Jesus, kids! She probably has been with your dad for quite sometime, rather they are married or not. (Didn't see where you said they were married, yet a lot seem to think you said that.) She has pull, because it is your dads girl, simple as that. I am a guardian over 2 girls 10 and 11 and they don't have to listen to me, but I want them too and in most cases they do. Their dad is a POS and comes around 2-4 times a year, so I believe I am an authority figure to them and they show me respect and disrespect. It is going to happen, simple as that. Listen to her and you probably wouldn't have that problem. And I am sure you are leaving out her side of the story. She just tells you what to do from time to time and you get pissed because it isn't your mother, well tuff *****! You are 19 and acting like the 10 and 11 year olds I watch over, wich is sad for you buddy. Grow a set and either apologize or move out! You also have no conception of money. 1200 dollars is twice the amount I pay for my rent. Also all houses in gated communitys are sooooooo small! Pull your head out of your rich/stuck up *** and get a life on reality. Most of us have been there, so don't be ashamed, just move on and learn!