My girl dilemma..

[T9X 10+ year member]

Well just like every other person on this board, I've got girl problems. Go figure.. Here's the situation. I used to work with this girl about a year ago and always thought she was cute but never had the chance to stop and talk to her. Well about 2 monthes ago I saw her at my prom (she went to a different high school, came with someone from mine) with a couple of my ex-co-workers and got to talk to her a little, just doing the "Hey! I remember you!" thing. I got to talk to her a bit more since we went to Cedar Point with the same group of people the next day, ect. Ever since then we've been hanging out alot (once or twice a week now that I have a new job, conflicting work schedules) but never just the two of us. I always ask her if she wants to hang out and see a movie or something but one of us is always already hanging out with another person that we can't ditch. I've kind of picked up on a couple little hints that she likes me, not to mention she ensists on either sitting on my lap or laying on me when she's drunk.. I really like her personality and am extremely attracted to her but I'm having a hard time getting the ball rolling since we're always around people. Any suggestions on how to move things forward? Should I just call her up and tell her, "Look, we've been hanging out for a while now and I like being around you, I think you're very funny, attractive, ect." or do you guys know of a better way to approch the situation?

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[Randy Savage 5,000+ posts]

I'd say hang out with her alone before you tell her anything...people can act differently when they are alone as opposed to being with other people. Make plans in advance to do something- don't do movies, as you can't really talk to each other. I'd say something like mini golf or something along those lines would be appropriate.

 

[Beat_Dominator 5,000+ posts]

Shoot her.

..and her family.

 

[Primo 10+ year member]

i swear to god if you don't **** her, i'll kill myself.

 

[kuijo 10+ year member]

haha i didn't read shit and still got the reward. I WIN! I WIN!

 

[negativezeroz 5,000+ posts]

Just hang out with her, call her, or sometihng along those lines...her name isnt Katie is it? cuz she looks lik this Katie girl down here

 

[AndyB 10+ year member]

Ok, heres whats you do.

1.) You both get totally wasted at a party.

2.) You wake up with her the next morning, and you dont have to worry about a thing. Somehow the night before you two hooked up, and thats all that matters.

 

[Beat_Dominator 5,000+ posts]

...now for some real advice......

..you need to get moving because the more time is wasted hanging out with other people, the closer you get to being "like a brother" to her. Then you're screwed.

I'm not in your situation but personally I'd try to just ask her out on a real date, and let it be known that it will just be you and her.

 

[kuijo 10+ year member]

i just read it, Get her drunk around some of your CLOSE friends since she obviously cant handle being alone with you and then starting making out with her, ur friends shouldn't mind and then yall can go off to some other room and do it. But then again should could just be a tease.

 

[AndyB 10+ year member]

^ yea. Now that i feel bad for being an *** //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif (haha not), what i would do is tell her that you really enjoy being around her, and would like to take your relationship a step further and ask her on a date. Just let her know that you like her, because once your her big brother, its over. Let her know that you would like to get to know her more and all that shiiiiiiiii. Good luck. If that dont work, //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/cuddle.gif.bd1b29c179c0482f8313dbd790b74c94.gif get what you want, and leave before she wakes up. j/p, let her wake up...

 

[T9X 10+ year member]

Just hang out with her, call her, or sometihng along those lines...her name isnt Katie is it? cuz she looks lik this Katie girl down here

Close. Kelsey.

Ok, heres whats you do. 1.) You both get totally wasted at a party.

2.) You wake up with her the next morning, and you dont have to worry about a thing. Somehow the night before you two hooked up, and thats all that matters.

Tried it last weekend but she started drinking at 9pm and stopped at 11pm, I didn't get there until 3am (f*ck work). By then, she was 90% sober again. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/frown.gif.a3531fa0534503350665a1e957861287.gif

...now for some real advice......
..you need to get moving because the more time is wasted hanging out with other people, the closer you get to being "like a brother" to her. Then you're screwed.

I'm not in your situation but personally I'd try to just ask her out on a real date, and let it be known that it will just be you and her.

I know about the "like a brother" thing, I call it "the friends zone". Once you're there, there's no escaping. I screwed up and am in "the zone" with a couple of girls now..

 

[kuijo 10+ year member]

maybe shes into that big brother shit. Look at Angelina jolie she was ****ing making out with her brother not to far back ago.

 

[chinny 5,000+ posts]

call her

 

[Randy Savage 5,000+ posts]

I don't think it's a good idea to tell her how you feel yet as you may freak her out...and that would be hard to over come. I say make plans in advance- if today is Tuesday, see what she is doing Friday or Sat. night. Don't make a big deal out of it- do something small (like I mentioned, mini golf- girls seem to have fun playing it). It'll give you guys a chance to have fun and talk...also, if you've been getting good vibes all night, you can then maybe tell her how you feel.

Then, you FHITA

 

[T9X 10+ year member]

I don't think it's a good idea to tell her how you feel yet as you may freak her out...and that would be hard to over come. I say make plans in advance- if today is Tuesday, see what she is doing Friday or Sat. night. Don't make a big deal out of it- do something small (like I mentioned, mini golf- girls seem to have fun playing it). It'll give you guys a chance to have fun and talk...also, if you've been getting good vibes all night, you can then maybe tell her how you feel.
Then, you FHITA

The more I thought about it, the more I thought telling her up front might scare her away. I'm pretty sure she knows I like her and I honestly think she does like me but I think I may be screwed because she mentioned it would be really difficult starting anything up with someone when she leaves for college in 2 monthes..

And of course I'm going to FHITA, I thought that was a given. 4'11", 92lbs of spinning goodness. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/biggrin.gif.d71a5d36fcbab170f2364c9f2e3946cb.gif