How to get my parents to like subs

[luvinthebass 5,000+ posts]

tell em if you don't get bass in your life you'll have major withdrawl symtoms, they don't wanna have a *****y kid now do they //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

 

[saywhat? 5,000+ posts]

1st thing you arent a kid:laugh: you may act like one. but you arent one.

2nd I say use the truck until you get enough money to buy a decent POS lol then give the truck back to your parents. it will do you good in the long run //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

i still fail to realize how driving a shitty car makes you a better person......

all driving a shitty car does is make you a person with a shitty car LOL. I have had a 2000 dollar mazda truck, and now i have a 20,000 dollar 05 mustang. I bet you can gues which I would choose be it a choice between the two.

What im saying is, just because someone can get a NEW car, for FREE, doesnt make them spoiled. His parents have done good for themselves obviously and have what they like, therefore have the money to spend on him to have a nice ride. My parents WOULDNT BUY a used car for me, period. I had my mazda, the rings went bad, wasnt hardly worth fixing at the time. I wish we could of atleast towed it up here to fix it. Dad said to donate it, I did. He said I CANNOT GET A USED car again for my daily driver....therefore I HAD to get a NEW CAR. I would LOVE to have the mazda truck over my brand new mustang.

 

[saywhat? 5,000+ posts]

I agree with that. I had a lot of classmates who took their situation for granted and drove their vehicles with reckless abandon. If my kid is dumb and irresponsible enough to wrap his car around a tree. Then he's walking till he can afford his own ride.

maybe your not thinking at all...

that is THOSE KIDS, this kid isnt one of them so you have no room to speak of what he will do. Some of us are responsible enough to not go flying around town double the speed limit. My 05 hasnt been over 90 yet, theres no reason for it. The only reason its been up to 90 is because everyone else was cruising that fast going to get wings from the last florida meet.

 

[Jep772 10+ year member]

just throw 6 15's in that btch and tell em to stfu

 

[Crzy 10+ year member]

eh my parents did that too till i just said **** you and leave me alone. m and my parents dont have hte best relationship neway so it didnt bother me to shun them away for me to enjoy my hobby that i pay for newho

 

[saywhat? 5,000+ posts]

eh my parents did that too till i just said **** you and leave me alone. m and my parents dont have hte best relationship neway so it didnt bother me to shun them away for me to enjoy my hobby that i pay for newho

if they bought you the car......your a straight up dick.

I have had 4 or 5 hell...probably more than that....setups in my mustang figureing a way to get EXACTLY what I want, and still have my spare accessible. My dad (and mom) bought the car, and said whatever I do, it can't void warranty, and it can't delete the spare tire.

 

[Crzy 10+ year member]

no car was free from a relatives death given to me and yea they didnt pay for anything in it

 

[skadude016 5,000+ posts]

i still fail to realize how driving a shitty car makes you a better person......
all driving a shitty car does is make you a person with a shitty car LOL. I have had a 2000 dollar mazda truck, and now i have a 20,000 dollar 05 mustang. I bet you can gues which I would choose be it a choice between the two.

What im saying is, just because someone can get a NEW car, for FREE, doesnt make them spoiled. His parents have done good for themselves obviously and have what they like, therefore have the money to spend on him to have a nice ride. My parents WOULDNT BUY a used car for me, period. I had my mazda, the rings went bad, wasnt hardly worth fixing at the time. I wish we could of atleast towed it up here to fix it. Dad said to donate it, I did. He said I CANNOT GET A USED car again for my daily driver....therefore I HAD to get a NEW CAR. I would LOVE to have the mazda truck over my brand new mustang.

ya but just giving a new car to a kid is a horrible idea. by them buying there own car it teaches them how to manage their money. how to care about their stuff more. and also its theirs. its an awesome feeling knowing you bought the car yourself. sure it might **** to drive a POS but its your POS! makes it that much better

 

[andy6387 10+ year member]

my dad bought me my new truck as an incentive to do well in high school and get a good scholarship, and then do well in college. Here i am 3 years later with a 75% tuition coverage and i still have my truck. I manage my money very well (atleast i did until i sprung on that 15" Q). I work 5 days a week while going to class full time. There are more ways to learn how to manage your money than owning your OWN shitty car lol

 

[scotsman 10+ year member]

i still think your best bet is getting them to appreciate a good home theater so that they can hear the improvements themselves then work from there.

