed i had a real low white blood cell count due to the drinking...but i am happy to say i have been sober now for a good 3 months.

Again good that you're sober //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

Just gotta stay positive and be around positive people
My sister is prescribed to anti-depressants but she can't seem to get off them

Best advice I can give is stick to close friends, dig deeper into car audio, have people to support you and maybe find a second hobby like weight lifting; exercise seems to go a long way with a lot of people I talk to

Ummm wtf? Go tell some kids in a terminal ward "hey I know you have cancer and live in aching pain every day but at least you don't suffer from depression". One of the dumbest things I've ever read.

Everyone in those situations have problems, how do you compare one persons suffering to another? Pain is in the brain, as well as depression, anxiety disorders, schizophrenia. Hell many PSYCHOLOGICAL disorders result in real pain for no physical reason where the pain is located.

Your def not smoking enough then.
Go chase women, get yer cake up, lift weights to make yer self feel better about yourself. I thought I had depression and I started doing those things. I really had nothin wrong with me at all. If your thinking to much then its not depression, its pry yer aneixty. Get on some xanax or something.

Really, more drug speak?

Look, before I even begin this rant I'll admit, I used to smoke a lot of weed and experimented with other things. However, the fact remains that pot IS a depressant. It can LEAD to episodes of psychosis, especially in individuals who are already have a disposition to it or depression.

Really, you're telling him to get prescribed a drug like xanax to get out depression based on your diagnosis of an anxiety disorder?

I'll admit, I'm no psychologist/psychiatrist. However it is my major and I'm almost done with undergrad, (Again, nothing to brag about as I've barely scratched the surface)

What this guy needs is PROFESSIONAL advice, not advice of people trying to get him high.

Take it from me, (The only one in my family who hasn't yet been on anti-depressants), If you're in a depressed stage and you're anything like me, weed, xanax, and any other recreational drug will probably not help and possibly exacerbate it.

 

[Suicide Bobb 5,000+ posts]

I've never been depressed, and I'm assuming it's a symptom that one is born with or is rooted in their mind. I'm not going to act like I know how you feel, because I don't. I have never even experienced depression, I have only had maybe a few depressing moments in my life.

I do know at least why I am as happy as I am though...It sounds way too simple and easy, and for me it is. I literally just don't let anything get to me, I don't EVER focus on anything negative, and I CONSTANTLY tell myself that I love my life. Whether or not it's true, if you continue to tell yourself that your life is awesome, you will inevitably convince yourself that that's the truth.

Another thing that helps me is that I have something to look forward to in the future. Two things...when I graduate college, I get what's leftover of what my grandma saved up for my college fund, and I will immediately take that money and buy my dream car (VW R32, MK4). Second, I WILL become the CEO/President of a well-known company. If I set myself to achieve that goal, I will stop at nothing to make that happen.

Finally...my understanding and belief in karma (not in a religious sense, but in the sense that with every action there is an equal and opposite reaction) helps keep me stable when life gets tough. It can also lessen the impact of good things in life, it all depends on how you view it. I believe 100% that if when something goes terribly, something soon will go well. This has proved true in every single aspect of my life, never failed. I mean, think about it. Do you really think that billionaires have a life that is better than yours? Do you really think Tom Cruise has a better life than yours? Everyone has positives and cons that are deep rooted into their bodies from birth, such as looks, personality, and skills. Find someone that is really good looking, chances are that they will either have a terrible personality, virtually no physical/mental skills, or they experience bad luck frequently. Everything evens out. It's quite a concept to wrap your mind around, but it's so simple at the same time. You can play around with it, make your mind think that because something bad happened, something good is soon going to happen. Always have that mentality, and you can survive some (but not all) really bad situations.

Hope that makes sense. If it doesn't, add me as a friend here and we can chat via PM sometime.

 

[disturbed471985 5,000+ posts]

Germ U and me must be in the same row boat. I have been depressed for years and roughly 3 years ago I had a mental breakdown and starting cutting my wrist just to feel something. I also spent 3 stints in my local hospitals crazy ward. Which really woke me up but at the same time it made things worse. All I could say to myself was am I really this messed up? Why am I even living (I was going through some very serious mental issues) I mean I felt like I was in Hell and death would just be a release from this Hell. Am I better nope far from it but I just keep telling myself there is a reason you are going through this and all I can do is ride it out. As far as what else has helped is my meds I am on seroquel and xanax and without these meds I would be locked away as we speak. I know its hard man and I know it feels like no one even has the slightest idea of how you really feel but you got to remember this there are people who love you and that alone is a reason to survive. I have been diagnosed with depression and agoraphobia.

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[Suicide Bobb 5,000+ posts]

It's hard to be depressed when even people you've never met before, i.e. e-friends, care about you and are here to support you //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[disturbed471985 5,000+ posts]

^^ true but in my case (I would I guess classify as a severe case) I could not see love or friendship all I could see is pain and hate. It was like I had blinders on and all I could see was the worst. To this day I am still far from I guess you would say normal I have ZERO friends and to be truthful I have never had a friend and I am 26. It's sad I guess you could say but it's honest. Germ stick to the meds they can never make you feel like you think you should feel but they do and will provide you time to figure it out on your own..

 

[tpmeredith 10+ year member]

It's hard to be depressed when even people you've never met before, i.e. e-friends, care about you and are here to support you //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

Honestly whenever I've experienced depression that thought made me feel worse. I know people said it cause they cared but in my mind it was like I was letting everyone down.

Honestly though, I'm a little bit hypocritical when saying go to a professional and if they prescribe medicine take it. Personally in the past I came close to the edge and never sought help, have actually been rather secretive about it. Recently actually went to my first psychiatrist appointment (not for depression though, didnt even mention my past issues with it) and they gave me adderall, I'll be the one to dog on serious drugs (and adderall being an amphetamine is a serious drug), however whatever gets me through college / hopefully grade school with good grades... I'm not gonna complain about

Usually when I start going down a new episode I'll try to be more sociable with friends to outweigh it and either pickup a new hobby or revive an old one. When it comes to depression though, I'm way too stubborn about talking to anyone about it when I'm down or even medicine for myself in general. Kind've goes along with my psych major I think, wishing to control myself as much as possible.

Ya bob, I mean it's hard to describe, and fortunate to not have experienced it. Going through a depressive stage you have obvious issues like sadness and lack of diet. However I would sleep for most of the day when I was going through episodes (I can lucid dream like twice a week typically, so it was appealing).

A lot of it takes introspection either by yourself, with friends, or a psychiatrist/psychologist. Look not only at what might be 'causing' the symptoms, but look at what might aggrovate them. As I said earlier, I found early on that when I started to experience an episode, I'd want to put lame sad music on, which I would find comfort in even though it brought you down more. Anything really, cutting can exacerbate it (I've never really taken that route personally)

Kind've glad to see a bit of serious responses though, when I saw this thread on here honestly I was like "Oh no I hope this doesn't get trolled"