Crunk Times, My friend.....Crunk Times

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

Flip, the site looks good but I have a suggestion. Rather than just give the recipe, you should give a report about the results of the meal. For example, after a recipe you could say, "I fixed this meal and afterwards she/he gave me the best BJ I have ever had." Or, "if you are inclined to have buttsecks you may want to stay away from the brocoli casserole."

Just a thought.

 

[2kchevy06civic 5,000+ posts]

I may do that....
It sounds better than my plan of not talking to her for a week or so so I can

a) get some stuff done

b) realize actually how much time I do spend with her

I would not recommend the not talking to her for a week thing. Believe me, the girl I used to mention in this thread, the one I made dinner for ya know? I haven't talked to her in almost 3 weeks now and she still tries to call. I've put myself in a position now that if I ever do talk to her again these will be the questions:

"Why have you been ignoring me?"

"why didn't you ever answer 1 of my many phone calls?"

"what did I do wrong? What did I do to piss you off this badly?"

this list could go on but you get the idea. So now I basically am not sure what to do or even if I want to deal with it in all honesty. She's a great girl, once you get through the layers but she just constantly B1TCHES about her life. That's the real reason why I'm mad at her. I would give her advice and she would just completely ignore it and put herself in harms way and then b1tch about it. Try dealing with that for 2-3 months before you even get a chance of having "relationship" being brought into the picture. Yeah, you'd ignore the phone calls too.

 

[DBfan187 5,000+ posts]

stop being emo!

 

[2kchevy06civic 5,000+ posts]

hmmm what to have for lunch. Suggestions?

 

[DBfan187 5,000+ posts]

House rules for women.

1.) It doesn't speak unless asked.

2.) It does what it's told.

3.) It doesn't leave the kitchen unless it's given permission.

4.) It must know when you need a beer without being physically told.

5.) It must be ready to ********* anywhere, anytime.

 

[2kchevy06civic 5,000+ posts]

I am not really mad though. I just do not think she realizes the value of my sacrifice. There has to be a way of communicating the value of my efforts.

Well she thinks I am "pissed off" at her(I read a myspace post) but in reality I'm just mad at her for being so stupid and naive. There are ways of communicating without actually talking. Actions speak louder than words my friend. If you really want to make a statement and you want to use the "ignore her" method I would only recommend you do this for 1 or 2 days tops...any longer than that and you are getting in deep waters.

If she doesn't realize how much you sacrifice then you guys need to sit down again and tell her that you are and prove to her you are. If she still doesn't believe you then ASK HER what you can do to make it better. Just ask her what she is really wanting and what she is really mad at if she still doesn't get the picture once you've tried explaining it.

 

[2kchevy06civic 5,000+ posts]

I think she in insecure or something.
I made her a nice dinner with candles and wine and shit....if that doesn't communicate caring, nothing does. It wasn't about getting laid. I could have bought her a sackful of Krystals and still got laid.

she might be insecure and she might be the type that has been treated badly her entire life and she finally found someone who cares and she is scared by it and doesn't know what to do. She is the type that once they find someone they push them away. They are only used to being treated badly and only know that way.

At least that's my experience with insecure girls and I've been with 3 of them.

 

[2kchevy06civic 5,000+ posts]

She says I do not listen to her.
I think she does not know how to faciliatate discussion. She tells me what happened at work (she is the person that takes down your insurance info) but when she talks, it is like she is listing facts instead of a discussion.

I am not sure if she is telling me something or wants me to reply. If she describes a sick patient, I say okay. I guess I could invent a follow-up question, but I lack the background in a hospital enviornment to do so.

Whenever she is giving you details about a patient ask her, "well what does insert medical term here, mean?"

It shows you are interested and paying attention to her. Also ask her the prognosis and what the diagnosis is. I could tell you more medical words but I need to know what she is talking about first, //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif

 

[2kchevy06civic 5,000+ posts]

That doesn't make any sense at all. Not what you are saying, but why would they push the "good guy" away. That is like rumaging through the desert dehydrating, finding a bottle of water, and then pouring it out because "you get off on being dehydrated".

but you see they aren't MEANING to push the person away they do it with their words and actions. They aren't meaning to push you away it just naturally happens because they are scared and not sure what to do. They are still insecure and the only way they feel "ok" about the situation is constant reinforcement.

But yes I see what you are saying.

 

[2kchevy06civic 5,000+ posts]

She takes down the insurance information. I don't think she learns much about the condition of the patient.
For instance:

She told me she saw a dead person and asked me if I had seen one. I told her I have not.

oh, well then....nevermind >

 

[2kchevy06civic 5,000+ posts]

She takes down the insurance information. I don't think she learns much about the condition of the patient.
For instance:

She told me she saw a dead person and asked me if I had seen one. I told her I have not.

Well you answered part of it but you also could have said, "I have never seen a dead person. What is it like? How did they look?"

you see? Multiple questions = interested and helps the conversation.

 

[2kchevy06civic 5,000+ posts]

anyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyways I need to get something to eat before my next class. I'll check back later Flip. I'm gonna bump the tunica thread as well.

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

Forget about what I said earlier Flip. It is possible to find a girl who does not expect (or even desire) a chatty man.

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

Which one of you bastages can coach me up on the use anonymous proxy servers?

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

I am not going to constantly reinforce anyone. It just isn't in me.
I see a relationship as a business partnership. One person fills the "gaps" in the other and because of the arrangement, both parties are better off. The "whole" can't be better off if one of the parts spends too much time 'picking up' the other half.

Until you reme this thought from your head, you will continue to have difficulties //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/rolleyes.gif.c1fef805e9d1464d377451cd5bc18bfb.gif

Asking questions and making convo interesting is constantly reinforcing? Jesus christ man, she just wants some friggin feedback. If she wanted and automated one line convo, she would date the answering service for the local theater.