Layed off..

[bigbangtheory 5,000+ posts]

Think you have it bad OP, try working for a company for 15 plus years and being laid off and told more than likely they won't be bringing you back.

35 people were just told that today where I work. I subcontract for the company and we need to be here at all times, but still.

Although I seen most of them leave and nobody seemed to be pissed. Wierd!

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

Think you have it bad OP, try working for a company for 15 plus years and being laid off and told more than likely they won't be bringing you back.
35 people were just told that today where I work. I subcontract for the company and we need to be here at all times, but still.

Although I seen most of them leave and nobody seemed to be pissed. Wierd!

Why be pissed?

I never understood that emotion after being laid off or fired. I can understand worry, sad, possibly depressed, but angry?

Who are you to be angry with? The company? They are doing what is necessary to keep the company up. With yourself? I guess this is possible if your actions were a direct result of you getting fired or laid off, more than likely this isn't the case though.

The 2 times I have been laid off, I wasn't angry. Hell, I barely even get worked up at all about it. I just see it as a process of business. I just switch into survival mode and start looking for my options.

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

Why be pissed?
I never understood that emotion after being laid off or fired. I can understand worry, sad, possibly depressed, but angry?

Who are you to be angry with? The company? They are doing what is necessary to keep the company up. With yourself? I guess this is possible if your actions were a direct result of you getting fired or laid off, more than likely this isn't the case though.

The 2 times I have been laid off, I wasn't angry. Hell, I barely even get worked up at all about it. I just see it as a process of business. I just switch into survival mode and start looking for my options.

Werd. The one time I was laid off my boss seemed to take it harder than I did. We are still friends. I knew that he was struggling to keep his business afloat. There certainly was no animosity. Hell, I even drafted the letters informing the other employees of the layoff.

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

Werd. The one time I was laid off my boss seemed to take it harder than I did. We are still friends. I knew that he was struggling to keep his business afloat. There certainly was no animosity. Hell, I even drafted the letters informing the other employees of the layoff.

I am still good friends with the first one that laid me off as well.

 

[mrogowski 5,000+ posts]

I am still good friends with the first one that laid me off as well.

Funny how he is still working and you're not...

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

Funny how he is still working and you're not...

I don't find it funny. He is higher on the food chain there, has put in more time. Has more assets the company needed. Basically a lot of what I did was dissolved and what wasn't, shifted to his plate. Explain what you feel is funny about the situation.

 

[mrogowski 5,000+ posts]

I don't find it funny. He is higher on the food chain there, has put in more time. Has more assets the company needed. Basically a lot of what I did was dissolved and what wasn't, shifted to his plate. Explain what you feel is funny about the situation.

I'm referring more to the 'good friends' part than anything. I can understand keeping some form of professional relationship to perhaps stay in the loop, or if you live in a small town where you know everyone. I would otherwise find it difficult to head out for beers with someone who axed me from my job however.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

I'm referring more to the 'good friends' part than anything. I can understand keeping some form of professional relationship to perhaps stay in the loop, or if you live in a small town where you know everyone. I would otherwise find it difficult to head out for beers with someone who axed me from my job however.

There is a difference between professional and personal relationships. One must be able to distinguish between the two. Him firing Iam is a professsional decision, not a personal one. This is why fratenization is discouraged in the workplace...to many people do not understand that the two relationships must remain seperate.

 

[crunktimes.com 5,000+ posts]

Your profile says you are 19? Do you still live at home?

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

I'm referring more to the 'good friends' part than anything. I can understand keeping some form of professional relationship to perhaps stay in the loop, or if you live in a small town where you know everyone. I would otherwise find it difficult to head out for beers with someone who axed me from my job however.

You see this make zero sense to me.

Perhaps I have too much of a romantic view irl (no ****, not meant in a ****** oriented way). I can separate personal relationships from business relationships. We became great friends while I worked there. So now he gets the orders to terminate my position and I should hold him responsible and deny a personal asset he had outside of work?

That equation doesn't add up in my book.

I know you aren't alone in this view of yours and understand it may even be a popular feeling. It kind of goes back to my original response on not understanding how anger plays a role after being laid off.

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

There is a difference between professional and personal relationships. One must be able to distinguish between the two. Him firing Iam is a professsional decision, not a personal one. This is why fratenization is discouraged in the workplace...to many people do not understand that the two relationships must remain seperate.

This. I for some reason have never had problems with this distinction. Me or my wife. In fact we had worked together in a situation where i was above her. When we both left work, that was it, work relation was over. If things go well with my long terms goals I set recently, we may end up working together again with me technically above her. We have no doubt that we can handle that.

 

[David19 10+ year member]

Werd. The one time I was laid off my boss seemed to take it harder than I did. We are still friends. I knew that he was struggling to keep his business afloat. There certainly was no animosity. Hell, I even drafted the letters informing the other employees of the layoff.

i agree, after my boss came to the house and got the company work truck.. my girlfriend saw him at a red light from my house.. she said he had his hand on his head shaking his head.. he took it way harder then i did... all he could say when i was cleaning out the truck is how bad this sucks.. how he doesn't even wanna do this.. but he had no choice

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

This. I for some reason have never had problems with this distinction. Me or my wife. In fact we had worked together in a situation where i was above her. When we both left work, that was it, work relation was over. If things go well with my long terms goals I set recently, we may end up working together again with me technically above her. We have no doubt that we can handle that.

This begs the question of who is on top in the personal relationship.

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

i agree, after my boss came to the house and got the company work truck.. my girlfriend saw him at a red light from my house.. she said he had his hand on his head shaking his head.. he took it way harder then i did... all he could say when i was cleaning out the truck is how bad this sucks.. how he doesn't even wanna do this.. but he had no choice

My last job was as a plant manager. I was the one who swung the axe before a bigger fish had to swing it on me. It is not an easy job. The first time it is just really hard. It is just an unfortunate process of conducting business. No one I know would get enjoyment out of telling some one they had to be let go. I could be wrong and maybe some sick individual does enjoy it, but I am sure it's rare.

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

This begs the question of who is on top in the personal relationship.

Well, while technically we like to think we don't have a "top" in the relationship, I can admit to playing the submissive role more often.