Forgive Cheating?

[2kchevy06civic 5,000+ posts]

Never cheated, never will.
Unforgiveable, period.

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I never have cheated either. I've messed up in another really big way would I guess could be considered just as bad but I've never cheated on a g/f of mine.

I think it can be forgiven but you're kidding yourself if you think the complete trust will be there again. It never will. I've tried and 100% complete trust will just never be there. I think since it happened so long ago he should let it go because well, it was over a year ago and things have been great. But now that he knows, he will always wonder whenever he's not with her.

 

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there are a lot worse things in life then your girlfriend/boyfriend cheating on you.

They could cheat on you and then kill you for example.

Or cheat on you and then tie you up one night and molest you then kill you

 

[jfink 10+ year member]

rican25 Re: Forgive Cheating?
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let her go, that shit will never rest. and she will do it again!!! almost a given...

anyway her morals ****.... he came close but something told him not to.... his are in question but then again he is a guy and thats ok for us.

thats obsurd...man don't have the right to cheat anymore than women do.....period.

My understanding is that their problems weren't from her cheating on him; it was other things that led her to cheat on him. Now a year and a half later he looks through her personal belongs and finds out that she cheated on him, that right there shows that he doesn't trust her; a year and a half later at this point he never will again. He needs to tell her what he found out and end the relationship she should have told him about it when they "worked things out" and tell her that the trust is gone. if she really does care about him they can still communicate their problems over time until they both(he went snooping behind her back so him too) regain each others trust and try the relationship again or she could say F**k you and thats that, but if he doesn't confront her on it he will NEVER trust her and that WILL cause more problems down the road including her cheating on him again, she done it once she won't hesitate to do it again when the "time" comes.

Thats what i would do, tell her that or relationship(G/F wife whatever) is over. if she cares she will try and keep it, thats when you discusse things over time to let the wounds heal and the trust to come back.

just my 2 cents take it or leave

 

[jfink 10+ year member]

Oh and by the way i've never cheated on a woman, if i wanted to stick my dick in another girl i ended the relationship. If you sleep with another woman while with somebody else it shows NO respect for your partner.

 

[Korn4Life 5,000+ posts]

Give her one last blast then when your finished show her pics of you and her sister or best friend gettin it on... They dont like that one bit..

 

[DBDRAGGUY 10+ year member]

My best friend just called me and said his girlfriend of almost 5 years he now has pretty solid proof that she cheated. The only thing is it was over a year ago and the problems they were having then have been worked out and things have been great for a long time.

Are you guys able to forgive cheating? Is that even possible? Should he just let this go and wait and see if it happens again? He loves her alot, and sorta understands the situation. During the time she cheated he was thinking about doing it as well, came close a few times but never did..........

Been on the phone with him for like 2 hours. I'm so pissed at her i cant go back to sleep, i cant imagine what hes feeling.

It is time for some Icy Hot on her side of the condom, If she stays around after that then it is even.

 

[jfink 10+ year member]

^^^^^^ i will x2 that though

 

[SRim23 5,000+ posts]

It is time for some Icy Hot on her side of the condom, If she stays around after that then it is even.

haha i lol'd on that one. ill have to relay the message.

i think hes gonna stay with her but i think its going to be tough. i know my girlfriend told me alittle white lie a couple months ago and i still find myself questioning her sometimes. i couldnt imagine trying to forgive cheating. i went through that once with a girl and i said id never do that again.

i just hope this doesnt get to him like it got to me in my past relationship. wasnt good times at all.

 

[TurdFergueson2 5,000+ posts]

My best friend just called me and said his girlfriend of almost 5 years he now has pretty solid proof that she cheated. The only thing is it was over a year ago and the problems they were having then have been worked out and things have been great for a long time.

Are you guys able to forgive cheating? Is that even possible? Should he just let this go and wait and see if it happens again? He loves her alot, and sorta understands the situation. During the time she cheated he was thinking about doing it as well, came close a few times but never did..........

Been on the phone with him for like 2 hours. I'm so pissed at her i cant go back to sleep, i cant imagine what hes feeling.

More than likely your buddy will go back. Just tell the miserable lovesick sack of shit to cut out the middleman and just take a shot in the mouth from the next dude she's gonna **** off. Your friend's girl is a wh0re and can never be trusted. If he decides to keep her around he should let you hit.

 

[mcsoul 10+ year member]

I guess I have a different perspective:

frikken filter.

here we go:

 

[Jmac 10+ year member]

My best friend just called me and said his girlfriend of almost 5 years he now has pretty solid proof that she cheated. The only thing is it was over a year ago and the problems they were having then have been worked out and things have been great for a long time.

Are you guys able to forgive cheating? Is that even possible? Should he just let this go and wait and see if it happens again? He loves her alot, and sorta understands the situation. During the time she cheated he was thinking about doing it as well, came close a few times but never did..........

Been on the phone with him for like 2 hours. I'm so pissed at her i cant go back to sleep, i cant imagine what hes feeling.

If he loves her a lot, he will forgive her for it, although I'm sure he'll be pissed short term and probably bring it up in every major fight until their relationship falls apart and they're both left as empty, broken vessels in the form of human bodies.

 

[SRim23 5,000+ posts]

If he loves her a lot, he will forgive her for it, although I'm sure he'll be pissed short term and probably bring it up in every major fight until their relationship falls apart and they're both left as empty, broken vessels in the form of human bodies.

yea, thats basically what i told him actually. thats what happened with me and my ex. although i never proved she cheated on me i had good reason to believe she did.

if he can get over it, more power to him but i know i dont think id be able to.