Woman situation, what to do

[TurdFergueson2 5,000+ posts]

First off, telling a girl how you feel automatically puts you at a disadvantage over them. They control the situation and they now have your balls in their hands (figuratively of course, otherwise you wouldn't have much of a problem at all //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif ). Remember, women prefer a challenge and they no longer have that with you if you tell them you like them. Rather than tell them how you feel, show them how you feel!!! Take them on a date, make a move and kiss her, get her back to your place, etc, etc. If she likes you enough to say she likes you back, then she's going to approve of you making moves on her. But if she's on the border line, then she may very well say no to you liking her.

Thus my be prepared to never talk to them again thing. I guess it's how I do. I might have strong feelings for a chick, but never tell her. But when I do, I say it more like a statement and am done with it more than sitting there waiting to hear their feelings. So in theory, you are not doing anything other than letting her know you got deep feelings for her and that's that.

X2 on making a move though. No woman that's a jaeger Bomb away from getting banged should be saying I love you to him without getting done up. Piped down if you will.......

Next time you talk to her, say you got a date with some skank you met off the internet or something. See how she takes it. If she's not happy for you, run the script on her. May backfire, may not.

Pix would make my advice a lot easier though.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

I'm more than sure that pictures would make the world much easier for everyone

Anywho, I've tried the short answers. I did do that. She just pouted and tried to walk up and hold my hand or to be held or something, just tried to get closer. If I ignore her from that point, she'll stay around there for a minute or two, and then kinda linger away, but she comes back in a relatively quick manner.

She'll pout though, and eventually I just make her laugh and we chill. I dont know.

I'm awake bishes

 

[tsenfw 10+ year member]

Any progress?

Some good advice in here, follow it. You need to display some alpha male characteristics asap (confident, successful, don't take no ****).

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

This is easy. **** it up and move on. You'll find someone else who will fall for you. Cut the amount of time you see this girl too. She wants to be friends with you? Sure, no problem, but make sure its on your time, not hers.
Be a man. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

Best advice I have seen. But why the best advice is so hard to take, I'll never get. I think it has a lot to do with some people's (including my own) avoidance of pain. They will take 1 pound of pain over a year versus an ounce of pain at once.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

It's not that easy. And it's not me I'm worried about at the end of the day - its her. I dont want to hurt her and if, at the end of the day, she needs me and I'm not there - that makes me feel like that much less of a man. Dont ask me why.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

I dont necessarily disagree with any of that.
I **** at flirting, in all honesty I avoid doing it much of the time, haha. Give me a few shots though - hell breaks loose. Unfortunately when I'm drunk I end up hitting on the chicks with their boyfriends beside them

I mean, all that this boils down to is that I'm a loser. And I ****. And I cant win.

No. You just need to find your style. I didn't do well at all with the ladies until my junior year of college. I dunno how old you are, but that may tell you something.

You don't have to be confident, cool, or anything...at least I don't think. I just give the impression to others I have it all figured out. Not that I can kick some guy's ass, bench a million pounds, etc.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

It's not that easy. And it's not me I'm worried about at the end of the day - its her. I dont want to hurt her and if, at the end of the day, she needs me and I'm not there - that makes me feel like that much less of a man. Dont ask me why.

She don't need you. But you don't realize this until they replace you at the drop of a hat. I had the same feeling about my ex. Until 2 weeks later she was getting tossed up by a new guy. Made me feel like another person in line, so to speak. And I was...1 year later, we haven't spoke and I don't think either person really cares about the other.

I think once you experience this...you will feel better about your situation.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

I'm 21, it was posted earlier but there is tons of information and tons of posts in this thread.

I'm fine with the ladies, dont get me wrong. I do, however, seem to always end up the friend. That's where I'm ****ed up in the game.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

I'm 21, it was posted earlier but there is tons of information and tons of posts in this thread.
I'm fine with the ladies, dont get me wrong. I do, however, seem to always end up the friend. That's where I'm ****ed up in the game.

I know this will sound silly...but whip out your penis....it worked with my current gf. Otherwise, you will get trapped in the friend zone. In retrospect, I probably wouldn't do that again, but it does get the point across that you don't want to be just friends.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

You just need to learn to not become so attached to girls. Make it appear you could give her up at ANY point in time. I periodically make small silly arguments with the girl I'm talking to now just to keep control of the situation. I'm just joking around, but to her, she's not 100% sure what I mean. It gives us something to talk about, it strengthens our relationship, and I maintain control over it.

