So I'm getting kicked out...

[TulsaMike 10+ year member]

If you had been here for more than 2 weeks, you would know my stance on issues like this. It's usually me who gets yelled at for being mean to the OP for being weak or ungrateful. This situation is different. If his father tells him he needs to move out, then that's fine and I'll assume my usual persona. We're talking about someone that recently married his father and thinks she can run his son's life as well. It just doesn't work like that. Do I agree that he should move out if there are problems? Sure, that's pretty obvious. Does his step mother have the authority to make that call? No, not in the least. If it's his father's house, then this is a non issue. If it's her house, then she needs to talk to the father before she kicks out her husband's son.

thats where you are wrong lemans. by marrying her he has given her half the right to make decisions in the household especially those that pertain to their adult son that is mooching off of them. I'm sure she didnt make this decision w/out consulting his dad first. and no where has he said that his dad jus recently married her.

 

[azimuth 5,000+ posts]

If you had been here for more than 2 weeks, you would know my stance on issues like this. It's usually me who gets yelled at for being mean to the OP for being weak or ungrateful. This situation is different. If his father tells him he needs to move out, then that's fine and I'll assume my usual persona. We're talking about someone that recently married his father and thinks she can run his son's life as well. It just doesn't work like that. Do I agree that he should move out if there are problems? Sure, that's pretty obvious. Does his step mother have the authority to make that call? No, not in the least. If it's his father's house, then this is a non issue. If it's her house, then she needs to talk to the father before she kicks out her husband's son.

this isn't being done behind his fathers back. sounds like his dad has given his new woman some authority. as unfair as it may seem, she has been given this by him. she will win. goat will lose. life goes on.

 

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thats where you are wrong lemans. by marrying her he has given her half the right to make decisions in the household especially those that pertain to their adult son that is mooching off of them. I'm sure she didnt make this decision w/out consulting his dad first.

I thank God that I am fortunate enough to have parents who love each other and I cannot see ever being separated. However, if my mother or father told me to GTFO of the house, I'd do it without even the littlest stir, because it seems as though I'm causing problems. Because my closed door bedroom has dirty clothes in it (he's a ****ing kid, for Christ's sake) is not grounds for being kicked out by someone who has zero legal nor informal authority over me.

 

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this isn't being done behind his fathers back. sounds like his dad has given his new woman some authority. as unfair as it may seem, she has been given this by him. she will win. goat will lose. life goes on.

I dunno man, I just don't agree. If the father told him to GTFO, then it's different. Because he lives in an uptight community where driving at less than a walking pace at 3AM is hazardous and he keeps a soda can in his room is basis for eviction, I cannot side as I usually would. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/frown.gif.a3531fa0534503350665a1e957861287.gif

 

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I thank God that I am fortunate enough to have parents who love each other and I cannot see every being separated. However, if my mother or father told me to GTFO of the house, I'd do it without even the littlest stir, because it seems as though I'm causing problems. Because my closed door bedroom has dirty clothes in it (he's a ****ing kid, for Christ's sake) is not grounds for being kicked out by someone who has zero legal nor informal authority over me.

She would have authority over you though. Thats what you aren't understanding. I'm pretty sure you don't understand it because of your family being together. When a parent re-marries, they need to give some control to the new spouse or it won't work.

 

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OP, I hope you get this resolved, but I gotta go to work (tutoring 8th graders lol) //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

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She would have authority over you though. Thats what you aren't understanding. I'm pretty sure you don't understand it because of your family being together. When a parent re-marries, they need to give some control to the new spouse or it won't work.

If you raise a child for 18 years then decide to remarry again, I can't imagine that new woman gets the same authority over your child as you do. Think about what you're saying. You're playing a legal loophole, nothing more.

 

[BoomBoomBoy 10+ year member]

OP now let's take a mature look at this. Whether you like it or not, your dad picked this woman. Sounds like she has asked very little of you and you're reacting like a tool pouch. You elect to not comply to her requests and are getting booted. Sounds like she used cunning and intelligence to get what she wanted and you used stubborness to get booted.

PWNT!

Plus you act up like a fricking hoodlum within the gated community. Sound like you need to get out in the "real world". //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

 

[TulsaMike 10+ year member]

I thank God that I am fortunate enough to have parents who love each other and I cannot see ever being separated. However, if my mother or father told me to GTFO of the house, I'd do it without even the littlest stir, because it seems as though I'm causing problems. Because my closed door bedroom has dirty clothes in it (he's a ****ing kid, for Christ's sake) is not grounds for being kicked out by someone who has zero legal nor informal authority over me.

here's the problem, he's not a kid. he's a grown man, mooching off of his father and step mom.

