Ever question your future

[bigbangtheory 5,000+ posts]

Sounds to me that you need to find a good girl to settle down with and maybe extend the family. Trust me, that will eat up all your loneliness and keep you active, lol!

I know first hand.................17 month old and two step kids and all I have time to do is shower, shit sometimes shave,,,,,,,,,,,,work and taking care of them.

Honestly it sounds bad, but much better than being lonely and depressed all the time. Been there done that.

 

[cobra65427289 10+ year member]

Basically I was stuck in the same rut. Thought I loved my job enough to take the promotion into management. I hated management and after a year I stepped back down to my old position. The pay didn't matter to me, actually the only reason I was making so much is the fact I was working 70 hour weeks. It took 5 years for me to decide to get back into school. I went back to my local community college, raised my GPA enough and I've been accepted to University of Alaska's petroleum engineering program. It will be hard but it will be worth it. I already feel like I've broken out of my rut. I'm not making much money right now being in school, but I feel more productive and find it easier to be proud of myself.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

I feel ya. I actually thought about moving because its not fun living in a place affectionately known as Man Jose. But being all by myself scares the shit out of me. I know a couple of people who share my sentiment.

I live by myself. It isn't bad, butn it does get lonely. I didn't communicate with anyone except the forum from last Friday to last Monday. It is as if the worlld doesn't know you exist.

w3rd. I get jealous everytime I play with my nephew. Pretty much everyone I know is in a relationship. The one's who are not pretty much hate life. I feel like I should be transitioning into the next stage of my life, but I can't. Hence the whole rut part.

They aren't all that happy either, they just have someone to bitch at.

put alot of money in your system and be able to do the hair trick. The womenz will come //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/fyi.gif.9f1f679348da7204ce960cfc74bca8e0.gif

lol

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

At least OP knows what he wants, I have no idea. Satisfaction, perhaps.

 

[P.rick 10+ year member]

right there with you. what really helps me as lame as it sounds is helping out others get involved in your community building homes for familys, volunteer at a shelter, run a toy drive what ever you can do it really fills that void thats hurting you. not only do you feel great but your helping others

 

[infamous_e46 5,000+ posts]

i do but i am really happy with my gf/wife we been together 6 years and have 2 kids

 

[bdawson72 5,000+ posts]

Every day

 

[wu36ca 10+ year member]

At least OP knows what he wants, I have no idea. Satisfaction, perhaps.

Kind of. When I got with my ex back when we were 19 she was going through a severe depression. At the time she attributed it to not liking school because she hated her major. Turns out her problems went a whole helluva lot more deep than not liking her choice in major. At the time I think she was just looking for anything to make her happy and any change sounded good. I am hoping this will actually make me feel better as opposed to just running away from my current life.

right there with you. what really helps me as lame as it sounds is helping out others get involved in your community building homes for familys, volunteer at a shelter, run a toy drive what ever you can do it really fills that void thats hurting you. not only do you feel great but your helping others

I tend to be very generous with donations when I feel like shit. I guess knowing I can make someone's life better makes me feel a little better.

 

[wu36ca 10+ year member]

Every day

I've never seen anybody as thuggish looking as you worry about anything.

 

[Hundreth 10+ year member]

Depression is a symptom of anxiety. Your autonomic nervous system is overloaded with worry, stress, feelings, confusion, etc. I'll bet your mind is always racing looking for answers.

I've been there.

The first thing you need to do is stop thinking. 90% of your thoughts are negative BULLSH!T. What worked for me was practicing meditation. Calm your mind, try thinking about NOTHING. It will be harder than you think and you will realize how your mind is RACING.

Once you get your mind back to a clean state, you will begin to see things clearly again. You probably have a great life, just can't see it.

 

[wu36ca 10+ year member]

Yeah the anxiety is pretty hardcore and the fight or flight response is kicking in major. It does beg the question is change right or should I go with the flow I have now. In this situation it is hard to tell. In this situation it is very difficult to tell what is real.

Ironically from about 19 years old to about 24 years old people around me thought I was void of feelings because absolutely nothing bothered me. Nothing would cause anxiety. If there was somehting that irked me chances are I would never make it an issue. In the end this total lack of concern ended up biting me in the *** real hard. I stayed at a job I could not stand. I took my ex of so many years for granted (especially her concerns). Nothing bothered me enough to cause concern. Now I am in a position where everything is of concern. I ****ed up and live with a lot of regret.

And anxiety does run kind of high in my family. Its just everyone has their own pressure button. Mine happens to be relationships.

 

[LiquidClen 10+ year member]

I've never seen anybody as thuggish looking as you worry about anything.

Just because you "look" or "act" one way doesn't mean anything... I feel like Kanye best says it with

I wanna act ballerific like it's all terrific

I got a couple past due bills, I won't get specific

I got a problem with spending before I get it

We all self conscious I'm just the first to admit it

 

[P.rick 10+ year member]

"I tend to be very generous with donations when I feel like shit. I guess knowing I can make someone's life better makes me feel a little better."

thats awsome it really is but what really does it for me is volunteering my time and seeing the faces of whos life's im helping

 

[wu36ca 10+ year member]

Yeah I think that is why I want to go into teaching. It allows me to do a job with a purpose and that being helping others. It seemed like up until now I was just living for self and did not really have a purpose.

 

[quest51210 10+ year member]

teaching and volunteering are great...i do both and most of the times for free at the moment

as far as a "job" that is not what its about. a job is something someone can take away as easily as they gave it to you. a career is something they can never take away, your job status may change, but your career is differnt and uniquely yours.