Parents and kids these days

[chinny 5,000+ posts]

lmao, thats a good one!

 

[SUB_URBAN 10+ year member]

4 teh lazy people.

what lazy people?

 

[ramos 5,000+ posts]

Discipline doesn't have to be an a$$ whipping. There are many other forms of punishment that can be far more effective. But that's beside the point. IMHO now a days there seems to be a lack of discipline in general being spanking, restrictions, time out, or what have you. This lack of discipline period is what I see as the problem. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[HiAmplidude 10+ year member]

I have a 3 year old son. For quite a while now he's been testing his limits to see where they exist. It's one of the ways kids learn.

My wife and I apparently have different ideas about discipline. She feels guilty if she barks out a command or discipline in a strong voice or spanking, no matter how mildly. Obviously the kid exaggerates it to high hell, any time he's being disciplined in any way shape or form, and he found that his pouting and crying fits are just the way to keep mommy from attempting any sort of discipline at all, ever. In fact, he has taken that approach one step further and does it to get whatever he wants, any time he wants from her. I feel bad for her, actually, because he's like that almost all the time around her and it's been that way for almost a year. It would truly make me miserable as a parent to be around a (faking) miserable kid constantly. But, I guess she doesn't have to feel guilty -- just keep shoving more candy and toys in his face until the next episode in 5 minutes.

I, on the other hand, respect my son and show him that respect by recognizing the fact that he understands what's up. I give him the choice and he knows he has it. Kids aren't dumb. A couple times, way back, he ignored calm warnings that he would get a spanking if he kept doing what he was doing (deliberate really bad something). I proceeded to bend him over my knee and give him one firm clap on his butt. He barely felt it through his diaper, but he knew what it meant. After just a couple of those incidents, he realized I wasn't joking when I said "stop", now all I have to do is look at him the right way and he stops being bad. He absolutely never throws fits or gets whiny around me. In fact, he doesn't think about whininess or crying at all, so we spend most of our time together laughing and playing. He's a very happy little kiddo'. I wish my wife got to enjoy that side of him more often.

My son and I have a super close and strong friendship. But, he does respect me and knows without a doubt that I call the shots.

I don't believe in discipline, of any kind, out of anger. If a parent can't hold it together and their authority is clouded by personal anger, they need to leave the room and cool down before dealing with the situation. I grew up in a house where most of our discipline happened out of anger. Plenty of blood was spilled and serious bruises. We didn't get out of line much, but it was mostly out of fear rather than respect. We do still respect our parents though, and it's because of what they've done in life and for us, but not for the way they handled discipline. I must say, though, if there was no physical discipline at all, we'd probably have turned out to be way out on the wrong side of the tracks.

 

[tRiGgEr 5,000+ posts]

Discipline doesn't have to be an a$$ whipping. There are many other forms of punishment that can be far more effective. But that's beside the point. IMHO now a days there seems to be a lack of discipline in general being spanking, restrictions, time out, or what have you. This lack of discipline period is what I see as the problem. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

I agree. I have two people close to me in my life that are parents. The difference in their parenting is drastic. My closest friend is a great loving father. His kid is so full of life, she is smart, and you can tell is very happy. On the other hand my girls sister, single parent neglects her children. Teaches them nothing, they are un-educated and are annoying spoiled little brats. I actually feel bad for them time to time.

Parents are responsible for shaping their children in to the person they will once be. It's a huge thing to me, And I hope others. Imagine your actions, your words changing this little child's life and helping them grow in to the person they will once be.

It's just sad that many "parents" can not see this...

 

[tRiGgEr 5,000+ posts]

I don't believe in discipline, of any kind, out of anger. If a parent can't hold it together and their authority is clouded by personal anger, they need to leave the room and cool down before dealing with the situation. I grew up in a house where most of our discipline happened out of anger. Plenty of blood was spilled and serious bruises. We didn't get out of line much, but it was mostly out of fear rather than respect.

Amen.

 

[ramos 5,000+ posts]

I have a 3 year old son. For quite a while now he's been testing his limits to see where they exist. It's one of the ways kids learn.
My wife and I apparently have different ideas about discipline. She feels guilty if she barks out a command or discipline in a strong voice or spanking, no matter how mildly. Obviously the kid exaggerates it to high hell, any time he's being disciplined in any way shape or form, and he found that his pouting and crying fits are just the way to keep mommy from attempting any sort of discipline at all, ever. In fact, he has taken that approach one step further and does it to get whatever he wants, any time he wants from her. I feel bad for her, actually, because he's like that almost all the time around her and it's been that way for almost a year. It would truly make me miserable as a parent to be around a (faking) miserable kid constantly. But, I guess she doesn't have to feel guilty -- just keep shoving more candy and toys in his face until the next episode in 5 minutes.

