Woman situation, what to do

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

lol....she probably likes your personality but is not attracted to you physically....
ontop of things, she's prolly all twecko in the head....

and finally, u do not want sloppy seconds, your young and apparently get any girl ***** by dark....just make yoruself too busy to hang out with her....

if and when u do hook up with her, and since your friend already banged her.....ur gonna be insecure and a pscyho paranoid biitch....

turn your emotions off.....when she calls talk to her but act like ur in the middle of something or whatever....i think almost ever guy has been in this situation once in there life....if they say they havent', chances are they're lying.

True. It doesnt make me insecure, they hang out and I dont think a second about it, if it happens then it happens, and if I'm with someone and that goes on, I have no business being there. Sobeit.

She is probably whacko, no doubt.

And you might be right, she likes who I am but I'm not hot shit, so I get the lower end of the totem pole, however the fvck you spell that

Oh, and with the getting bishes *****. What I was referring to, in specific, is two times where my friends who have a good bit of game were trying to pick a chick up - denied. I tried, she came home, she was ***** at the end of the night.

One girl was with me, never got too far, game fell out.

Other girl just ended up gettin *****, but I'll be ****ed if I aint the one that got her to the house, ha

 

[mcsoul 10+ year member]

I don't think she's whacked in the head, just does not want commitment.

She can tell your sweating her hard. Would probably drop to one knee 2

weeks after the secks. You having a girl friend already puts you in a safer

zone.

 

[sue bee 10+ year member]

Some of these new suggestions are for playing games. F that shiz, what are you guys, 16?
1. Stop being a *****

2. Tell her what's up

3. Make yourself less available

4. Stop worshiping her

5. show her you actually have a penis (if you do, starting to doubt)

6. take control of the situation.

/end thread.

This is the way to go. Sound advice. If I was to make my own, unique post, this is what I would tell you. Basic elements of attraction here. If there are any ****** feelings towards you residing somewhere within the cold heart of the girl you desire, these will bring them to the surface. How? Supply and demand my friend. You cut off her supply of you, and she will demand more of it. You have to ride it out, though, don't fake it. There are many other ways to accelerate this process, i.e. increasing your value to her, but I don't want to get too involved. Give this a go for as long as you dare, and if in the end she doesn't warm up to you...you're in the friend zone for a long, long time...if not forever.

 

[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

First, it appears you are in friend zone to a very strong degree. It is normally impossible to escape friend zone, but I'm hoping and praying for you that you growing a set of balls over night will be enough for her to begin looking at you as something other than a friend. If not, your failure with her will be a life lesson that will only build your experience with women. So with that being said, I will continue forth with the plan of what you need to do to try and escape friend zone.

Alright, you need to start distancing yourself emotionally from her. This is what has turned this chick off from you. She thinks of you as weak and completely lacking game. Keep her close physically though and in a position to stay friends with her if plans blow up in your face. A female friend is always better than a female enemy. Women talk to other women, and you don't want them saying nasty things about you.

By staying emotionally distant, I mean, stop confiding with her. Don't talk to her as a friend. Don't have these stupid "How was your day, mine was just fine" conversations with her. If she asks about you, start asking her questions instead. Try not to answer her questions directly. Blow her off once or twice. Be too busy to talk to her. Let your phone ring a couple times. Don't answer her text messages back immediately. This will plant in her mind that she is not your world any more.

Women love being the center of attention though. If she really likes you, she will pursue talking to you still. This is when you drop it on her that you have a new girl you're talking to. Continue to be too busy to talk to her. Tell her you're busy with new girl, but you'd still like to hang out with her sometime or eventually. This is when you need to start flirting with her. Go full force. Let her know you are sexually attracted to her. If she asks about the other girl, say something like "Don't worry about her". !!!Mysteriousness!!! Girls are attracted to it.

Ask more if you need to, I can't focus my mind on every little detail all at once.

 

[sue bee 10+ year member]

First, it appears you are in friend zone to a very strong degree. It is normally impossible to escape friend zone, but I'm hoping and praying for you that you growing a set of balls over night will be enough for her to begin looking at you as something other than a friend. If not, your failure with her will be a life lesson that will only build your experience with women. So with that being said, I will continue forth with the plan of what you need to do to try and escape friend zone.
Alright, you need to start distancing yourself emotionally from her. This is what has turned this chick off from you. She thinks of you as weak and completely lacking game. Keep her close physically though and in a position to stay friends with her if plans blow up in your face. A female friend is always better than a female enemy. Women talk to other women, and you don't want them saying nasty things about you.

By staying emotionally distant, I mean, stop confiding with her. Don't talk to her as a friend. Don't have these stupid "How was your day, mine was just fine" conversations with her. If she asks about you, start asking her questions instead. Try not to answer her questions directly. Blow her off once or twice. Be too busy to talk to her. Let your phone ring a couple times. Don't answer her text messages back immediately. This will plant in her mind that she is not your world any more.

Women love being the center of attention though. If she really likes you, she will pursue talking to you still. This is when you drop it on her that you have a new girl you're talking to. Continue to be too busy to talk to her. Tell her you're busy with new girl, but you'd still like to hang out with her sometime or eventually. This is when you need to start flirting with her. Go full force. Let her know you are sexually attracted to her. If she asks about the other girl, say something like "Don't worry about her". !!!Mysteriousness!!! Girls are attracted to it.

