The XXX mids and the Extremis share the same Coil, Spider, Cone, and Basket. Basically the same soft parts, if you look back on soundillusions, when Dan had a thread about CES 2004...you'll see the extremis prototype that looks DEAD ON the current production XXX mids.
The Extremis use a Neo, Video-shielded motor. They are slightly more efficient, and have a slightly lower Fs (obviously b/c of the different motor structure/assembly). The XXX mids can handle more power, and were MADE for an in-car environment.
I use XXX mids, Jason (undercoverpunk) uses Extremis mids. I've heard them playing full-range free-air...but not in a finished product. Jason's ported pods are requiring A LOT of work...if he gets done in time...we'll be able to do a straight up SWAP-OUT of the Extremis vs. The XXX mids. BUT, that will not be happening in the very near future...as the fabrication of his pods are extremely complicated.
Basically, it all comes down to power @8ohms and power @2ohms. I was ALL OVER the extremis mids, but completely changed my mind and went with the XXXmids which I now use b/c of the easyness to supply a good amount of power.
Later...
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