This is a common argument against using caps. While I generally argue against using an external cap, I disregard this argument. And I'll tell you why.
Saying a cap becomes a drain on the system after it discharges gives an incorrect implication that the cap will rob power from the stereo later, to recharge itself. This simply is not the case. A cap will follow system voltage. It will only discharge as much as system voltage drops (thereby dropping the cap's voltage, which is it 'draining'). It gives away its charge as its required... as the stereo demand raises so much that system voltage must drop. Conversely, it only recharges as system voltage increases. So if the stereo's demand is remaining high, system voltage will stay low and the cap wont try to recharge. But as the stereo's demand decreases, that drives system voltage back up and the cap will naturally recharge.
Knowing this, we can safely say that a cap will only recharge once the charging system has the ability to allow it do so without relinquishing power to the greater demands (like the stereo). The only real added strain a cap adds to the charging system is via the cap's internal resistance (ESR). How much resistance the cap will display depends on many factors, such as the cap type, its size, and if it has lights/gauges/bling added to it, etc.
Whether a cap can have a benefit to your system depends on many things. As said above, the cap type/size/etc is the first factor. If the cap has too much internal resistance to begin with, no other factors matter, it not helpful at all. Another factor is your amplifiers themselves. Did you know your amps already have an array of caps in their input stage for 'power conditioning'? And of course, if you think a cap will be a crutch for inadequacies elsewhere in your charging system, you would be mistaken.
Hope that helps.