if you are not sure which "blue" wire is the rem turn on... put your dmm or test light on one of the wires, with the cd on, one of the leads should be "dead" as soon as you switch over to fm radio this lead should energize... if it does not turn on/off with the radio then it is proibably your remote line.. if it does, it is your antennae line-- just a little basic troubleshooting is all you need to do here. There are also On-line manuals for almost every radio either at the manf site or just google it.
p.s... the "drain wire" is not really used anymore due to the current ability/sheilding of the rca's -- if you are running one or two amps, use the embedded wire as your remote turn on lead and save yourself the hassle of running another wire...