That is stupid ****, imo. I think my girl does that **** too. What she doesn't get is that continuing to do so will be the reason we split.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

I know this will sound silly...but whip out your penis....it worked with my current gf. Otherwise, you will get trapped in the friend zone. In retrospect, I probably wouldn't do that again, but it does get the point across that you don't want to be just friends.

Not happenin. I get the point, but it wont be goin down quite like that haha

 

[tsenfw 10+ year member]

I'm fine with the ladies, dont get me wrong. I do, however, seem to always end up the friend. That's where I'm ****ed up in the game.

If you always end up the friend then you're not really doing fine with the ladies. You really need to admit that. I'm not saying you should act like a dick or someone other than yourself but confidence and successful appearance help to attract a lot in the beginning. It really boils down to instinct on a level (ability to provide). Of course after initial attraction, we're thinking intelligent beings and decisions are based more on thought.

I know this will sound silly...but whip out your penis....it worked with my current gf. Otherwise, you will get trapped in the friend zone. In retrospect, I probably wouldn't do that again, but it does get the point across that you don't want to be just friends.

Idk if i would recommend whipping it out but ..... he's right, you need to display some attraction and make it clear to her (subconsciously and consciously) that you are there to be her mate not her FRIEND. Guys who end up the friend tend to supplicate themselves and hide their sexuality. They think they're being nice but that really is screwing them in the end.

I know that's easier said than done, I'm not particularly good at it myself. I'm happy with my current gf and situation but I look back and realize that I could have done some things to get to the same place with less aggravation, wondering, and time.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

Then lets say this. I can, at any point, have you point out a girl. I am willing to bet by the end of the week she's naked in my room

Whether or not I get the poon, who knows, but I'll be **** close if I dont get it.

Yet no gf.

And yes, this is coming from a kid who is 5'11 295, and I'm serious haha

 

[mcsoul 10+ year member]

This is easy, get another gf, stay friends with this one. When she see's your taken, she will

show more interest. Flaunt the new relationship. When she show's weakness, bone her and

treat her like a w*h*o*r*e*, whilst boning. She'll fall for you hard. Now choose between the 2

chicks or play them both like I would.

 

[kovemaster559 5,000+ posts]

This is easy, get another gf, stay frieds with this one. When she see's your taken, she willshow more interest. Flaunt the new relationship. When she show's weakness, bone her and

treat her like a *****, whilst boning. She'll fall for you hard. Now choose between the 2

chicks or play them both like I would.

x2 i have to say hes right. or be a nice guy and play the part. of i love you and want to be with you!

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

This is easy, get another gf, stay friends with this one. When she see's your taken, she willshow more interest. Flaunt the new relationship. When she show's weakness, bone her and

treat her like a w*h*o*r*e*, whilst boning. She'll fall for you hard. Now choose between the 2

chicks or play them both like I would.

Granted this might work, but there's two issues.

1) I cant do that. That is a downright shitty thing to do. Pimpin or whatever you want to call it, I aint doin it, sorry, call me a puss if you want to.

2) No other chicks I'm even remotely interested in.

 

[mcsoul 10+ year member]

She's a player, she's playing you. Don't fall for players if you don't want to play

the game.

 

[tsenfw 10+ year member]

Then lets say this. I can, at any point, have you point out a girl. I am willing to bet by the end of the week she's naked in my room
Whether or not I get the poon, who knows, but I'll be **** close if I dont get it.

Yet no gf.

And yes, this is coming from a kid who is 5'11 295, and I'm serious haha

You're all over the place dude. Are you a ladies man or not? Doesn't really matter either way but you seem to be trying to defend your skills. Remember you posted on CA.com for love advice lol.

So what's some more background. You mentioned how long you've been hanging out with her.

Have you even kissed this chic yet?

 

[cpierce 5,000+ posts]

I will pray for your cawk

 

[cpierce 5,000+ posts]

You're all over the place dude. Are you a ladies man or not? Doesn't really matter either way but you seem to be trying to defend your skills. Remember you posted on CA.com for love advice lol.
So what's some more background. You mentioned how long you've been hanging out with her.

Have you even piitb with this chic yet?

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