Ask more if you need to, I can't focus my mind on every little detail all at once.

Good technique here, but nothing will beat a real girl. Plus, she's a friend, and you don't want to do something like this to a friend. How hard can it be to find an ugly girlfriend anyway?

 

[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

Good technique here, but nothing will beat a real girl. Plus, she's a friend, and you don't want to do something like this to a friend. How hard can it be to find an ugly girlfriend anyway?

The way I see it, this guy is head over heels over this chick, he's not going to take no for an answer, so I'm showing him what I would do. If he fails, he's learned some very important stuff first hand. If he succeeds...

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[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

Something I forgot to add, don't tell her that you have a new girl too early. Don't just drop it out of no where. It will make you appear fake. Do it when she starts asking why you can't hang out with her as much or why you stopped answering her calls.

 

[Jep772 10+ year member]

Imagine OP's original problem then add the fact you've seen her BF throw a full cans of beer, flashlights, boots, 40 bottles at her head, give her fat lips, bruises constantly. Called a fat ***** dumb **** **** ***** *** trick hoe beetlejuice etc.. hear about how her ***** is beat up and her tittys are nasty in front of god and everybody. And you know as soon as you leave she's gonna get tortured till he passes out. i don't worship this girl nor am i wrapped around her finger i have known her for a long time and i've known her BF a.k.a. my best friend for the last 10 years but seeing her get wooped on makes me want to make her feel better. before i hear call the cops thats not how it works around here, she's got a phone

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

Imagine OP's original problem then add the fact you've seen her BF throw a full cans of beer, flashlights, boots, 40 bottles at her head, give her fat lips, bruises constantly. Called a fat ***** dumb **** **** ***** *** trick hoe beetlejuice etc.. hear about how her ***** is beat up and her tittys are nasty in front of god and everybody. And you know as soon as you leave she's gonna get tortured till he passes out. i don't worship this girl nor am i wrapped around her finger i have known her for a long time and i've known her BF a.k.a. my best friend for the last 10 years but seeing her get wooped on makes me want to make her feel better. before i hear call the cops thats not how it works around here, she's got a phone

This coming from me, the acclaimed ***** of the forums evidentally.

Man the **** up and put a stop to it. It needs to be done, and if you care at all about that girl you'll do it, she might like it but she knows and you know that it isnt right.

TB - so do I reconcile for being a complete dick, and then start distancing myself?

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

^^^ Sorry if I came off rude, but putting your hands on a woman is something I will not play games with.

Friend or not, if he is abusing someone you care about, you need to do whatever you can to help stop it. If that means beating his fvcking ***** *** then do it, it needs to be done, and he needs to know why. He needs to know that he is a piece of shit and that it will NOT be tolerated, and whether or not ya'll stay friends, you will continue to beat his *** if he does it.

 

[crunktimes.com 5,000+ posts]

^^^ Sorry if I came off rude, but putting your hands on a woman is something I will not play games with.
Friend or not, if he is abusing someone you care about, you need to do whatever you can to help stop it. If that means beating his fvcking ***** *** then do it, it needs to be done, and he needs to know why. He needs to know that he is a piece of shit and that it will NOT be tolerated, and whether or not ya'll stay friends, you will continue to beat his *** if he does it.

I have found that no matter what the chick will still go back to the abusive dickhead in the long run no matter what you do. It really usually is a pointless cause and while you want to feel like you are doing something good (Which is natural) in the end you have little or no effect.

Though I imagine if you would have already known this you would not be having the issues you are.

I did not read the entire thread so I really can't comment on that much other than she seems to know your feelings, if this is true she will come to you if she is interested no questions asked. Trust me been there and done that sometimes it works out the way you want sometimes it don't.

 

[Jep772 10+ year member]

I've came close to fightin' dude, he's my best friend and he wasn't always like this (methadone ftl) his son passed a while back and between that, the done and natty ice i don't even know him really anymore. I was close to jumpin' on em last night but i cant deal with police i'm on bond. shit will get super ugly fast and i'll be ****ed if i get my bond revoked, i don't like her LIKE THAT i've never laid a finger on this chick, under different circumstances i would and could but i have a old lady and i don't need that kinda stress right now.

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

why is this thread still going on? i thought we determined she isnt interested and op should move on?

 

[Ken448 10+ year member]

so, when she says "I love you" what is your reply? That is one conversation that needs to happen, I think. What does she mean by that? Obviously, you want it to mean something more than she does. Few people have heard those words from me... My parents, my wife, my children, and ONE of my long term g/f's. Perhaps you ask her to stop saying it if she does not mean it??

She is younger, you say. But how young? 17? 18? Sounds like she is insecure to me, and just playing you for the attention.

 

[Jep772 10+ year member]

plus he accuses her of fckin me ALL THE TIME supposedly. i've never heard a word from him about it.

Toasted1 you're exactly right. She's the type that would be right back within a couple days, never fails. Thats why i said, "she's got a phone"