Forgive Cheating?

[Rashaddd 5,000+ posts]

You are totally misconstruing my point.
Throw out all your religious bullshit. Monogamy is based on religion. Go back in time, there was no such thing until all these ideologies came into play. You will not agree with me because you believe in these, so I will not continue to argue this point. However, we as humans are ****** beings, and all monogamy does is limit our sexuality. I'm not saying screw everyone that comes in sight. That was a stupid point to make there. It just means you don't have limits on your sexuality, and if you talk to people in committed open relationships chances are the trust will be 300% more than a "normal" relationship. It's a lot more than what you're making it out to be. You have a feeling of freedom in your relationship, that you are not locked down and controlled by monogamy. That alone, is worth it to me.

Again, I know I'm the minority here and I'll get a lot religious believers and all on me, so this will probably be my last post on this topic. The problem is that commitment to most people mean in terms of ***. It's absurd. It's just like people "saving" themselves for marriage. It's crap made up and forced into our brains by religion. If you can't think outside of those confines, then it isn't for you.

Clearly, if your look at the percentage of people who cheat, and the number of divorces, something is WRONG!!

Why would you want to hold back on a natural urge for ****** pleasure? It doesn't mean ****ing this way and that at all.

You have a wrong conception of what I meant by open relationship, and you need to won't be able to understand fully until your head is outside of society's hold on you.

I get where you're coming from, and I understand the reasoning behind it, I just don't believe in it morally, regardless of religion. People have all kinds of natural urges that we should control, because it is right, and it makes for a better society.

Personally, I'd rather be in a society where people wait till marriage, or not necessarily marriage, but to find someone who they really care about at least and are in a long term relationship with. I don't want to fvck some girl that's fvcking other guys too, unless I have absolutely no emotional attachment to her.

Emotions and *** are very much interrelated and your kind of attitude basically treats *** as just another activity, an alternative to watching tv or playing a game of basketball. I think it is sad that people in our society have watered down to this mentality (particularly teenagers these days), and again, I believe this regardless of religion. I'm guessing you'll say its really my religion still that is in the back of my mind causing me to believe this but...it really is just a matter of morality to me.

Maybe its just me, but I'd much rather be with a girl thats been with maybe 1-3 other guys than be with a girl who's been with 10-20+ other guys, and I'd rather know that there aren't girls out there who have, even if I'm not socializing with them anyway.

We are naturally greedy, does that mean we shouldn't help the poor and those less fortunate than us?

 

[ngsm13 5,000+ posts]

Forgive.. YesStay in a relationship after? Hell no..

Hmph, interesting perspective.

nG

 

[TwistedMayhem 10+ year member]

I agree with the last post everyone makes mistakes and that's what make us human.It can't be all on her because think guys when u was younger.Am sure most of u guys told a woman any thing she wanted to hear just to get in her pants.My wife cheated on me I was not messed up about it we been married for 9 years now.every thing is good I belive everyone deserve a second chance.

 

[Ken448 10+ year member]

Ive told my wife of 11 years if she ever wants an instant divorce, tell me she has cheated on me at ANY point of our relationship. Id be gone within 5 mins period. To me, it is inexcusable.

 

[TSGP]

you guys that have been with the same girl for a long time...you havn't cheated at all?

I've been with the same girl almost 6 years...and I've had more one night stands since I've been with her then I got when I was single

 

[Louisiana_CRX 5,000+ posts]

best thing to do is get rid of the bish...she'll only do it again given time anytime they fight or argue now he'll have to wonder who she is gonna go get pounded by.....

 

[dragnix 5,000+ posts]

let's start by admitting that it's you and not a friend

 

[Haunz 10+ year member]

Throw out all your religious bullshit. Monogamy is based on religion. Go back in time, there was no such thing until all these ideologies came into play.

Don't agree at all.. And FYI humans are not the only creatures on earth that practice monogomy..

 

[rican25 10+ year member]

let her go, that shit will never rest. and she will do it again!!! almost a given...

anyway her morals ****.... he came close but something told him not to.... his are in question but then again he is a guy and thats ok for us.

 

[SRim23 5,000+ posts]

I think it is ridiculous that your friend asked you to post this thread so that he could figure out what to do with the little whore.
I am going to reluctantly answer the question. After I have done so, the thread should be closed.

YOur friend should dump the slut. There are many, many females available so there is no reason to get all hung up on one. WTF can your friend not see this?

Oh, and you need to quit being friends with this guy. He is a loser who will only bring you down.

Now:

/thread.

hes a good guy, just lets girls walk all over him at times. i often tell him hes too nice for his own good. and dropping him isnt an option. this dudes like that friend you have that youve had your whole life, more like a brother and that will be best man at your wedding type friend. hence why he called me when this all went down.

let's start by admitting that it's you and not a friend

haha... nah its really not me. i just couldnt sleep and was bored so i thought id see what some other peoples opinions on the matter were. it does effect me a little though, i mean were all really close. ill probably never look at her the same again. that sucks.

 

[iamamp3pimp 5,000+ posts]

plot a murder!

x2

 

[nismos14 5,000+ posts]

Forgive and forget, re-live and regret.

 

[donpisto 5,000+ posts]

I've been cheated on before, but I guess I was partly to blame. I didn't give the affection she was looking for and she ended up kissing a guy at work but then felt bad about it and stopped. She admitted it to me and honesty really does make a difference. It hurt like hell but I forgave her. We were still together but had other issues to work on and realized we wouldnt be on the same page for a while so that was that.

There are situations where I wouldnt forgive. I know of girl who got cheated on by her bf and got another girl preggo and they got married and afterwards he told her. She left him, and I would have done the same. Honesty goes a long way.

 

[mapolley07 10+ year member]

You are totally misconstruing my point.
Throw out all your religious bullshit. Monogamy is based on religion. Go back in time, there was no such thing until all these ideologies came into play. You will not agree with me because you believe in these, so I will not continue to argue this point. However, we as humans are ****** beings, and all monogamy does is limit our sexuality. I'm not saying screw everyone that comes in sight. That was a stupid point to make there. It just means you don't have limits on your sexuality, and if you talk to people in committed open relationships chances are the trust will be 300% more than a "normal" relationship. It's a lot more than what you're making it out to be. You have a feeling of freedom in your relationship, that you are not locked down and controlled by monogamy. That alone, is worth it to me.

Again, I know I'm the minority here and I'll get a lot religious believers and all on me, so this will probably be my last post on this topic. The problem is that commitment to most people mean in terms of ***. It's absurd. It's just like people "saving" themselves for marriage. It's crap made up and forced into our brains by religion. If you can't think outside of those confines, then it isn't for you.

Clearly, if your look at the percentage of people who cheat, and the number of divorces, something is WRONG!!

Why would you want to hold back on a natural urge for ****** pleasure? It doesn't mean ****ing this way and that at all.

You have a wrong conception of what I meant by open relationship, and you need to won't be able to understand fully until your head is outside of society's hold on you.

except that humans by nature mate for life, there are few creatures in nature that mate for life and raise children as a two-parent ordeal, and humans have always been that way.

monogamy is part of our dna and mating process. its not a social construction, if anything, open relationships and polygamy, etc. are social constructions, because it defies humans' natural mating process

 

[goodbabbu 10+ year member]

Man i cannot believe where this world has come to!

What i really mean is, BE a MAN!

Leave her, go out and f**K 6 chicks and tell me if you will even remember her name.

Have fun ppl, don't make your life miserable over some broad!

and stop asking for advice, do what your gut tells you to.