Adopted gf parents cutting her off completly what to do?

[bizflawless 5,000+ posts]

well u dont want to lose her right?

 

[bizflawless 5,000+ posts]

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You have 2 options.

Option #1: You will be with her and have a sh!tty time. It will be a mistake.

Option #2: You can let it go, you'll get over it and wonder why you were such a dumb@ss for even thinking so much about it down the road.

Id choose the latter.

Your head is obviously a bit clouded up atm. Realistically, can you support her? do you even want to support her (really think about that one) I didnt ask do you want to get laid, I said do you really want to have someone you are responsible for?

You're still young and have a ways to go, dont let something stupid like this get it your way. This will just be one of those things you'll look back it and wonder wtf was wrong with you. Just like now, most of us here with a clear mind are wondering wtf is wrong with you.

There are A LOT...alot lot lot lot of ladies out there, and TWICE as many *****!! :boobies:

Im not trying to sit here and insult you, just think real. Let it go and do what you have to do for yourself. Thats my .02

easier said than done but he is telling the truth

 

[quest51210 10+ year member]

well then if u already have your mind set then do what u got to do to make it work

dude, you are on the net asking for advice. you need to grow up. in the many forums i am on in the last 6 years i have only announced my engagement, career advancement, and 2 months ago the ******* of a close instructor and even that was just a vent and it wasnt on here since you can expect alot of BS on here. why dont you GROW UP and get friends/family to assist you or just go //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/*******.gif.a649d21efc0d1fd4890a6428166586c1.gif yourself like my ******* instructor for giving up the fight. man up and or STFU

 

[trunks9_us 10+ year member]

thx for your input thats how i was thinking at first until i realized that i do love her and i want to marry her when i get out of college but i guess i am afraid that she might find someone else if i am not with her enough to talk to her or be there for her u know.

Read post #49
You have 2 options.

Option #1: You will be with her and have a sh!tty time. It will be a mistake.

Option #2: You can let it go, you'll get over it and wonder why you were such a dumb@ss for even thinking so much about it down the road.

Id choose the latter.

Your head is obviously a bit clouded up atm. Realistically, can you support her? do you even want to support her (really think about that one) I didnt ask do you want to get laid, I said do you really want to have someone you are responsible for?

You're still young and have a ways to go, dont let something stupid like this get it your way. This will just be one of those things you'll look back it and wonder wtf was wrong with you. Just like now, most of us here with a clear mind are wondering wtf is wrong with you.

There are A LOT...alot lot lot lot of ladies out there, and TWICE as many *****!! :boobies:

Im not trying to sit here and insult you, just think real. Let it go and do what you have to do for yourself. Thats my .02

 

[bizflawless 5,000+ posts]

dude, you are on the net asking for advice. you need to grow up. in the many forums i am on in the last 6 years i have only announced my engagement, career advancement, and 2 months ago the ******* of a close instructor and even that was just a vent and it wasnt on here since you can expect alot of BS on here. why dont you GROW UP and get friends/family to assist you or just go //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/*******.gif.a649d21efc0d1fd4890a6428166586c1.gif yourself like my ******* instructor for giving up the fight. man up grow and or STFU

u forgot to add grow ......o and were u talking to me? u quoted me //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/confused.gif.e820e0216602db4765798ac39d28caa9.gif

 

[trunks9_us 10+ year member]

idk who i am talking ot i am so lost lol

 

[bizflawless 5,000+ posts]

thx for your input thats how i was thinking at first until i realized that i do love her and i want to marry her when i get out of college but i guess i am afraid that she might find someone else if i am not with her enough to talk to her or be there for her u know.

gotta have trust and have security in your relationship for it to work

 

[quest51210 10+ year member]

why would she need a cell phone if she moved in with you? you are all she needs right...lol!

i called it like 5 pages ago. you are scared...you are insecure and if you feel like that now it wont get better. especially if she moves in with you and hits 21. she is gonna wanna run out on you. luckily i started to settle down at 22 and so was my girl. been together almost 4 years now.

 

[trunks9_us 10+ year member]

but only seeing her for onec a month may be and thats it is not a lot of security and alot of trust plus her mom told me we will never like you even if she does stay her.

 

[bizflawless 5,000+ posts]

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[trunks9_us 10+ year member]

well i am at work right now and i like to talk to her on the phone u know.

and if we did move in i would get roommates at my place girl room mates that way she can feel better and shit.

why would she need a cell phone if she moved in with you? you are all she needs right...lol!
i called it like 5 pages ago. you are scared...you are insecure and if you feel like that now it wont get better. especially if she moves in with you and hits 21. she is gonna wanna run out on you. luckily i started to settle down at 22 and so was my girl. been together almost 4 years now.

 

[trunks9_us 10+ year member]

i trust her its just i start to wander if she will leave me later on if things get really rough thats all but shes been with me so far in the roughness of school and its been rough for me i make worse grades for me and zshes always been there to helpp me out with school and money.

 

[trunks9_us 10+ year member]

ok lets vote then type 1 for her to come with me and type 2 for her to stay home. I just wanna see a poll

 

[quest51210 10+ year member]

my girls mom hated me and her step dad hated the hell outta me. they would lecture me every other day, but it worked out. took me over a year to prove myself to them. of course my woman is very different. you know at 26(now) and doesnt technically live at home anymore...when she visits for the holidays she still has a curfew. mind you its 3am, but we hardly stay out that late anymore. if at 26 she still honors her mothers wishes and is very respectful and responsible to all around her and about to complete her PhD...thats exceptional

her younger sisters also got full rides to major universities and are responsible as well. considering it was a single parent home for the most part i think its crazy in this day and age to hear such success.

 

[HitManSE 10+ year member]

easier said than done but he is telling the truth

I know, its hard.

When you're not thinking right you dont understand that. You cant see that as the truth. You'll look for any reason, any reason at all that will make what I said false. Thats what a clouded mind does.

Its not though. Its true, that usually is discovered the hard way. He'll come to that realisation. He'll be lucky if he doesnt end up in a depression for a little while.

Ive learned from MY mistakes and still see people making stupid ones all the time. Also the reason im so blunt, especially when it comes to this subject.

thx for your input thats how i was thinking at first until i realized that i do love her and i want to marry her when i get out of college but i guess i am afraid that she might find someone else if i am not with her enough to talk to her or be there for her u know.

No problem.

Regardless of what you're thinking atm though. Its got to end, even if there is hope for it down the line. Do the long distance thing. Ill tell you now, there isnt too much chance of it working that way but you'll come to realise that yourself.

You said you love her? then let her go and see what happens. If things are still going after you're done with college, cool. Just dont let this get in your way. Consider it taking a break to get things done and let things turn out however they will.

Good luck.