 

[BobbyDD 10+ year member]

Oh if this goes down the way I think it is, she is getting punched in the face.You should see how she keeps the inside of her car, it's ****ing trashed.

The woman hates me, always has and always will.

Can't say I blame her. You sound like a loser.

 

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OP now let's take a mature look at this. Whether you like it or not, your dad picked this woman. Sounds like she has asked very little of you and you're reacting like a tool pouch. You elect to not comply to her requests and are getting booted. Sounds like she used cunning and intelligence to get what she wanted and you used stubborness to get booted.
PWNT!

Plus you act up like a fricking hoodlum within the gated community. Sound like you need to get out in the "real world". //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

//content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif:laugh: I take it you've never been in one of these places? One of my friends lives in one, and the rentacops will "pull you over" meaning they'll walk along side of your car and give you a ticket because the speed limit is so low for things ranging from delaying your turn signal to engaging the clutch with too many revs (those two are legit, I've gotten both while visiting). //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif

 

[DBDRAGGUY 10+ year member]

Because my room isn't "clean enough" for my dad's wife. What a ****.
I'm 19, I work full time, albiet only 3 days a week, and I can't afford anything better/bigger than a studio apartment.

I live in PGA Village right now, which is a super nice gated community with nothing but old fvcks. I keep getting these "tickets" (rent-a-cop) for illegal parking, speeding, wreckless driving, and running stop signs. The speed limit is 29 mph, I kid you not, and I've gotten reported for doing 35. And I don't run stop signs in the neighborhood, my car is a manual, and I usually just engine brake until about 5 mph, and keep going, at 3 am in the morning, but the guard at the West gate is a ***. One of them is a unhappy white dude with some serious issues, and the other one is a racist black guy who hates white people.

The last "ticket" they wrote me said something l like "Has no respect for anyone but himself and should be permanetly banned from PGA Village." Because one night I was bumping the system and he heard me, even though I turned it down before I pulled into the complex.

So I cause no problems at the house, mind my own business, never trash the house/kitchen, never play loud music, don't drink or smoke, but I have dirty laundry and my bathroom isn't spotless 24/7

I'm fvcked.

Oh, and the stupid cvnt leaves her braws and half eaten bowls of cereal around the house for DAYS at a time, and I have a half a can of soda in my room from the night before and I'm a slob? And her fat *** is too lazy to switch her laundry, so I end up doing it so I can wash my clothes.

Did I mention she ran into my car, in the driveway, and caused $1200 in damage? That was about 5 months ago, and my car still isn't fixed. They "don't have the money", yet they can afford to go on little romantic get-aways.

Unreal.

When I first moved in a year ago my dad told me I can keep my room HOWEVER I want it, as long as I keep the door closed, which I do. He said I can live here rent free as long as I'm in school, which I am. I even offered to pay a couple hundred $$ a month so they would shut the fvck up, but he refuses to accept it.

If you have drama at home it is time to move on. Get a full time job and a place of your own and that way you can live however you like. Studio apartment will be just fine, just enough space for you and your shit. Independence is a good thing embrace it.//content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[MitchZ 10+ year member]

Too long, didn't read full 5 pages.

But why don't you get the 1200$ from your car that she owes you, and then move out right away?

With that money, you can scope some autowreckers and get the part for half price, and you have 600$ to throw down to your first apartment.

 

[BoomBoomBoy 10+ year member]

The woman hates me, always has and always will.

Geez, I wonder why, loser? //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/rolleyes.gif.c1fef805e9d1464d377451cd5bc18bfb.gif

 

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If you raise a child for 18 years then decide to remarry again, I can't imagine that new woman gets the same authority over your child as you do. Think about what you're saying. You're playing a legal loophole, nothing more.

No. It is her house and she gets half a word in EVERY aspect of it or your new marriage WON'T work. You being young have no clue about proper relationship. I am not saying the father doesn't get a say, but he must consider her thoughts in this decision. This "kid" also needs a shove into the real world as his view of it is obviously distorted. You are hearing his side of it PV. I bet dollars to donuts this story is very different from his father and his fathers wifes perspective.