Calling all Fathers! (and everyone else too)

[Jes 42 10+ year member]

Thank you, sir. I wish people paid as much attention to stuff like this as they do bs like flags and gays getting married.

It's a global thing, man. Here, you're lucky to get every other weekend. That's if you can afford $5,000 attorneys that don't give a **** about you or your child. I don't call that a "win". 4 days a month is far from right.

I went through this with my ex-wife.Got to see my son 2 weekends a month (he was around 3 then) till my dirt bag ex decided she didn't like that arrangement either and cut me off(she was jealous of my new relationship).Was told by the court i had to get an attorney to take her back to court.Like a dummy i gave up but continued to pay weekly.Out of the blue when he was 10 years old he called me and asked if he could come stay the weekend.WELL OF COURSE..I burnt rubber for the 2 hour drive and picked him up.

When i arrived my ''lovely'' ex told me how lucky i should be to get this opportunity(bltch you & the corrupt system are the reason i gave up)..Anyway it turned into a wonderful experience and he never let his mother separate us again for more than a week.What REALLY fkd me up at the time was we went fishing and he looked up at me and said ''You aren't anything like mom says you are''..My son died in 2008 at the age of 19 and not ONCE did i ever bad mouth his mom to him.I think that's a terrible thing to do.PLEASE don't do what i did guys-DON'T EVER GIVE UP ON THE KIDS..Not a day goes by that i don't regret losing those precious years with my son..Hang in there fellas.

 

[Polar]

Im so sorry to hear about that, brought tears to my eyes //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/bawling.gif.6287aa5d1d447c8af063fc9466e822ef.gif

 

[Mitch86 5,000+ posts]

Eyes wide open //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/toast.gif.bc0657bf54b9ee653b6438524461341e.gif

I went through this with my ex-wife.Got to see my son 2 weekends a month (he was around 3 then) till my dirt bag ex decided she didn't like that arrangement either and cut me off(she was jealous of my new relationship).Was told by the court i had to get an attorney to take her back to court.Like a dummy i gave up but continued to pay weekly.Out of the blue when he was 10 years old he called me and asked if he could come stay the weekend.WELL OF COURSE..I burnt rubber for the 2 hour drive and picked him up.When i arrived my ''lovely'' ex told me how lucky i should be to get this opportunity(bltch you & the corrupt system are the reason i gave up)..Anyway it turned into a wonderful experience and he never let his mother separate us again for more than a week.What REALLY fkd me up at the time was we went fishing and he looked up at me and said ''You aren't anything like mom says you are''..My son died in 2008 at the age of 19 and not ONCE did i ever bad mouth his mom to him.I think that's a terrible thing to do.PLEASE don't do what i did guys-DON'T EVER GIVE UP ON THE KIDS..Not a day goes by that i don't regret losing those precious years with my son..Hang in there fellas.

Oh man. I'm sorry to hear that... But I'm glad he got to know the real you. That's my worst fear is my daughter forgetting me and not knowing how much I love her and how much I do want to be there. We have an awesome relationship even though the distance makes it tough. She's been gone a year and just turned 4. I've seen her maybe 2 months total in that year a week or so every couple of months. But she knows I love her and she loves me and misses ms. I have hope that it will all work out soon. I'm not giving up. Im just pretty powerless being that she's so far away and I work all the time and can't jump up and drive that far very often.

 

[Mitch86 5,000+ posts]

Im so sorry to hear about that, brought tears to my eyes //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/bawling.gif.6287aa5d1d447c8af063fc9466e822ef.gif

This^

 

[Polar]

kids that age can somehow sense the efforts we go though to be a part of their lives. My son was 11 and my daughter 2. My daughter is now 10 and we share 50/50 custody with no child support exchanged. My daughter said to me just the other day when I took her to work with me, " daddy, do you remember when I was a baby and mom wouldnt let me see you? " I said yes sweety why are you bringing this up? Your mother and I have moved on, were friends and life is good. she said " Well that was mean and I told her how much it hurt me. You are the best dad in the world, why would she do that?"

 

[Jes 42 10+ year member]

Im so sorry to hear about that, brought tears to my eyes //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/bawling.gif.6287aa5d1d447c8af063fc9466e822ef.gif

Time helps with the pain but it's still messed up sometimes..ty

 

[Jes 42 10+ year member]

Oh man. I'm sorry to hear that... But I'm glad he got to know the real you. That's my worst fear is my daughter forgetting me and not knowing how much I love her and how much I do want to be there. We have an awesome relationship even though the distance makes it tough. She's been gone a year and just turned 4. I've seen her maybe 2 months total in that year a week or so every couple of months. But she knows I love her and she loves me and misses ms. I have hope that it will all work out soon. I'm not giving up. Im just pretty powerless being that she's so far away and I work all the time and can't jump up and drive that far very often.

Thanks..Like Polar said kids know when you put effort into the relationship.Just stay vigilant i say..She'll come around //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[Mitch86 5,000+ posts]

kids that age can somehow sense the efforts we go though to be a part of their lives. My son was 11 and my daughter 2. My daughter is now 10 and we share 50/50 custody with no child support exchanged. My daughter said to me just the other day when I took her to work with me, " daddy, do you remember when I was a baby and mom wouldnt let me see you? " I said yes sweety why are you bringing this up? Your mother and I have moved on, were friends and life is good. she said " Well that was mean and I told her how much it hurt me. You are the best dad in the world, why would she do that?"

Man, people sometimes don't understand just how much kids know even at a young age. I never bad mouth her mother. I advocate shared parenting and whole believe both parents need to be in a child's life. Even after all I've been through, I'd never dream of trying to keep my daughter from her mother. Hell I text her mother when she is with me to tell her the little cute things she says and does because I feel like I don't want her to miss out on the little moments. I feel obligated to my daughter to keep her mother informed and not miss out, I guess.

Thanks..Like Polar said kids know when you put effort into the relationship.Just stay vigilant i say..She'll come around //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

I'm doing all I can. Hopefully she will be home soon and that part of the battle will be over. Thanks for the encouragement!

 

[adulbrich 5,000+ posts]

Thought this thread was going to be about posting pics of peoples' daughters.

Leaving dssappointed..