Here are the basics from what I can remember (Been 9 years for me)
Cover: Clubs usually do not charge during the day and only at night if it is a decent club. The grungy clubs do not usually charge a cover except maybe on weekend nights etc.
Drinks: I have paid anywhere from $3-7 for a drink, depends on where you go. I have generally found the nicer the establishment the higher price (I am speaking about how clean the club is etc)
Tipping: Tip the bartender $1 a drink (If it comes to like $5.25 just leave the .75 cents), when you sit around the stage people usually leave a $1 bill, if you are a baller $2 if you want to get her attention, if she rocks it better than all the other girls leave a $5 or a $10 on the stage.
Touching:
a. Touching on the stage is always not allowed, sometimes they will hold thier tits together and say something like 'put it in' or pull out the garder belt a little and let you slide it under that. The girls will touch you, stuff tits in your face (TO NOT LICK, just breath on them and enjoy), lick your ear, turn your hat backwards, put her legs on your shoulders etc.. DO NOT EVER TOUCH THEM! sometimes they may even rub your junk a little (usually if you leave the $5 or $10) I do not remember too many chicks that did this AND looks decent most of the ones who are really skanky are the ones with the most miles on them.
b. This section is about lap dances, lap dances run between $15-$35 bucks with $20 being the price 90% of the time, if you are a cheapo ASK FIRST I remember when I was 18 getting a lap dance for 3 songs and her telling me I owed her $105 after handing her $60. After that I ALWAYS asked and make sure you ask one of the ugly chicks first because you don't want the hottie you want a dance from thinking you are a cheap **** from the beginning.
When you get a lap dance it is paid per song, if you ask for a dance you will go to wherever they do them and if you are in the middle of a song don't be a chump and let her charge you $20 for half of a song, what I did was say 'Should we wait until the next song starts?' this brings it up in a way you don't look cheap and defensive.
When she starts to dance this is a good thing but remember don't go trying to feel up her ******* or poking her in the cooch with your nose just yet! You first have to get a 'feel' (no pun intended) for her and find out what is ok and what is a 'no-no' I used to wait until they were grinding on me backwards (kind of like doggy style) and put my hands on her hips, if she is ok with it she will not do anything and if it is a 'no-no' she will nicely move your hands away and keep going. If this happens don't sweat it and just relax.
While in a lap dance depending on what type of chick she will do all kinds of nice things which may include rubbing your junk with her hand, feets or about a million of those things. This is where you have to decide what you want.
If you want to bust a nut just act like you really like it, if you have to tell her you like so she knows and she will keep doing it.
If you don't like it (a.k.a. you're gay) just acted offended or some shit, I dunno I never done that lol.
A lot of chicks play 'the game' while doing private dances and will rub your junk a little get you all hard and then not touch it again till close to the end of the song, then she will rub you again get you rock hard and hope you will be willing to go another dance so you really have to learn how to tell the difference in those looking to please you a little and drag things out and those who are just down to make you pop your cork!
That is really all I can think of, if you are looking for straight *** I suggest you look elsewhere clubs that offer something like that are few and far between though you might be able to get a nice jerk or something but not worth it IMO.
That is about all I can remember, I spent many of my minor years in a strip club with a friend (female and no I didn't **** her) who danced and when I got older I spent 3-4 nights at a strip club with buddies for a long time so this is the best advice I can give you.
You are not going to be able to drink so I would say have the cover charge if there is any, and $15 per hr you are going to sit at the stage, I know it does not sound like a lot but with 30 dudes sitting around the stage it takes a while for them to come back around so you are only spending a couple bucks every 15 mins or so. If you want a lapdance bring $20 per dance, even if it costs $35 a dance I would suggest doing just one as it is your birthday and you want to give try it.