Girl Advice! What You Think?

[AlterEgo99 5,000+ posts]

Dude, cannot believe you are askin' for this type of advice on this forum. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wow.gif.23d729408e9177caa2a0ed6a2ba6588e.gif

Don't get me wrong, some of the replies have been simply hilarious, but dude, you're not gonna get a lot of sage advice from the folks here. Ain't gonna happen. If you need any proof of that, count how many have asked you for pics.

I'm probably one of the older farts on this forum...hell, when you've been married as long as I have, have kids, pay a mortgage and pay mucho bucks in taxes, you will understand where I'm coming from. Until then, do what you want. Sow yer oats if you think that is gonna make you feel good. But those who say good girls are hard to find ain't kidding...and the older you get, the harder they are to find. Dyin' alone ain't so bad.

 

[Echo42987 10+ year member]

Well he should. I'm a smart motherfucker.

Touche

 

[AVSTANG02]

This isnt some sappy love story or me venting, just looking for some solid advice from people that have been down the same road and know what the deal is.
Im 21 years old, just graduated from college and have a girlfriend of 11 months now and things are going good, she is 23 years old and just got a steady full time career job so shes all set. I have yet to find a career job and am still doing random jobs here and there until i can find something in my field, im a criminal justice major and wanna find a cop job somewere.

I think a lot of the problems stem from the fact that all my friends are also 21 years old and all of them are single, and im the only one with a girlfriend right now. Every weekend all we do is party our ***** off and go to clubs ETC, my friends hook up with girls etc and dont have a care in the world, we are all 21 and who could give ashit right?

Well me on the other hand, it seems like everywere i look people are talking MARRIAGE between me and my girlfriend, and this scares the **** out of me, all my parents talk about is how we should get married and we are perfect for each other etc

I will tell you right now that she IS the type of girl that is good for settling down with, shes extremely level headed, very logical of a thinker, extremely good with her finances due to the fact that shes a math teacher and has a bachelors in mathematics, has a solid job, can cook good, etc and is generally always there for me like any good companion would be

The thought of settling down right now scares the hell out of me, and even though i know she would be a great wife, at the same time im also 21 years old right now, im only young once and i feel that im "missing something" in my life right now

quite frankly, i feel like i should be single, party my *** off, and live life because im young right now and i feel like i need to get this phase out of my system so that i can settle down with someone later on in life and be content, i feel like if i settle down right now without ever experiencing my early 20s as a single guy that i may have regrets later in life like i missed out on something

am i being stupid or is this a logical concern?

From reading your post it sounds like you don't want to be with her anymore.

And you would be staying with her just out of convenience..

If you actually were "in love" and wanted to be with her and wanted to consider marriage you wouldn't have made this thread..

I'm not saying you should break up with her today..

But it's obvious it's going to come at some point with you thinking like this..

If you stay with her when you really don't want to you will end up acting distant and naturally push her away.. Often in that situation the girl dumps the guy..

So you may as well just dump her first without dragging things on..

Girls have broken up with me from long term relationships for the same reason.. I think it's ok.. People gotta live..

 

[pioneerpimp 5,000+ posts]

you think youre missing out on all of this dumb shit because movies and society tell you otherwise. to hook up with other girls, to drink non stop, i mean look at the film the hangover. i saw it and laughed but a perfect example. If you are genuinely happy with your life, then you're not missing out on anything. im 22 and have been in a relationship for three years. im happy as can be, and im not missing out on anything. I have a set career at IL's state university as a civil service worker. job security and all. and she likes my car audio //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif. what makes you happy makes you happy dont let your friends statements and actions try to persuade you, but if you are not happy, thats another story.

 

[AlterEgo99 5,000+ posts]

Newsflash jack hole. People that post pix get advice. That is the rule here.

From the Urban Dictionary:

1. JACK HOLE

A person who is both a JACK *** and an *** HOLE.

"Pull your head out of your ***, you ****in' Jack Hole!"

OK, gee, thanks. Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one.

Anyways, I do note that you did not argue that should pix be forthcoming, the aforementioned advice would not be "sage advice". Just advice. Does the level of advice depend on the pix? If so, what would the criteria be? Just askin', you know, for future reference.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

The quality of advice is proportional to the quality of pics.

 

[AlterEgo99 5,000+ posts]

The quality of advice is proportional to the quality of pics.

Yeah, that's what I thought. So, fully clothed, not so good. Partial ******, better. Full frontal ******, "sage" advice. Do I have that about right? //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

 

[andrewmoore13 10+ year member]

Yeah, that's what I thought. So, fully clothed, not so good. Partial ******, better. Full frontal ******, "sage" advice. Do I have that about right? //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

You hit the nail on the head... //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/cool.gif.3bcaf8f141236c00f8044d07150e34f7.gif

 

[AlterEgo99 5,000+ posts]

Well then, I indeed would like to dispense some sage advice. So OP, please provide the aforementioned full frontal ****** pics. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/biggrin.gif.d71a5d36fcbab170f2364c9f2e3946cb.gif

Oh yeah, I also forgot, I only live a couple of towns away from your location...I would be happy to stop by and determine for myself if your girl is worth keeping. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

 

[AlterEgo99 5,000+ posts]

Go get pix for us?

Diggin' out my camera now as I type this. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/biggrin.gif.d71a5d36fcbab170f2364c9f2e3946cb.gif

 

[thericanballer 10+ year member]

all i have to say is ull never find someone perfect if thats her only defect well, its up to u if ull keep her. just make a deal with her, dont mess with me and i wont mess with u kinda deal. u no. shes ****ing gorgeous. think bout it twice before leaving her. remember ull grow old to partying ur young now. and the car stuff ull prob grow out of that too. if ur not looking to commit yet well.....its ur decision good luck. and god bless u and ur after market car stuff lol.

 

[its_bacon12 10+ year member]

You're stupid to dump her because you think you're missing something.

You'll get to the other side of the fence and see the grass is patchy and not so green, with clumps of weeds and those pricker things that you always manage to step on when you go outside barefoot.

You got it made with a girl like that but not everyone is made out to be with someone for a long time at your age. If you are not happy with her, then give her up to someone who will be.