for those that care about what happens in my life.

[faulkton 5,000+ posts]

congrats.

It seems like you two have an amiable relationship, and that's always best for the kid.

If you have ever paid her structured/ordered child support, you should make her pay. Don't potentiate the double standard.

 

[bigwheel15 10+ year member]

Congrats mike. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[mrogowski 5,000+ posts]

Wow man that is awesome, congrats!
You don't hear about the dad getting full custody very often.

It's happening more often these days as today's women are more "career motivated"... //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/*******.gif.a649d21efc0d1fd4890a6428166586c1.gif

Good for you Mike.

 

[HitManSE 10+ year member]

Good to hear things worked out for the better.

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

i guess if you wanted the kid congrats

yes that is what i have wanted for quite some time, she saved me the money of having to take her to court.

good, hopefully she quickly amasses a large amount of money and dies in a fiery wreck leaving it all to your child in a trust fund.
that stupid *****. (not your child, your ex)

how could you just give up your child? i dont understand it.

honestly im not sure. but she's not in a financial situation to be able to care for my son right now anyways. so it works for me.

congrats.
It seems like you two have an amiable relationship, and that's always best for the kid.

If you have ever paid her structured/ordered child support, you should make her pay. Don't potentiate the double standard.

i have paid her child support since day one. she said she is going to pay child support, but honestly i dont need it. if she wants to pay it i'll take it. but i'll probably put it in a savings acct and use that money to buy him a car or something else in the future

 

[PollyCranopolis 10+ year member]

AT least in MD, child support is awarded the the custodial parent, based off a percentage of the monthy income of the non-custodial at the time of the hearing. Faliure to pay, or not paying for a 30 day or more period results in enforcement....however usually only at the request of the custodial parent. Usually a dunning letter is sent, followed by a license suspension warning, then suspension. Harsher forms of enforcement include revocation of profesional licenses and passports, reporting to the credit bureau, and tax interception. Wage garnishment is always the perfered method, and is required by law. In my experience, jail time is hardly ever a result of failing to pay, but rather an instance of failure to appear for a child support hearing to address issues. Each form of enforcement can only occur 30 days or more after the last was requested (30 days to respond with payment for a DV warning, then another 30 days from that point for an actual suspension to take place). Of course, no money can be collected if the non-custodial is in jail (unless on work release) or a foreign born citizen, who is out of the country. I've seen examples of non-custodials paying $18k a month in child support, then theres some shmuck who will hop three states to avoid paying $80 a month. In MD child support is so backed up its ridiculous. The single child support office for Prince Georges County for example, has 25 caseworkers, and over 200k active child support cases.

BTW...MD is one of the only states that does not charge interest on arrears (child support backpay owed). Still I would have to say the majority of cases I see, the non-custodial is between 1k and 10k in arrears.

 

[iceteebone 5,000+ posts]

how could you just give up your child? i dont understand it.

sometimes it's in the best interest of the child. my kid has only known me for all of like 2 months. the ex married a new guy who took care of the child since she was born, and the kid calls him dad, so i decided to just give up my parental rights since the kid already has a good father, and i'm not financially equipped to care for a kid, nor am i the type of person who should be raising kids that will one day be released into society. imo it would've been selfish to start a custody battle for a 3 year who is just starting to learn life and who her parents are.

 

[jimmclrk1 10+ year member]

Regardless, poor kid. Now he has a pretty ****ed up sense of human relationships.

 

[traksta15 10+ year member]

congrats!!

 

[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

Even though you crapped on my one thread after it was all crapped out...

Congrats man

 

[xtremebassjunky 10+ year member]

congrats.

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

AT least in MD, child support is awarded the the custodial parent, based off a percentage of the monthy income of the non-custodial at the time of the hearing. Faliure to pay, or not paying for a 30 day or more period results in enforcement....however usually only at the request of the custodial parent. Usually a dunning letter is sent, followed by a license suspension warning, then suspension. Harsher forms of enforcement include revocation of profesional licenses and passports, reporting to the credit bureau, and tax interception. Wage garnishment is always the perfered method, and is required by law. In my experience, jail time is hardly ever a result of failing to pay, but rather an instance of failure to appear for a child support hearing to address issues. Each form of enforcement can only occur 30 days or more after the last was requested (30 days to respond with payment for a DV warning, then another 30 days from that point for an actual suspension to take place). Of course, no money can be collected if the non-custodial is in jail (unless on work release) or a foreign born citizen, who is out of the country. I've seen examples of non-custodials paying $18k a month in child support, then theres some shmuck who will hop three states to avoid paying $80 a month. In MD child support is so backed up its ridiculous. The single child support office for Prince Georges County for example, has 25 caseworkers, and over 200k active child support cases.
BTW...MD is one of the only states that does not charge interest on arrears (child support backpay owed). Still I would have to say the majority of cases I see, the non-custodial is between 1k and 10k in arrears.

interesting, not exactly relavent to my situation tho. but interesting none the less.

sometimes it's in the best interest of the child. my kid has only known me for all of like 2 months. the ex married a new guy who took care of the child since she was born, and the kid calls him dad, so i decided to just give up my parental rights since the kid already has a good father, and i'm not financially equipped to care for a kid, nor am i the type of person who should be raising kids that will one day be released into society. imo it would've been selfish to start a custody battle for a 3 year who is just starting to learn life and who her parents are.

i agree with you there, but if nothing else you should at least try to be a part of her life once she gets older if she so desires to have a relationship with you.

Regardless, poor kid. Now he has a pretty ****ed up sense of human relationships.

what do you mean? my son has never seen anything but good things as far as relationships go on my side. keep in mind the most influential roll model in a young childs life is the same *** parent. with that being said, i do my best to show my son what it is to be a man.

Even though you crapped on my one thread after it was all crapped out...
Congrats man

i didnt crap on it, i simply discussed the issue as you requested.

 

[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

i didnt crap on it, i simply discussed the issue as you requested.

Well, regardless, congrats. It's always good to hear when a father gets full custody of his kid(s).

 

[Captain_Ahab 5,000+ posts]

Congrats on the win Mike..

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

it surprised me to say the least. i suppose she's finally realizing i've been very nice to her when it came to our son over the last 2 yrs and i could have made her life much worse but i didnt.