any police officers/detectives on here?

[saywhat? 5,000+ posts]

your thinking of the statute of limitations....which u have up to 1 or 2 yrs to file the charges according to the officer i talked to
well i was actually thinking about that exact question the other day.....cause im not the spitefull type.....but the answer to that is the reason why im doing it now is because at the time i didnt do it because i was trying to maintain good friendly relationship w/ my ex wife.....i didnt want to do anything to make things harder for her.....its been bothering me for the entire time......especially seeing as he disrespected me in front of my son.......and what kind of example would i be setting for my son if i didnt take any action? show him that its ok to let people walk all over you?.....sorry....but i can no longer sit by and let anyone disrespect me the way he did me......so in effect....this has nothing to do w/ her......

thats true about the lesson your son needs to be shown and have him learn it. i've always been one thats not up to fight and "tattle" as someone the age of your son (and mindset of some on this board) may call it. i either let it settle and hope everyone envolves "man's" up and accepts the fact they did wrong and over come it, or take actions with the authorities or other legal ways. you can always be sure something will come back around to the person, like the saying goes, "what comes around, goes around" and i try to set my actions along this sttement because in the last couple years it has held true. be it that im only 17 or not, it has shown true.

 

[deadboi77 10+ year member]

It could end up sending him back to the pen/jail for a probation violation and realy if he`s going to to that in front of a kid,he deserves to go back.Whatever happends,I wish you best of luck man.

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

indeed.....im not the type to fight if it can be avoided......but trust me if it cant.....its not a pretty sight......but i'm getting to old for this stupid childish stuff if u know what im saying....

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

It could end up sending him back to the pen/jail for a probation violation and realy if he`s going to to that in front of a kid,he deserves to go back.Whatever happends,I wish you best of luck man.

yep.....kind of what im going for......he doesnt know it but he jus gave me full custody of my son.....

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

well its time to go back to work....i'll be back in a couple hrs....please try to stay on topic guys

 

[marleyskater420 5,000+ posts]

yep.....kind of what im going for......he doesnt know it but he jus gave me full custody of my son.....

You should demand for that. You need to make it clear that this is not the safe environment that a child should be in,and expound upon that.

thats true about the lesson your son needs to be shown and have him learn it. i've always been one thats not up to fight and "tattle" as someone the age of your son (and mindset of some on this board) may call it. i either let it settle and hope everyone envolves "man's" up and accepts the fact they did wrong and over come it, or take actions with the authorities or other legal ways. you can always be sure something will come back around to the person, like the saying goes, "what comes around, goes around" and i try to set my actions along this sttement because in the last couple years it has held true. be it that im only 17 or not, it has shown true.

I agree with the way you handle things. I havent had to fight anyone in a long time because of this. I either just deal with it in a mature manner, or leave it alone. Now that I am 18,it does me no good to go and beat some kids ***, or stab the fuker. I just realize that what goes around, comes around, and that as long as I am ok, all is well. Unless someone really angers me... then the skinny white kid goes apeshit.

Mike, you need to gain full custody of your child. What are the procedures to do so?

 

[deadboi77 10+ year member]

It`s pretty hard for a man to get custody,but if he could prove that the child is in a bad enviroment and/or the mother is unfit to be raising the child,then they will grant custody,but it will a long battle i believe.i`ll have to ask my friend,he just recently got custody of his 2 kids,his x was out smoking rocks and they caught her in the casino parking lot with the 2 kids in the car with her.

 

[davidfre21 5,000+ posts]

It`s pretty hard for a man to get custody,but if he could prove that the child is in a bad enviroment and/or the mother is unfit to be raising the child,then they will grant custody,but it will a long battle i believe.i`ll have to ask my friend,he just recently got custody of his 2 kids,his x was out smoking rocks and they caught her in the casino parking lot with the 2 kids in the car with her.

thats some ****ed up shit //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/frown.gif.a3531fa0534503350665a1e957861287.gif

 

[traksta15 10+ year member]

it is pretty hard for a guy to get custody (thank god my dad didn't, cause i'd be a rich prick SOB w/no friends) but i would demand custody, and just be responsible and never retaliate, just let the court make the decision.

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

well i have several things going my way.....

1. i dont have herpes

2. my g/f doesnt have herpes

3. im not a felon

4. i dont have a warrant out for my arrest

5. i've completed all the court ordered classes

6. i'm not witholding my visitation from my ex wife

7. my g/f isnt an alcoholic

8. i own my own house

9. i have a stable job

and the list goes on and on.....

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

Mike, you need to gain full custody of your child. What are the procedures to do so?

just a matter of paying my attorney some more money and trying to go for custody

 

[OldManTod 10+ year member]

First "a gun will not solve the problem" - There is nothing wrong with laying a good old fashioned a$$ thumping down while the XD is still in the Holster, however Pop's always told me to never take a knife to a gun fight.

Second - If you are going to go after custody, start saving your money, it is gonna be costly. My lawyers rate is $150 an hour, but it is worth every penny to get your child away from that environment.

Third - Let the dude who assaulted you know that it won't happen again, next time he pulls this stuff, he will have the past on record, so chances are when he starts up again and you lay it on him, your self defense claim will stick and you will walk away with nothing but a set of bloody knuckles (and "enlighten" him discreetly).

Good Luck, don't forget the part about teaching your son that a man don't take no sh!t either (how old is your son?).

T

 

[kAdUkUbOy 10+ year member]

9mms are weak...like said get a .40 or a .45 or even better a 44

i've got a p229 .40 dak... nuff said!!

 

[kAdUkUbOy 10+ year member]

indeed.....im not the type to fight if it can be avoided......but trust me if it cant.....its not a pretty sight......but i'm getting to old for this stupid childish stuff if u know what im saying....

that's what i'm talkin' about!!

 

[OldManTod 10+ year member]

People who say 9's are weak are both mis-informed and obviously not experienced.

You can/will do the appropriate amount of damage with a 9. Sure a Desert Eagle will do more damage, however when you balance out the aspects of carrying a firearm with you all day long (for those of us with CHL) for the majority of folks, a 9 will do the trick.

Good luck.

T