One of my buddies killed himself last night

[Injected54 10+ year member]

Dude had a history of depression, his wife and him suffered through 4 miscarriages. That alone was enough stress to destroy his marriage, but after the divorce he sunk pretty deep. He left a new girlfriend who told me today that she is pregnant with his child. Not sure of how it happened or what the final straw was.

Sorry to hear about your loss.

Not looking for sympathy, donations or anything else. I just want to give people here this advice....if you think you are depressed, please, go see someone. A counselor, a doctor, maybe a reverend or pastor. That is all

I hope anyone that's depressed is listening, and follows this good advise.

 

[craigzter 10+ year member]

well, myself can speak from experience, depression is a ***** to live with. I still have my lows in life, just like everyone. I was so bad my junior year of highschool, my mom actually checked me into st bernards behavioral health, like greenleaf and all those mental institutes. It was like a jail for minors. I was put on like 4 different meds to treat my depression and suicidal thoughts..

I was 16 then, now 20 and have everything to live for nearly. But yes, the permanent solution is NOT the best answer to ANY temp solution 9/10 times this is true.

Sorry to here about your loss mang, may he RIP, and god bless his family and friends as well.

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[dragnix 5,000+ posts]

jesus that sucks. Depression is a bish, did you ever try to talk him into counseling?

 

[perfecxionX 10+ year member]

jesus that sucks. Depression is a bish, did you ever try to talk him into counseling?

your sig seems to express a different opinion

 

[Slammed 5,000+ posts]

Dude had a history of depression, his wife and him suffered through 4 miscarriages. That alone was enough stress to destroy his marriage, but after the divorce he sunk pretty deep. He left a new girlfriend who told me today that she is pregnant with his child. Not sure of how it happened or what the final straw was.
Not looking for sympathy, donations or anything else. I just want to give people here this advice....if you think you are depressed, please, go see someone. A counselor, a doctor, maybe a reverend or pastor. That is all

sorry to hear it bro

thanks for the advice

 

[dragnix 5,000+ posts]

your sig seems to express a different opinion

that's only for retards, and as i don't know his friend I cannot form an opinion.

 

[bonesninja 5,000+ posts]

jesus that sucks. Depression is a bish, did you ever try to talk him into counseling?

he was in and out of treatment programs....i just found out from another friend who talked with his elderly mother that he hung himself.

 

[rugdnit 10+ year member]

BE A FRIEND...... EXACTLY! you never know when your actions just may save somebody. something as simple as a smile or an act of kindness. i know so many of us are focused on money and other possessions, but at the end of the day its about the friends and relationships you have with people. how will people talk about you when you are gone? will you be missed? we all rip on each other here and think its cool or funny ( it may be from where you are sitting ), but we would all be better off if we all took the time to be a friend to somebody..... besides.... doesn't it make you feel good to do something nice for somebody?

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

Question:

It seems that many feel that the person had a contractual obligation to those around him. I don't really feel the same way. I do not owe it to my family members to live, nor am I obligated. They will suffer not financial distress nor be responsible for an transactions where my lack of performance will cause them distress. I have often heard that ******* is selfish. Is it? I do not feel that it is selfish....Do people I come in contact with owe me anything? Does my mother, brother, father actually owe me anything? Would there be significant difference if the eliminated contact with me through ******* or just perhaps never speaking to me again? I don't really see the difference.

But then again, my family is not close as many others. The family structure is more like four room mates than a family...but that works for us.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

BE A FRIEND...... EXACTLY! you never know when your actions just may save somebody. something as simple as a smile or an act of kindness. i know so many of us are focused on money and other possessions, but at the end of the day its about the friends and relationships you have with people. how will people talk about you when you are gone? will you be missed? we all rip on each other here and think its cool or funny ( it may be from where you are sitting ), but we would all be better off if we all took the time to be a friend to somebody..... besides.... doesn't it make you feel good to do something nice for somebody?

Not always. Have you ever tried helping and it ended up being more trouble than it was worth? I have.

 

[rugdnit 10+ year member]

Not always. Have you ever tried helping and it ended up being more trouble than it was worth? I have.

Flip.... i have also seen that situation.... and i agree with you, but again that is someone that is taking advantage of you or your kindness. sometimes there are sinking ship situations and in that situation there really is nothing you can do. i am just saying that you never know how much an act of kindness can affect somebody. just know when somebody is taking advantage.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

Flip.... i have also seen that situation.... and i agree with you, but again that is someone that is taking advantage of you or your kindness. sometimes there are sinking ship situations and in that situation there really is nothing you can do. i am just saying that you never know how much an act of kindness can affect somebody. just know when somebody is taking advantage.

Right...but I am thinking of things like this.

Pretend I saw a co-worker struggling getting various gifts/food items from their car. Pretend I offer to help....and they hand me a cake to take to a place. On the way, I drop the cake. Now I feel responsible from dropping the cake and ruining the party. I feel somewhat obligated to get them a new cake....and they feel like I am a jackass for ruining the party.

So, I think...I can help...with no real reward (except internal happiness) and potential costs...or I can walk away...with no reward and no cost to me.

 

[rugdnit 10+ year member]

Right...but I am thinking of things like this.
Pretend I saw a co-worker struggling getting various gifts/food items from their car. Pretend I offer to help....and they hand me a cake to take to a place. On the way, I drop the cake. Now I feel responsible from dropping the cake and ruining the party. I feel somewhat obligated to get them a new cake....and they feel like I am a jackass for ruining the party.

So, I think...I can help...with no real reward (except internal happiness) and potential costs...or I can walk away...with no reward and no cost to me.

a real friend does not put you in a situation that is going to potentially cost you money. your cake scenario... well if you dont trust yourself enough to get the thing there safely... be a friend and tell him that you may not be the best choice. perhaps the cake gets ruined en route through events that are beyond your control. the party waiting on that cake would only be a bunch of a$$holes if they laid some trip down on you.... and NOT your friends. there is always some type of risk when you put yourself out there to help. no risk... no reward. goes back to choices.... life is full of choices we have to make. all you can do is what you think is best and right... it is important to sleep well at night.

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

Right...but I am thinking of things like this.
Pretend I saw a co-worker struggling getting various gifts/food items from their car. Pretend I offer to help....and they hand me a cake to take to a place. On the way, I drop the cake. Now I feel responsible from dropping the cake and ruining the party. I feel somewhat obligated to get them a new cake....and they feel like I am a jackass for ruining the party.

So, I think...I can help...with no real reward (except internal happiness) and potential costs...or I can walk away...with no reward and no cost to me.

No good deed goes unpunished.

 

[CRXBMPN 5,000+ posts]

my best friend for the most part went sleepy nite nite on July 5th 2000 and to this day I wish he would have just called me and spilled the beans, i'm now the only "son" that his father has. It must be pretty bad to think that there is noone you can trust to talk to about these things, that you just have to take sleeping pills, shoot yourself, whatever.