i dont have any sympathy for the girl, i have sympathy for the child and the shit she will go through in life not being raised by her paternal mother!
I actually agree, which is why I see this as a difficult decision. The baby has an attatchment to both the mother and I. I have been roomates with the mother for only 4 months and she just got full custody again of her kid 3 days after becoming my roomate. The attatchment is strong.
do you know what its like for a child to go through life with out their mom or dad? i sure do, first hand!! especially since he has said shes old enough to recognize him and call him dad, so that means the child **** sure knows who her mother is!! now granted she made a bad choice, but why put the child through the system when its not necessary?
strong point I have considered... but it may be neccesary. Like I said, she has been my roomate for 4 months in 2 different places (one apartment, and now a house we rent). This was our 1st day in the house we rent, she could have cut all ties off from her ex as he would never have known she moved or where to but she invited him up that night. I expect many visits from the father in the future, which could be bad and is considered bad by police and child services.
i mean i just feel you guys are over reacting a tad bit, and i dont think we are getting the whole story here to begin with...some things just dont add up, but i wont sit here and call the OP a liar he may very well be telling the truth, but some things seem to be left out!
anyone can lie, it's the internet right? but if you feel there's anything left out or doesn't add up, let me know. I could give a much larger description of the night, I tried to sum it up short.
but all in all i could give 2 shits wut happens to either one of them, they both already lied to the police, by him not giving a statement, and her lying directly...
Not true. When police showed up, the first thing they asked is if either of us wanted to contact our lawyers before giving a statement. I was recently involved in an assault case (against me, which I was later found Not Guilty) and he advised me not to give a statement without him being present. Police and opposing lawyers can pick apart and manipulate any slip up in language or small thing you said and turn it on you.... at least that's what my lawyer said...
he shouldnt have stepped in at all in the first place, regardless, she brought this on her self, not him...he chose to step up and get involved...he should have minded his own business from the jump and he wouldnt be in this siutation...
Should I add that the two got loud and violent in my kitchen, while I had food in there and the second I saw his hands grabbing her arms, all I said was "you gotta back off"... To also add to this, the man assaulted her before, and there was a kid sleeping on the floor above us. Something violent happens and I decide to ignore it, how do we know the father doesn't involve the kid at all, or beats the woman and takes the kid. Their initial argument was over him saying he doesn't get any alone time with the kid.
coming on here and asking for help is not gettin him anywhere...he should have his own morals and beliefs, he shouldnt need people over the interenet to tell him what to do in his life...
If I were told by police to give a statement, I would 100% tell the truth. I have never dealt with children's services in my life. I have only a slight idea of the power they have and what power they could used based on my statements. I would love for the woman to keep her kid and be forced to move into a place the father can't be involved and for myself not to get a criminal record... If anyone has ideas to make this happen, let me know.
