Forgive Cheating?

[Haunz 10+ year member]

If I was sure she wasn't cheating still, and wouldn't again.. I would forgive her.. But I'd also cheat on her at least once.. would never be able to forgive/forget otherwise...

It's been several years and I'm still pissed at my sons mom for being a lying cheating *****... tried to forgive her and tried working things out and she went and ****ed three more guys behind my back all while lying through her teeth about it.. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/verymad.gif.3f39c5c2fd57527b671fad3efdfac756.gif

 

[SRim23 5,000+ posts]

Everyone makes mistakes. If it was a long time ago, he should have a sit down with her and get the shit settled. She did it, okay, it's not right in any way, but people are going to **** up at some point. That's just me. If it's been back and it's been good for over a year, and she's genuinely upset about it/ feels horrid about it, I say that's a good thing and it will more than likely prevent her from doing it in the future, if she's honestly upset.
I say forgive and forget.

On another note though, it sucks that the trust wont be there for a long time.

see heres the thing. he suspected her of cheating, they fought off and on for months over it. she swore to the holy heavens she never cheated, even threatened to break up with him cause he didnt trust her.

thing is she left her laptop over his house. his curiosity got the best of him and checked all her saved passwords. he logged onto her myspace, checked her inbox for messages from this guy. well ones from over a year ago confirmed she had in fact cheated. but a couple weeks after those messages she stopped talking to the guy. im assuming she felt guilty realized she ****ed up and decided to stay away from him.....

thats why its a catch 22 for him. here he is snopping cause he still didnt trust her, but he caught her....... he figures its over, was a short thing until she realized she messed up. doesnt want her to know that hes got all her passwords. figures hell just keep an eye on her for a while and see if it happens again.....

thats the only reason hes considering just letting it go for now....

 

[Rashaddd 5,000+ posts]

i dont know how anyone can have any respect for a ***** that cheats on them...he'll never look at his gf in the same way, he'll never feel secure about it and will always wonder what she's up to

I say just let her go..if you can't trust someone, you can't have a positive relationship with him/her, and he'll likely never be able to trust her fully. Its not worth the anxiety and future torture of the situation, might as well just end it now

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

She wont come back if he lets her go, fyi. And it'll all be his fault too.

Anywho, that is very ****ed up that she denied it in the first place, but to an extent I can understand why. I would call that ***** out on the shit personally, say that I knew for a fact, and as long as she was willing to be honest we'd work through it.

If she gets pissy, threatens shit, lies, whatever - I'd walk away and tell her to have a great day getting gangbanged by messicans.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

Either way it needs to be addressed. That is not something you keep inside of you, and if he knows for a fact then he needs to let her know what the business is. Like I said, if she lies walk on out the door pimpin, she wasn't worth the time and there's osmeone out there that wont lie and cheat on you.

 

[Rashaddd 5,000+ posts]

see heres the thing. he suspected her of cheating, they fought off and on for months over it. she swore to the holy heavens she never cheated, even threatened to break up with him cause he didnt trust her.
thing is she left her laptop over his house. his curiosity got the best of him and checked all her saved passwords. he logged onto her myspace, checked her inbox for messages from this guy. well ones from over a year ago confirmed she had in fact cheated. but a couple weeks after those messages she stopped talking to the guy. im assuming she felt guilty realized she ****ed up and decided to stay away from him.....

thats why its a catch 22 for him. here he is snopping cause he still didnt trust her, but he caught her....... he figures its over, was a short thing until she realized she messed up. doesnt want her to know that hes got all her passwords. figures hell just keep an eye on her for a while and see if it happens again.....

thats the only reason hes considering just letting it go for now....

and see..he'll never be able to trust her again...no matter how hard he tries it'll always be in the back of his mind...and they'll never have that mutual trust a relationship needs again

 

[Rashaddd 5,000+ posts]

Either way it needs to be addressed. That is not something you keep inside of you, and if he knows for a fact then he needs to let her know what the business is. Like I said, if she lies walk on out the door pimpin, she wasn't worth the time and there's osmeone out there that wont lie and cheat on you.

x2, have him just straight up say to her that he KNOWS she cheated, and tell her not to try and deny it, he knows for a fact, and he wants to talk about it. She still denies it and keeps lyin to your face, leave it at that and be done with her.

 

[MisterGrubbs 5,000+ posts]

and see..he'll never be able to trust her again...no matter how hard he tries it'll always be in the back of his mind...and they'll never have that mutual trust a relationship needs again

Agreed bro, and trust is one of the most important things. I'm going through this with a very good friend of mine right now because I dont trust her very much. I'm getting there slowly but more and more everyday. It's just rough, and no matter what there is ALWAYS something in the back if your mind saying she's lying about where she's going.

Its rough. Love>Pain?

 

[chunky cumz 10+ year member]

obviously, putting a thumb in the turd cutter isnt everyone thing, how about putting the end of a broom in that *****, that'll show that ***** whos boss!

 

[ngsm13 5,000+ posts]

eh, plot a murder, get that thumb in the turd cutter and then go azz2mouth.

STFU before I ban you...

 

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[ngsm13 5,000+ posts]

Never cheated, never will.

Unforgiveable, period.

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[DBfan187 5,000+ posts]

set him up with a gay dude

 

[Tricked 10+ year member]

Never cheated, never will.
Unforgiveable, period.

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x2. I'd drop her.

 

[Trey803 5,000+ posts]

idk... i cheated and its been 2months, we dated for 2years before it happened. she still doesnt forgive me and i understand but she says she will one day which is why i still bother with her.

she is cheating on you also

 

[Supergumby5000 5,000+ posts]

STFU before I ban you... 

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thank you!

oh, and i'de have to say my vote goes to banging her sister.

It would have been one thing if she cheated and then told him about it. that would show some sense of remorce and feeling. But, however, she kept that shit secret until he found out.

Chances are thats not the only secret she'll be keeping if those two stay together