I, on the other hand, respect my son and show him that respect by recognizing the fact that he understands what's up. I give him the choice and he knows he has it. Kids aren't dumb. A couple times, way back, he ignored calm warnings that he would get a spanking if he kept doing what he was doing (deliberate really bad something). I proceeded to bend him over my knee and give him one firm clap on his butt. He barely felt it through his diaper, but he knew what it meant. After just a couple of those incidents, he realized I wasn't joking when I said "stop", now all I have to do is look at him the right way and he stops being bad. He absolutely never throws fits or gets whiny around me. In fact, he doesn't think about whininess or crying at all, so we spend most of our time together laughing and playing. He's a very happy little kiddo'. I wish my wife got to enjoy that side of him more often.

My son and I have a super close and strong friendship. But, he does respect me and knows without a doubt that I call the shots.

I don't believe in discipline, of any kind, out of anger. If a parent can't hold it together and their authority is clouded by personal anger, they need to leave the room and cool down before dealing with the situation. I grew up in a house where most of our discipline happened out of anger. Plenty of blood was spilled and serious bruises. We didn't get out of line much, but it was mostly out of fear rather than respect. We do still respect our parents though, and it's because of what they've done in life and for us, but not for the way they handled discipline. I must say, though, if there was no physical discipline at all, we'd probably have turned out to be way out on the wrong side of the tracks.

//content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/handclap.gif.0c301076f534e244f0460706894f19e0.gif I couldn't agree with you more //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[ramos 5,000+ posts]

It's just sad that many "parents" can not see this...

So true, I tend to blame parents more for there childs actions to a certain exent. The younger the child(ren) the more blame should be placed upon the parents themselves. Granted there are exceptions to every rule You need a license to drive a car, carry a gun, drive a truck, even to sell real estate. But any a$$hole can have a child. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[Raisedin305 5,000+ posts]

I have noticed something in my life. When i first lived in cube until i was 8yrs old, there was so much dicipline there. If a kid would do something one second, the next second you would see him running down the street and his mom chasing him with a bat or someshit, well not a bat but like a stick to wack him with it. I remember i ws in school one day and i was asking this girl out during class via notes and my teacher cought me and threw a lock at me face, i bled for hours. And my parents didnt do shit because it was just the way cuba was, beating on kids isnt illegal. Here is a whole different story, kids think their superior to their parents and they will do w/e they want because they know if their parents hit them they can tell the cops. My parents never hit me, only when we were at cuba, i remember when my mom broke lips for talking shit to her once and i started bleeding, my parents do do anything no more because im kinda grown up already and i dont deserve any of that shit. Point is that in cuba the dicipline that kids have is incredible.

Yeah I know man in cuba you **** up they whoop your ***. Its not only your parents who are allowed to whoop you *** but everybody. Here you touch a kid once all they know how to do is pick up the phone and dial 911 for child abuse! My boy's dad got the cops called on him a few months ago because the next door neighbor reported child abuse going on when really it wasn't. All the way were doing was playing in the pool with the family and the dad was kinda drunk but everything was cool. He ended up going to jail because he gave the cops a hard time but it just goes to show you how stupid America is now a days when it comes to adults hitting their kids. Mind your own ****ing business if it isn't your child. Unless you repeatedly witness the parents beating the kid to a point where the kid is bleeding and all bruised up then you can do something. A punch or two or a good spanking isn't shit.

 

[HiAmplidude 10+ year member]

The way kids are going these days freaks me out. It's mostly because of parents not raising their kids and letting school teachers, the kids' friends, and TV do it for them. Society, now, is a scary place. I would NOT want society raising my kid(s).

 

[Raisedin305 5,000+ posts]

The way kids are going these days freaks me out. It's mostly because of parents not raising their kids and letting school teachers, the kids' friends, and TV do it for them. Society, now, is a scary place. I would NOT want society raising my kid(s).

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[wilzyx 5,000+ posts]

first of all, is raisedin cuban too?

second, i let this site make my decisions for me

maddox.xmission.com

he speaketh the truth

 

[Raisedin305 5,000+ posts]

first of all, is raisedin cuban too?

Yes I am

 

[sumone 10+ year member]

Nope momma don't play, my mom didn't care who was watching either.

x2....Moms wanted people to know how strict she was by shouting at us or slapping us in a store. People commonly called DCFS because they were worried about us. But in the end, I think my brothers & sisters and I turned out OK.

 

[PV Audio 5,000+ posts]

shiit, i called my mom a dufus at my 1st grade bring-your-parents-in day......shiit....

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2 seconds to let that process, 2 minutes of me not having fun getting pwnt.