Woman situation, what to do

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

I have got to go to bed. 5 am comes early. I appreciate it ya'll , I'll be on here during work tomorrow assuming I can stay awake. Thanks for the time

Basically

She aint gonna have it, it's time to cut her off

I lose at life.

/Thread.

 

[TurdFergueson2 5,000+ posts]

Personally, I don't know enough about the situation to fix it. I don't even know if it's fixable at this point. It sounds like you're in the friend zone and nothing short of a miracle will get you out of the friend zone usually.

It is very possible to get out of the friend zone

TELL HER HOW YOU FUKING FEEL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Worked for me. Best move I ever made. But when you do it, you have to be prepared to never talk to her ever again. It takes skill, but can be done.

 

[andrewmoore13 10+ year member]

Ok. First off you gotta work on flirting. Its quite possibly one of the most fun activities that you can engage in with a member of the opposite ***.... Second only to all the romantic shit and having ***.

Second of all, yes you do have to make her feel special. But at the same time make her think that you are special too. Tell her stories about stupid shit you did and see if she laughs.

Another thing, next time you talk to her, use one word answers. Make her think that you are disinterested and maybe she'll try and spark you interest.

I know how you feel. I dated a girl for 14 months, was absolutely 100% in love with her and she pretty much dumps me outta the blue. 2 months later she slept with my former best friend. Note the FORMER, I am not really speaking to him right now. He has just done too much shit that I am pissed about so he can go fawk himself... But thats a story for another time.

Conclusion: Tell her how you feel once more. Tell her that it sucks that you have to follow through with your "Ground Rules" but it is necessary because you are spending too much time with her and you need to go out and meet other people if she is not interested.

 

[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

It is very possible to get out of the friend zone
TELL HER HOW YOU FUKING FEEL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Worked for me. Best move I ever made. But when you do it, you have to be prepared to never talk to her ever again. It takes skill, but can be done.

First off, telling a girl how you feel automatically puts you at a disadvantage over them. They control the situation and they now have your balls in their hands (figuratively of course, otherwise you wouldn't have much of a problem at all //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif ). Remember, women prefer a challenge and they no longer have that with you if you tell them you like them. Rather than tell them how you feel, show them how you feel!!! Take them on a date, make a move and kiss her, get her back to your place, etc, etc. If she likes you enough to say she likes you back, then she's going to approve of you making moves on her. But if she's on the border line, then she may very well say no to you liking her.

 

[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

Ok. First off you gotta work on flirting. Its quite possibly one of the most fun activities that you can engage in with a member of the opposite ***.... Second only to all the romantic shit and having ***.Second of all, yes you do have to make her feel special. But at the same time make her think that you are special too. Tell her stories about stupid shit you did and see if she laughs.

Another thing, next time you talk to her, use one word answers. Make her think that you are disinterested and maybe she'll try and spark you interest.

I know how you feel. I dated a girl for 14 months, was absolutely 100% in love with her and she pretty much dumps me outta the blue. 2 months later she slept with my former best friend. Note the FORMER, I am not really speaking to him right now. He has just done too much shit that I am pissed about so he can go fawk himself... But thats a story for another time.

Conclusion: Tell her how you feel once more. Tell her that it sucks that you have to follow through with your "Ground Rules" but it is necessary because you are spending too much time with her and you need to go out and meet other people if she is not interested.

First part good advice, but last part, not so much. Telling her how he felt the first time didn't work for a reason.

 

[TurdFergueson2 5,000+ posts]

First off, telling a girl how you feel automatically puts you at a disadvantage over them. They control the situation and they now have your balls in their hands (figuratively of course, otherwise you wouldn't have much of a problem at all //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif ). Remember, women prefer a challenge and they no longer have that with you if you tell them you like them. Rather than tell them how you feel, show them how you feel!!! Take them on a date, make a move and kiss her, get her back to your place, etc, etc. If she likes you enough to say she likes you back, then she's going to approve of you making moves on her. But if she's on the border line, then she may very well say no to you liking her.