 

[scotsman 10+ year member]

my dad bought me my new truck as an incentive to do well in high school and get a good scholarship, and then do well in college. Here i am 3 years later with a 75% tuition coverage and i still have my truck. I manage my money very well (atleast i did until i sprung on that 15" Q). I work 5 days a week while going to class full time. There are more ways to learn how to manage your money than owning your OWN shitty car lol

but since they had to have a shitty 1st car everyone has to... //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/rolleyes.gif.c1fef805e9d1464d377451cd5bc18bfb.gif

 

[xslothlovechunk 10+ year member]

well not having a shitty car doesn't mean that you should go get a new chevy Avalanche, which look like they go from $33k up for base model.

while i don't agree that you have to own a shit box at first, i think it can be disadvantageous to receive something of that value at such a young age. And when you get things like that it's not rare for people not to appreciate things. I know quite a few people like that.

I was designing my car audio system from the age of 14. piecing together things, birthday presents, xmas, while saving up by working everynight after school from the age of 15. then finally buying a used Mazda B2200 at the age of 16. I didn't have enough $ so my parents bought it. only after drawing up a strict payment plan to pay them back over the course of a year.

when you are on a limited budget you learn how to research and stretch out your money. and it makes you appreciate things when you do get them, because you spend such a long time actually figuring out what you wanted and what was the best value. not just going down the street and paying someone $1500 for something you can do for $500.

and i can't imagine if there was as much info as there is now on the web 14 years ago when i was 14. now it's so easy to learn from everyone on here and get opinions and feedback.

 

[andy6387 10+ year member]

i would love to see the empirical evidence stating that it is disadvantageous to receive something of high value at a young age //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/rolleyes.gif.c1fef805e9d1464d377451cd5bc18bfb.gif

I was designing my system at 16. i did all the research, paid for everything out of my own pocket with money that i earned working. Having a nice car does not make you spoiled, nor does it give you an unlimited budget.

My dad may have paid for my 27000 dollar vehicle, my insurance and my gas, but that doesn't mean i'm spoiled. It just means that my dad doesn't want to see me driving some shitbox of a vehicle. He'd rather me be safe in a functional vehicle that will last me for many years. As i said above, i work 5 days a week while taking 15 hours of college classes. In highschool when i wasn't working i was doing sports. When i wasn't doing sports i was working.

Having nice things does not make you spoiled. Bad parenting is what makes you spoiled. Being spoiled is when you think you are entitled to having something. There are spoiled poor people and non-spoiled rich people.

 

[JimJ 5,000+ posts]

Being spoiled is when you think you are entitled to having something.

Like a stereo system?

 

[xslothlovechunk 10+ year member]

Sure, everyone wants to provide for their kids. At what point does giving into their every want become detrimental to their development????

Not saying that about the kid here on the forum. However, you can't deny that this topic isn't an issue nowadays.

But there are definitely alot of studies on this topic.

OK, since you wanted some Evidence. just some from studies i found in the past 15 minutes online!!!

Quotes pertaining to STUDIES::::

"There's a disconnect between effort and reward," said Florida psychologist Gary Buffone, "Over time kids don't learn to deal with frustration well. They're used to getting what they want when they want it. And there's a loss of energy, ambition and motivation."

"Spoiling kids isn't tied to a parent's net worth as much as to a style of parenting," he said. "It's where parents rely more on things and money than on direct involvement with their kids. It's a kind of selling out."

"Now teens under 15 control $40 billion in purchasing power and use it lavishly - the average 18- or 19-year-old spends more than $9,600 annually, according to MarketResearch."

professor at the Harvard School of Public Health

"Kindlon attributes the lenient attitude of parents to numerous factors, including the frequency of both parents in a household to be working. In some cases, he says, they are too tired to enforce the rules. In other cases, they feel guilty for having to spend less time with their children and compensate by giving them things or not making them do chores."

research shows that children whose parents set limits, instill good values and discipline with love are more likely to develop the kinds of coping skills they need for future happiness. He said 12 percent of the children in his survey were those kinds of kids.

They didn’t use drugs, they weren’t mean, lazy or spoiled, and they weren’t anxious or depressed.

Among other things, they frequently ate dinner with their families, and regularly did community service ."

Only 12% of kids in a survey of 1000 weren't depressed or showed signs of being spoiled? that's kinda sad.