Why do such a high % of marriges fail if you live together before the wedding?

[Scoobydoo 5,000+ posts]

Why do such a high % of marriges fail if you live together before the wedding?

because women marry guys like you who cant think for themselves and need to ask stupid questions about life on the internet to survive

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

because women marry guys like you who cant think for themselves and need to ask stupid questions about life on the internet to survive

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[newusername 10+ year member]

because women marry guys like you who cant think for themselves and need to ask stupid questions about life on the internet to survive

Think I saw that on a bumper sticker.

 

[DejaWiz 5,000+ posts]

The answer to this can be derived from a bit of logic and common sense: people get married for the wrong reasons.

 

[Fast1one 10+ year member]

People change after marriage.

Yup. People rush into it and end up screwing themselves.
Its not about changing (since we all do), its about coping with the change and still appreciating the qualities of your spouse that were once admirable...

"Till death do us part" If you really love and adore the one you marry, you should be able to cope with everything (to an extent, cheating is an example of an exception). Unfortunately, since divorce isn't as big of a deal anymore, people take the easy way out in this country //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

 

[duece212 5,000+ posts]

Because before you are married and you just live together you are there because you love each other and want to be there. Once you step over the line to marriage you are BOUND to be there, not as nice of an environment.

Once you are BOUND to the relationship one or both parties will usually end up taking things for granted or letting out that crazy side they had been hiding until you were stuck in the relationship.

 

[Scoobydoo 5,000+ posts]

i'm young now, i'm wild now, i want to be free

i got the magic power of the music in me

 

[SQL4Life 10+ year member]

people don't change once they get married...that is true and not true at the same time. It should say people change through time.

I learned you cannot change your spouse and her habits etc. you can change yourself...so if both have that mindset it is pretty sweet //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[got_focus? 10+ year member]

I am not married, thinking about getting married, or even have a GF at this point.......Just started to have a discussion about it with friends over the weekend and thought I would get everyone's opinion on the topic.......

I have my very own opinion.....but thanks asshat

 

[Scoobydoo 5,000+ posts]

which asshat are you referring to?

 

[HitManSE 10+ year member]

Because before you are married and you just live together you are there because you love each other and want to be there. Once you step over the line to marriage you are BOUND to be there, not as nice of an environment.
Once you are BOUND to the relationship one or both parties will usually end up taking things for granted or letting out that crazy side they had been hiding until you were stuck in the relationship.

So, dont get married. Its possible to live with a person, have a relationship, etc. without having to get married. Its just a BS ploy, a one sided contract that **** near temps women to leave in more then one way.

1st is the plain psychological thing of wanting to leave once you're bound to something, then there's the prize of knowing the one sided contract is going to be in her favor. Not to mention other women usually **** up womens thinking with their own bullshit ideals when they themselves dont even know wtf they want.

Leads me to believe that a majority of women, when it comes to marriage and their reasoning/understanding of it, are just plain retarded. Either that, or they think the man is retarded. Id be crazy to sign that contract //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif

 

[cpierce 5,000+ posts]

Marriage = phail

 

[iagrdshaka 5,000+ posts]

because women marry guys like you who cant think for themselves and need to ask stupid questions about life on the internet to survive

I lol'd

 

[HitManSE 10+ year member]

people don't change once they get married...that is true and not true at the same time. It should say people change through time.
I learned you cannot change your spouse and her habits etc. you can change yourself...so if both have that mindset it is pretty sweet //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

Not entirely true //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

Ive seen my fair share of women that do a **** good job at manipulating guys into changing themselves to do pretty much whatever. This only works on guys, not men.

I lost a good friend to one of these *****es. Hes literally 95% someone else (her), its pathetic. Usually once a women is able to change a guy like this, she'll figure OK, if I was able to do this. I have no respect for him and away they go. Its more common then people think.

IF however she stays after this, there's a problem. IMO there are only a few reasons a women would stay after being able to pull something off like that.

Shes either inexperienced and in one of her 1st few relationships. Or she has no self confidence and doesnt think she can do any better, plus they dont want their multi-year investment to go to waste. Or shes a ***** that knows **** well what shes doing and this is what we know as a golddigger.

 

[crunktimes.com 5,000+ posts]

I would think a higher % of marriages who do NOT live with each other before marriage break up..

When you live with someone you really learn a lot about the person you are with in regards to what it would be like being with them 24/7 the restof your life.

I think marriages don't make it these days because people see just getting a divorce as the easy way out and also a lot of people suffer from the 'grass is greener' syndrome when things hit a rough patch thus fucking up any kids involved and leaving a pissed off ex.