for those that care about what happens in my life.

[Captain_Ahab 5,000+ posts]

Did better than I would have..I have a problem with revenge and would have made her life a living hell.

 

[Soler 10+ year member]

I hope your son doesn't have abandonment issues from this but it seems by your reaction that this is better for him?

 

[bigbangtheory 5,000+ posts]

sometimes it's in the best interest of the child. my kid has only known me for all of like 2 months. the ex married a new guy who took care of the child since she was born, and the kid calls him dad, so i decided to just give up my parental rights since the kid already has a good father, and i'm not financially equipped to care for a kid, nor am i the type of person who should be raising kids that will one day be released into society. imo it would've been selfish to start a custody battle for a 3 year who is just starting to learn life and who her parents are.

I am not financially ready to have a kid and I already watch over two and this will be my first real child. I just cant see not being a part of my childs life. Thank god the kid has a good role model in the step dad.

I do have to agree with you on you not being stable enough to raise a kid. Well probably just to immature, so I see your point there.

Personally I think your an *** for this, but is probably better off in the long run, but man that is sad!

 

[bigbangtheory 5,000+ posts]

Oh and congrads Mike, glad to hear the little one is with you.

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

I hope your son doesn't have abandonment issues from this but it seems by your reaction that this is better for him?

i dont see why he would. his mother will still be a part of his life, and I will always be here for him. He has yet to be abandoned. fyi he's only 4. and he's definatly much more happy over here since he has his own room, a puppy, a yard to play in. me and cartoons. what more could a 4 yr old want?

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

Congrats Mike. I think in some ways your son may be ahead of the game -- he has a parent who knows what it is like to not have him around so you appreciate him all the more. I know you will both do well.

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

yea, the more i think about the child support issue the more i think i'll put any money she gives me into a savings acct and use it for stuff he might need when he gets older.

 

[Kai Winters 10+ year member]

A close friend of mine was awarded full custody of his children and his ex wife was ordered to pay support.

She failed to pay and became a "deliquent mom" nearly going to jail for her disregard. It was an interesting change.

 

[iceteebone 5,000+ posts]

I am not financially ready to have a kid and I already watch over two and this will be my first real child. I just cant see not being a part of my childs life. Thank god the kid has a good role model in the step dad.
I do have to agree with you on you not being stable enough to raise a kid. Well probably just to immature, so I see your point there.

Personally I think your an *** for this, but is probably better off in the long run, but man that is sad!

i didn't realize i had a kid till after she was 2, and i really don't like kids and it works out best for everyone this way

 

[Grim 10+ year member]

Congrats! I cannot imagine not having a child of mine living with me.

And as much as Id like to say get the child support and run with it, if you guys are on good terms, and you dont need it, dont push it.

My mom never asked my dad for child support. She never needed it so why bother. Untill one day, he decided he didnt want to see me anymore(I have spoken to him twice in the last 16 years...) so at age 10 she asked for child support just to say **** you...However, if things had stayed good between them, she never would have messed that up.

But for me, with a double income family both making 6 figures a year...it meant the money went into savings. I received my last child support payment a few months ago. Being that I already bought my own car, and paid for pretty much everything i owned from working hard, it was all there minus what used for college...it was close to 100k minus the 20 i spent for an edumacation...

So, that is something to consider, your son could have alot of things taken care of for him in the future..

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

I am not financially ready to have a kid and I already watch over two and this will be my first real child. I just cant see not being a part of my childs life. Thank god the kid has a good role model in the step dad.
I do have to agree with you on you not being stable enough to raise a kid. Well probably just to immature, so I see your point there.

Personally I think your an *** for this, but is probably better off in the long run, but man that is sad!

It is good to know that you will be taking an active role in your bastard child's life. Well, at least until she moves on to the next guy. By the way, how is your relationship with your woman's babies' daddies?

 

[iceteebone 5,000+ posts]

It is good to know that you will be taking an active role in your bastard child's life. Well, at least until she moves on to the next guy. By the way, how is your relationship with your woman's babies' daddies?

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[Eugenics 5,000+ posts]

It is good to know that you will be taking an active role in your bastard child's life. Well, at least until she moves on to the next guy. By the way, how is your relationship with your woman's babies' daddies?

i want a bastard child of my own.

ill trade my amp.

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

i want a bastard child of my own.
ill trade my amp.

Why don't you just ask BigBang, he will soon have three little nappy headed bastards running around the loveshack.

 

[iceteebone 5,000+ posts]

Why don't you just ask BigBang, he will soon have three little nappy headed bastards running around the loveshack.

he and his jigaboo will have their work cut out for them