Parents and kids these days

[ramos 5,000+ posts]

Man things have changed since I was a wee little one . I was at a store this morning trying to finish up my Christmas shopping. ( I enjoy buying toys //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/biggrin.gif.d71a5d36fcbab170f2364c9f2e3946cb.gif ) Whilst there, a child and his mom were looking at some little cars or something. The mother told her son that it was time to go. At which time junior proceeded to tell his mom that he wanted this particular toy. She told him not right now, maybe Santa would bring it for him. The child proceeded to drop to the floor and scream and cry. Throwing a god awful tantrum right there in the middle of the store. The mom turned beat red, but picked the kid up off the floor. She also picked up the toy and gave in and got it for him. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/eek.gif.771b7a90cf45cabdc554ff1121c21c4a.gif I don't know about you guys, but If I attempted something like this as a child. My ass would still be sore, and I would probably still be walking home from the store right now. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

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[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

I'm with you, ramos. My mom wouldn't have had ANY of that nonsense. I'd have earned the sore ass right then and there in front of God and everyone.

Mom don't play //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

 

[skadude016 5,000+ posts]

Ya I see that nowadays way to much! I miss the good ol days when the kid gets his arse beat right there in the store. There was no count to 3. Or atleast not with my mom lol

 

[XtrmAudioCncpts 10+ year member]

yeah kids these days. thats why im not so sure i want to have them and if i do they sure as hell not going to turn out like that.

 

[ramos 5,000+ posts]

I'm with you, ramos. My mom wouldn't have had ANY of that nonsense. I'd have earned the sore ass right then and there in front of God and everyone.
Mom don't play //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

Nope momma don't play, my mom didn't care who was watching either. And I think that added to the respect factor. I didn't want to get my arse beat in front of my friends. So I didn't act a fool. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[VOA_NIGHTMARE 10+ year member]

its not just in today, but its been like this for a good few yrs. Look at all the 14-16 yr olds around there parents didnt beat there azz. Yet you look into the 20+ and can see a diffrence in the people

 

[ramos 5,000+ posts]

yeah kids these days. thats why im not so sure i want to have them and if i do they sure as hell not going to turn out like that.

I applaud you for that. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[saywhat? 5,000+ posts]

lol my mom would beat the livin hell out of me, then left me to fend for myself and find a way home. lmao ive got a shit load of respect for both my parents.

 

[ramos 5,000+ posts]

its not just in today, but its been like this for a good few yrs. Look at all the 14-16 yr olds around there parents didn't beat there azz. Yet you look into the 20+ and can see a difference in the people

Tis' true, I heard a kid tell his mom, that spanking was abuse. And if she ever laid a finger on him, he would call the police. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crazy.gif.c13912c32de98515d3142759a824dae7.gif I could not have even fathomed such a thing as a child. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[tRiGgEr 5,000+ posts]

I never respected my parents while growing up. Constant beatings and borderline abuse were not ideal parenting methods in my eyes growing up. I actually lost any chance at a relationship with my parents due to there "strong fist" upbringing. Fear and respect might be borderline emotions, but I would not want my kids to "fear" me.

There are always differencing opinions on parenting. In that situation best thing to do is not give in to the Childs "demands". IMO but no punishment would have been needed IMO.

I like to think that when I'm ready for children I can adopt a decent enough relationship with them where minimal physical punishment would be needed. But things never really go as planned...

 

[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

Nope momma don't play, my mom didn't care who was watching either. And I think that added to the respect factor. I didn't want to get my arse beat in front of my friends. So I didn't act a fool. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

X....well, however many ya wanna make it.

My mother is 4'10", about 93lbs, and THE single woman I most fear on this Earth. No, not like I'm afraid she could kick my ass or anything now that I am grown but there isn't a woman on Earth that I respect more than my mom. She and Dad both had no problems with creating an aching backside when my sister or I crossed the line.

I genuinely believe that we are bette people for it now that we are grown. I hear people commenting constantly about how much better my sister's kids behave than their contemporaries do. Sis has no compulsion about making it very clear to the kids who runs the show....just like our mom did us.

That's curiously absent in many (most) parents nowadays. Sad, really.

I'd like to know when normal, everyday-accepted discipline practices (spanking your kids when they screw up badly enough to deserve it) changed to child abuse. If you even consider taking a hand to a bottom nowadays kids will call Child Protective Services and try to have you locked up! If I had even suggested such a thing my dad would have picked the phone up and asked did I want him to dial it for me!

 

[psych0ticnemes1 5,000+ posts]

its not just in today, but its been like this for a good few yrs. Look at all the 14-16 yr olds around there parents didnt beat there azz. Yet you look into the 20+ and can see a diffrence in the people

i agree... i'm 19, but my mom grew up in a military family and wooped=ed my asseth

i love it when spoiled kids go to college and drop out in a month from depression... serves them pu$$ies right

 

[soundstreamer 10+ year member]

my kids don't talk back or throw fits. we raised them from day 1 with the same values/ rewards/ punishments i had when i was a child. i try not to spank my children, and opt for the removal of freedoms as punishment...but, that doesn't always work so i am forced to move to plan b from time to time. mentioning the idea of plan b will usually make them straighten up quickly.

 

[PV Audio 5,000+ posts]

shiit..my parents could beat some ***, that's why i respect adults so much now. when i was 6 or 7, i had the genius idea to try out my new vocabulary from school and call the phone operator a dumbass. needless to say, they knew the number that called them and they called back. i did not know this 'til a big black hand was beating my *** till it was red. it goes without saying i learned discipline..quickly.

 

[ramos 5,000+ posts]

I never respected my parents while growing up. Constant beatings and borderline abuse were not ideal parenting methods in my eyes growing up. I actually lost any chance at a relationship with my parents due to there "strong fist" upbringing. Fear and respect might be borderline emotions, but I would not want my kids to "fear" me.
There are always differencing opinions on parenting. In that situation best thing to do is not give in to the Childs "demands". IMO but no punishment would have been needed IMO.

I like to think that when I'm ready for children I can adopt a decent enough relationship with them where minimal physical punishment would be needed. But things never really go as planned...

I see your point. I might have felt like I feared my parents as a child sometimes. But at the same time when I did something right they were very loving. What may have spawned originally as fear, rapidly became respect as I grew older. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif