I am not married or really plan on getting married unless I find someone absolutely perfect way down the road. My parents have been married for 23 years now. I'm not exactly sure how they make it work, but both seem to be happy.
It probably helps that my dad was raised a strict Catholic, even though he isn't really religious any more. My mom is pretty devout, always having strong faith to get through difficult times. Divorce being frowned upon by our church is probably one reason. Another is probably the paternal grandparents. My grandma and grandpa were together for 56(?) years I think, until my grandpa died. More on that in the next paragraph. My maternal grandparents divorced, I'm not sure how long in. But, after that I don't think my mom wanted to go through that even after having one marriage annulled. Mom and dad were also concerned about me as well.
My mom and dad have had their ups and downs. My dad can be an asshole sometimes and would get pissed at my mom for clutter and stuff around the house or he would flip out on me for no good reason about school and stuff. I think my mom was a little afraid of him, but she stuck with it and now my dad doesn't have serious anger episodes any more, at us anyway. My paternal grandparents, this is gonna be fun to explain. My grandpa would leave for long periods of time traveling the world for weird side projects and work that he spent a lot of the family income on. But, my grandma stayed with him for so long. Even until his later years where alzheimers turned him into a shell of a man and she took care of him. She is pretty neurotic and stubborn so maybe that helped.
I don't know how to explain it, but even with issues both made it work. We live in a throw away society now, but my family put effort into it. Of course, we haven't had any real financial hardships. Both parents have good job security with decent incomes. Also, my grandparents and my parents had only one child. So, just find someone that you really love, don't get married until you are truly ready and have some stability and when things get tough just stick through it and make things work. That's all the advice I can give. I haven't been in any serious relationships but that is because I haven't found any girls worth sticking with and the ones I have, are already taken by some other douchebag.
It probably helps that my dad was raised a strict Catholic, even though he isn't really religious any more. My mom is pretty devout, always having strong faith to get through difficult times. Divorce being frowned upon by our church is probably one reason. Another is probably the paternal grandparents. My grandma and grandpa were together for 56(?) years I think, until my grandpa died. More on that in the next paragraph. My maternal grandparents divorced, I'm not sure how long in. But, after that I don't think my mom wanted to go through that even after having one marriage annulled. Mom and dad were also concerned about me as well.
My mom and dad have had their ups and downs. My dad can be an asshole sometimes and would get pissed at my mom for clutter and stuff around the house or he would flip out on me for no good reason about school and stuff. I think my mom was a little afraid of him, but she stuck with it and now my dad doesn't have serious anger episodes any more, at us anyway. My paternal grandparents, this is gonna be fun to explain. My grandpa would leave for long periods of time traveling the world for weird side projects and work that he spent a lot of the family income on. But, my grandma stayed with him for so long. Even until his later years where alzheimers turned him into a shell of a man and she took care of him. She is pretty neurotic and stubborn so maybe that helped.
I don't know how to explain it, but even with issues both made it work. We live in a throw away society now, but my family put effort into it. Of course, we haven't had any real financial hardships. Both parents have good job security with decent incomes. Also, my grandparents and my parents had only one child. So, just find someone that you really love, don't get married until you are truly ready and have some stability and when things get tough just stick through it and make things work. That's all the advice I can give. I haven't been in any serious relationships but that is because I haven't found any girls worth sticking with and the ones I have, are already taken by some other douchebag.