Thus my be prepared to never talk to them again thing. I guess it's how I do. I might have strong feelings for a chick, but never tell her. But when I do, I say it more like a statement and am done with it more than sitting there waiting to hear their feelings. So in theory, you are not doing anything other than letting her know you got deep feelings for her and that's that.

X2 on making a move though. No woman that's a jaeger Bomb away from getting banged should be saying I love you to him without getting done up. Piped down if you will.......

Next time you talk to her, say you got a date with some skank you met off the internet or something. See how she takes it. If she's not happy for you, run the script on her. May backfire, may not.

Pix would make my advice a lot easier though.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

I'm more than sure that pictures would make the world much easier for everyone

Anywho, I've tried the short answers. I did do that. She just pouted and tried to walk up and hold my hand or to be held or something, just tried to get closer. If I ignore her from that point, she'll stay around there for a minute or two, and then kinda linger away, but she comes back in a relatively quick manner.

She'll pout though, and eventually I just make her laugh and we chill. I dont know.

I'm awake bishes

 

[tsenfw 10+ year member]

Any progress?

Some good advice in here, follow it. You need to display some alpha male characteristics asap (confident, successful, don't take no shit).

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

This is easy. **** it up and move on. You'll find someone else who will fall for you. Cut the amount of time you see this girl too. She wants to be friends with you? Sure, no problem, but make sure its on your time, not hers.
Be a man. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

Best advice I have seen. But why the best advice is so hard to take, I'll never get. I think it has a lot to do with some people's (including my own) avoidance of pain. They will take 1 pound of pain over a year versus an ounce of pain at once.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

It's not that easy. And it's not me I'm worried about at the end of the day - its her. I dont want to hurt her and if, at the end of the day, she needs me and I'm not there - that makes me feel like that much less of a man. Dont ask me why.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

I dont necessarily disagree with any of that.
I **** at flirting, in all honesty I avoid doing it much of the time, haha. Give me a few shots though - hell breaks loose. Unfortunately when I'm drunk I end up hitting on the chicks with their boyfriends beside them

I mean, all that this boils down to is that I'm a loser. And I ****. And I cant win.

No. You just need to find your style. I didn't do well at all with the ladies until my junior year of college. I dunno how old you are, but that may tell you something.

You don't have to be confident, cool, or anything...at least I don't think. I just give the impression to others I have it all figured out. Not that I can kick some guy's ***, bench a million pounds, etc.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

It's not that easy. And it's not me I'm worried about at the end of the day - its her. I dont want to hurt her and if, at the end of the day, she needs me and I'm not there - that makes me feel like that much less of a man. Dont ask me why.

She don't need you. But you don't realize this until they replace you at the drop of a hat. I had the same feeling about my ex. Until 2 weeks later she was getting tossed up by a new guy. Made me feel like another person in line, so to speak. And I was...1 year later, we haven't spoke and I don't think either person really cares about the other.

I think once you experience this...you will feel better about your situation.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

I'm 21, it was posted earlier but there is tons of information and tons of posts in this thread.

I'm fine with the ladies, dont get me wrong. I do, however, seem to always end up the friend. That's where I'm ****ed up in the game.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

I'm 21, it was posted earlier but there is tons of information and tons of posts in this thread.
I'm fine with the ladies, dont get me wrong. I do, however, seem to always end up the friend. That's where I'm ****ed up in the game.

I know this will sound silly...but whip out your penis....it worked with my current gf. Otherwise, you will get trapped in the friend zone. In retrospect, I probably wouldn't do that again, but it does get the point across that you don't want to be just friends.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

You just need to learn to not become so attached to girls. Make it appear you could give her up at ANY point in time. I periodically make small silly arguments with the girl I'm talking to now just to keep control of the situation. I'm just joking around, but to her, she's not 100% sure what I mean. It gives us something to talk about, it strengthens our relationship, and I maintain control over it.

That is stupid shit, imo. I think my girl does that shit too. What she doesn't get is that continuing to do so will be the reason we split.