My Friend Has A Problem

[Slammed 5,000+ posts]

One of my friend's has a gf.....that searches through his stuff occassionally.

She said she trusts him, yet, she goes through his stuff when he's not home, sometimes checks his phone, and she even checks the forums to see if he is mentioning his past or her or other girls (ex: Jessica Alba etc.)

She promised him not to do it anymore...swore to him, right int he eyes...he tells me.

The other day she went through one of his forums and found out he was mentioning her (not in a negative way) and was giving relationship problems to his friend about a girl (which she thought was comparing his past).

They fought....now she doesnt trust him. But this is liek the 4th or 5th time she checked the forums.

Question is....who is wrong here?

Should he be less open on the net?

Is she just too paranoid?

And does anyone have relationship help for my friend...because I cant seem give him any advice.

He's been bugging me with this.....and he's a good guy. I thought I would ask you guys.

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[traksta15 10+ year member]

ask his gf why she lied to him.......and why she's so nosey.........

 

[guy022077 10+ year member]

i went through this EXACT same thing, she is too paranoid and should stay out of his stuff. I got yelled at for some crap i wrote 10 years ago gimme a break.she has now violated his space and he has one less place to complain/feel at home because of what she might do/say. It sucks but it is HER problem not his,if he isnt doing anything then she should calm down and grow up. She maybe doing something herself which is why she keeps such close watch on him so that she knows where he is while she is doing whatever.It is exhausting if he is in it for the long haul good luck.....youll need it.

 

[tRiGgEr 5,000+ posts]

It sounds like they are too immature to be in that relationship. From the story, she is very immature and needs to work on her own self esteem issues first.

Just break up with her dude. I know it's about you...

 

[Beat_Dominator 5,000+ posts]

She's just insecure, I'd probably tell her that. Maybe she'd realize she's going to cause more problems in relationships throughout her life if she keeps it up....

.....but that's wishful thinking, people don't tend to change behaviors like that. It's not a trust issue between her and him, she doesn't trust herself.

 

[Slammed 5,000+ posts]

so....

they broke up

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[Slammed 5,000+ posts]

It sounds like they are too immature to be in that relationship. From the story, she is very immature and needs to work on her own self esteem issues first.
Just break up with her dude. I know it's about you...

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[dkguitarist 5,000+ posts]

yeah. she's too paranoid and doesn't trust him.

that'll hinder the trust factor GREATLY.

trust is the biggest part of a relationship. if that can't be maintained, then it WILL fail somewhere down the tracks..

 

[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

so....

they broke up

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From the sounds of things that was the inevitable conclusion anyway.

Without trust there is nothing. Period. No two ways about it.

 

[SUB_URBAN 10+ year member]

From the sounds of things that was the inevitable conclusion anyway.
Without trust there is nothing. Period. No two ways about it.

Well you can still have wild hot *** without trust.

 

[Slammed 5,000+ posts]

Well you can still have wild hot *** without trust.

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[mtdewelf 10+ year member]

From the sounds of things that was the inevitable conclusion anyway.
Without trust there is nothing. Period. No two ways about it.

not only her having trust issues but if he can't do something as simple as not talk about his relationship to strangers then there are many more problems coming around the corner anyhow.

 

[dkguitarist 5,000+ posts]

break-up *** ftw.

 

[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

Well you can still have wild hot *** without trust.

Possibly but the subject of the thread was the continuation (or discontinuation) of a dedicated relationship.

So, what I said holds true. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[Slammed 5,000+ posts]

not only her having trust issues but if he can't do something as simple as not talk about his relationship to strangers then there are many more problems coming around the corner anyhow.

ahhh thats the thing

he never spoke about his relationship issues

he would mention "oh my gf is a Yankee fan"....small shyt like that

she didnt want him to mention her at all