people are too hung up on proving to everyone that they aren't gay that society makes stupid shit taboo and unacceptable. I mean people are totally freaked out by even seeing a wang that i find it pretty funny to show them mine.
Do you think fegs are totally freaked out when they see a vag? Do you think they get all worried that people might think they are straight? I doubt they get all uncomfortable and worried that they might be straight if they peep a vag every now and then.
So back to your question, is it gay to handle your own business when someone else is around? I don't think so so but i bet most people are too chicken freaked out and worried to agree with me.
Societal norms dictate that a doctor can practically jerk you off and play with your balls for a bit, then stick a finger up your ***, you get to pay for the privilege, and thats not gay at all. However, if you touch your own shit when someone else can see, thats totally gay.
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