What would you do? In a fight...

[DIPayton 10+ year member]

I'll warn you, this may get long..

but I am living with this girl and she has a kid. She broke up with the baby's father (almost a year ago) and he was arrested (for beating the hell out of her) and the kid was taken temporarily from her and put into foster care until she proved the father would not be around the kid and that she got a protection order to keep him away.

So, she did all that, got her kid back and the 3 of us live together (she is not my girlfriend and never was), she decided to call her baby's father to her house 2 weeks ago... He gets loud and violent towards her and I told him to leave. He punched me in the face and I then beat the crap out of him (his broken jaw connected with my broken hand lol). Anyways, while we were fighting, the girl decided to call the police, this guy gets up and runs as soon as that happens.

Police come and ask for a statement, I told them I wouldnt give one without my lawyer, and she gives a statement saying I beat up another guy (gave a name of one of her friends that I barely know)... This gets me a little mad and I didnt understand why, but she gave a different person's name, and she afterwards told me it was because she realized if she gave her baby's fathers name that he was there, then she would have her kid taken from her permanantly. I have now recieved a letter from children's services asking me to speak with them about the incident that night (because they are notified of any incidents involing police and people they are responsible to look over)

Do I tell the truth from the night (and this could result in her losing her kid), or do I go along with her story (the lie, to protect her), which could result in me getting an assault charge?

what would you guys do? I have actually not spoken to a lawyer at all and there is no court case pending or anything from the result of the police showing up. They didn't arrest anyone and just took her statement and put it in a report really...

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[jaredspl 10+ year member]

to long.

 

[MorningWood]

clifs

 

[crunktimes.com 5,000+ posts]

Kick the drama ***** out and don't say another word to anyone including the police and DSS, the baby daddy will not say anything because he does not want to get in trouble also.

My suggestion again would be kicking her out (you seem to have a lot of drama for a skank you ain't even fucking) and choose your roommates better next time.

 

[ChuteBoxe515 10+ year member]

are you kidding me? you need to tell the truth. and for all you loser saying that its too long, it seriously took 30 seconds to read that.

 

[gladiator_jai 10+ year member]

Protect yourself before anything, give yourself first priority. She had her priorities straight didn't she.

 

[DIPayton 10+ year member]

Kick the drama ***** out and don't say another word to anyone including the police and DSS, the baby daddy will not say anything because he does not want to get in trouble also.
My suggestion again would be kicking her out (you seem to have a lot of drama for a skank you ain't even fucking) and choose your roommates better next time.

I didn't say I wasn't fucking her lol

 

[Pootie 10+ year member]

Her fault for calling him over in the first place. You don't need to cover up for her she should have thought that about the fact she could possibly loss her child by calling him.

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

I'll warn you, this may get long..
but I am living with this girl and she has a kid. She broke up with the baby's father (almost a year ago) and he was arrested (for beating the hell out of her) and the kid was taken temporarily from her and put into foster care until she proved the father would not be around the kid and that she got a protection order to keep him away.

So, she did all that, got her kid back and the 3 of us live together (she is not my girlfriend and never was), she decided to call her baby's father to her house 2 weeks ago... He gets loud and violent towards her and I told him to leave. He punched me in the face and I then beat the crap out of him (his broken jaw connected with my broken hand lol). Anyways, while we were fighting, the girl decided to call the police, this guy gets up and runs as soon as that happens.

Police come and ask for a statement, I told them I wouldnt give one without my lawyer, and she gives a statement saying I beat up another guy (gave a name of one of her friends that I barely know)... This gets me a little mad and I didnt understand why, but she gave a different person's name, and she afterwards told me it was because she realized if she gave her baby's fathers name that he was there, then she would have her kid taken from her permanantly. I have now recieved a letter from children's services asking me to speak with them about the incident that night (because they are notified of any incidents involing police and people they are responsible to look over)

Do I tell the truth from the night (and this could result in her losing her kid), or do I go along with her story (the lie, to protect her), which could result in me getting an assault charge?

what would you guys do? I have actually not spoken to a lawyer at all and there is no court case pending or anything from the result of the police showing up. They didn't arrest anyone and just took her statement and put it in a report really...

You owe it not only to yourself, but also TO THAT CHILD, to tell the truth. It needs to be known by child services that she is willing to endanger her child still. You didn't **** up. SHE DID. Child services can only help if they have the facts. Dishonesty only hinders their ability.

 

[iagrdshaka 5,000+ posts]

The child might just turn out better without the irresponsible mother and abusive father around....

my 2¢

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

Her fault for calling him over in the first place. You don't need to cover up for her she should have thought that about the fact she could possibly loss her child by calling him.

This.

 

[GabeC 10+ year member]

i would lie only if she offers some poon

 

[DIPayton 10+ year member]

You owe it not only to yourself, but also TO THAT CHILD, to tell the truth. It needs to be known by child services that she is willing to endanger her child still. You didn't **** up. SHE DID. Child services can only help if they have the facts. Dishonesty only hinders their ability.

I was also thinking this... And this is the last thing I really told her. She keeps saying "you're trying to get my daughter taken away, think of how much that will ruin my life?" and all this stuff to make me feel guilty. And I would feel sorry, just not guilty. But it's a decision that could effect her or myself for life.

 

[DIPayton 10+ year member]

i would lie only if she offers some poon

I already get anything I want from her lol... I've even got some after the incident lol

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

I was also thinking this... And this is the last thing I really told her. She keeps saying "you're trying to get my daughter taken away, think of how much that will ruin my life?" and all this stuff to make me feel guilty. And I would feel sorry, just not guilty. But it's a decision that could effect her or myself for life.

The decision not to tell the truth could have equal repercussions on that child's life. Thinking of yourself or her in this situation is irresponsibly selfish. Simple as that.