Adopted gf parents cutting her off completly what to do?

[Rich B 5,000+ posts]

Since she's legally an adult theres nothing she could do to force her parents to continue supporting her.

I will say though that it really sounds like they only want her to stay at home and continue her education, and that this is a parental ploy to achieve that.

If she agreed to that her parents might rethink the no support stuff.

 

[trunks9_us 10+ year member]

that is true but i can help her out also and they dont see this she will listen to me more then her mom just caus eim her bf her mom says taking things away will fix it all. what do u think?

well sounds like they dont want to let go of their baby........but they see u as a distraction, because shes not focused on the future (school) shes more into leaving home and being with you, with in the future will be bad for both of u, if u dont both focus on school and ur futures..

 

[trunks9_us 10+ year member]

true but why would your adopted parents who adopt you take everything away and not just help you out and supopsrt your decision?

Since she's legally an adult theres nothing she could do to force her parents to continue supporting her.
I will say though that it really sounds like they only want her to stay at home and continue her education, and that this is a parental ploy to achieve that.

If she agreed to that her parents might rethink the no support stuff.

 

[bizflawless 5,000+ posts]

Well if u both think its whats best then the only way is to get jobs and make it work with each other, that means she cant get help from mommy and daddy, even if they do take away car and phone u guys working can save money for that...

 

[trunks9_us 10+ year member]

its hard to sav e up money for a car and pay rent and go to college u know.

 

[bizflawless 5,000+ posts]

true but why would your adopted parents who adopt you take everything away and not just help you out and supopsrt your decision?

because of everything rich said. in other words there threatening her because they have nothing else to say or give to make her stay

 

[trunks9_us 10+ year member]

canb they really take away her clothes bed and make up ect. stuff like that?

cause they said they will only leave her with one weeks worth of clothes?

 

[bizflawless 5,000+ posts]

its hard to sav e up money for a car and pay rent and go to college u know.

yea i know its gonna be hard, no one said it was easy but if u guys think its best for the both of u, thats the only way u will make it

 

[quest51210 10+ year member]

parent are supose to be there to help you not take everything away and thats what they are doing taking the car away so she has to struggle?? no cell phone no health insurance no dental ect. no one to pay for the birth control what kinda of helpful parent is this sound like a big indian giver to me lol.

i been paying my own bills since i was 16, even paid rent to my folks of $100 a month. had car insurance, bought my own car, had my own cellphone. i was freakin 16. she is an adult, if she doesnt like their rules then they have all the rights in the world to boot her out

BTW if you love her sooo much, why dont you provide all this for her? i think thats the issue, you do not want to take care of her like that. you are sounding like the indian giver!

 

[bizflawless 5,000+ posts]

canb they really take away her clothes bed and make up ect. stuff like that?cause they said they will only leave her with one weeks worth of clothes?

if she didnt buy it, yes they can take it away

 

[trunks9_us 10+ year member]

her mom sounded very serious to me. so lets say she does come with me and they do **** her over then what ?

Her mom told me there keeping the hpouse around for her and that there ryd to retire age is 62 her mom is. so they said they were going to sell the house and buy a rv. if this all happens and her mom said she couldnt keep her pictures and stuff either. it does sound like there trying to scare me i know but how can you be so sure there not bsing u?

 

[bizflawless 5,000+ posts]

i been paying my own bills since i was 16, even paid rent to my folks of $100 a month. had car insurance, bought my own car, had my own cellphone. i was freakin 16. she is an adult, if she doesnt like their rules then they have all the rights in the world to boot her out

BTW if you love her sooo much, why dont you provide all this for her? i think thats the issue, you do not want to take care of her like that. you are sounding like the indian giver!

well u have to give him the benefit of the doubt he is still in college and trying to provide for himself but thats what im trying to tell him, that its gonna be hard for a while for the both of them if they go thru with this

 

[bizflawless 5,000+ posts]

her mom sounded very serious to me. so lets say she does come with me and they do **** her over then what ?Her mom told me there keeping the hpouse around for her and that there ryd to retire age is 62 her mom is. so they said they were going to sell the house and buy a rv. if this all happens and her mom said she couldnt keep her pictures and stuff either. it does sound like there trying to scare me i know but how can you be so sure there not bsing u?

honestly i dont think u can, its one of those take the risk or not things...

 

[trunks9_us 10+ year member]

I cant afford it all for her cause my parents dont support me i support myself also the other thing is she was raised richy type girl she is a blond e and not to bright in some areas i know she will learn but dumping it on her will be har di would think u know i just dont think she is rdy for the real world plus she has problems fomr her birth mom lots of them like her mom drank alot when she was pregant with her so she has problems like seeing teeth and mental i guess shes not dumb just not all there know.

i been paying my own bills since i was 16, even paid rent to my folks of $100 a month. had car insurance, bought my own car, had my own cellphone. i was freakin 16. she is an adult, if she doesnt like their rules then they have all the rights in the world to boot her out

BTW if you love her sooo much, why dont you provide all this for her? i think thats the issue, you do not want to take care of her like that. you are sounding like the indian giver!

 

[trunks9_us 10+ year member]

and i cant pay for her hospital bills when shit like this occurs i dont make enough u know