Love?????????

[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

love is like gas it will pass

I thought that once, too.

Next thing I knew I was dealing with almost a full day in-flight (one way) and married to an Australian woman! (best decision I have ever made, truth be told...)

 

[SyKo13 5,000+ posts]

(Get your dictionary out, Syko...)Something so intangible as love rather defies true description. It isn't the same thing to one person as it will be the next.

It is entirely dependant on the situation in question, the individuals involved, and all pertinent circumstances that apply.

To more directly address your original question, however, to me anyway it is the recognition of a kindred soul within another person and the inability to live without that influence in my life on a day to day basis.

It is the failure to be able to envision my life 60 years in the future without my wife being there to share it with me (whatever that may be)

It is the willingness to endure any hardship(s) necessary to be able to be next to her even temporarily.

Were I to go on I would sound incredibly emo and seeing as I do not care to get in that particular mode today I'll stop here.

Good luck finding whatever answer(s) you are searching for.

Why is it so complex?

Is it a consistent feeling of happiness and security?

Didn't need the dictionary....lol, I'm learning slowly

 

[AJ²06 5,000+ posts]

BUT it isss complicated...

 

[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

Why is it so complex?

Because at the end of the day, it is an emotion. Emotions are complex things.

Is it a consistent feeling of happiness?

Not exactly. People are people. Because of the nature of the creatures called "humans" we are apt to fall short from time to time. As much as I both love my wife and am deeply in love with my wife (and they are very separate albeit intertwined things so don't let anyone tell you otherwise) as well as both being reciprocated by her to me there are still times when either her or I will do something that just chaps the other's hide. Humans, by nature, are incredibly selfish creatures. Said selfishness rubs people the wrong way every now and again no matter how close two individuals may be.
There have been occasions where my wife and I were in the midst of an argument so heated that I have found myself getting up, walking across the room, kissing her on her forehead and telling her "I love you deeply but right now I do not like you at all." And then I'll go for a walk or whatever until I can calm down enough to discuss whatever we were discussing and be proactive in finding a resolution rather than reactive because I'm angry.

I guess an accurate description would be the willingness to truly solve any issues that may arise rather than simply walking away never to return since the relationship didn't mean that much to begin with.

 

[regal8r 5,000+ posts]

Because at the end of the day, it is an emotion. Emotions are complex things.
Not exactly. People are people. Because of the nature of the creatures called "humans" we are apt to fall short from time to time. As much as I both love my wife and am deeply in love with my wife (and they are very separate albeit intertwined things so don't let anyone tell you otherwise) as well as both being reciprocated by her to me there are still times when either her or I will do something that just chaps the other's hide. Humans, by nature, are incredibly selfish creatures. Said selfishness rubs people the wrong way every now and again no matter how close two individuals may be.

There have been occasions where my wife and I were in the midst of an argument so heated that I have found myself getting up, walking across the room, kissing her on her forehead and telling her "I love you deeply but right now I do not like you at all." And then I'll go for a walk or whatever until I can calm down enough to discuss whatever we were discussing and be proactive in finding a resolution rather than reactive because I'm angry.

I guess an accurate description would be the willingness to truly solve any issues that may arise rather than simply walking away never to return since the relationship didn't mean that much to begin with.

prowler for prez

 

[yacob.naif 10+ year member]

love is...

well, love is the feeling i get when i eat an entire 5-scoop reese's pieces sunday with forbidden chocolate ice cream, and have to shit so bad i can't stick around to wait for my 1/2 retarded waitress to bring me my change, so i run out the door, cause 3 fender benders, 2 fatalities, and a 3rd world war on my way home, get out of my car, and start undoing my belt, and pulling my pants off before i even get into my house, trip on my pant leg, accidently kicking my dog in the throat, knocking it down the stairs, breaking 3 of it's 11 year old legs

.....and making it JUST in time to save my pants from a 55 gallon drum of ice cream grease.......

that... my friend.... is.... L-O-V-E

 

[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

prowler for prez

I am the President, CEO, and Chairman of the Board of the Prowler Fan Club.

I am my biggest fan //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

 

[SyKo13 5,000+ posts]

Interesting.....I just want to be sure about what I'm doing with this girl, I don't wanna fukk up again....Been talking to her for about 3 weeks now, first day she told me she was a very complicated person, I told her I didn't mind at all, and that same night she told me what she had been through 3 years before. She's been there for me to keep me calm these past 3 weeks.

At times I feel like telling her I love her but yet I'm not sure if I do, I get frustrated...My best buddy Josh (Regal8r), told me to let her tell me she loves me first.

My past relationships, I rushed into them and the outcome was heartbreak and regrets, but it's part of life I'm guessing?

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

i've seen it happen in less than 3 weeks. but that is definatly a short time period. dont say it unless you are 100% sure u mean it. its a powerful word.

 

[yacob.naif 10+ year member]

part of life.....

i've been ****ed up for the last 5 months or so after the same chick, who told me she needed 'space' right when i thought things were going GREAT

i'd be over it, but it's been hard on me, since she's not even seeing anyone else, she pretty much broke up with me to turn into a huge ****....

you can never go slow enough.... some people just get flaky

and as much as my life kinda blows right now, i remember how good it was, and i don't regret it a bit, and will do it all over again when the time is right

"Just listen to your heart, oh-woah"

 

[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

Interesting.....I just want to be sure about what I'm doing with this girl, I don't wanna fukk up again....Been talking to her for about 3 weeks now, first day she told me she was a very complicated person, I told her I didn't mind at all, and that same night she told me what she had been through 3 years before. She's been there for me to keep me calm these past 3 weeks.
At times I feel like telling her I love but yet I'm not sure if I am, I get frustrated...My best buddy Josh (Regal8r), told me to let her tell me she loves me first.

My past relationships, I rushed into them and the outcome was heartbreak and regrets, but it's part of life I'm guessing?

Never tell anyone that you love them unless you are certain that you truly do. Don't tell a woman that you love her simply to separate her from her panties. It might be nice in the short run but it will end in "tears before bedtime" (as my wife likes to say) in the long run.

As for who says it 'first' I don't think it makes a difference. If you've decided for yourself that you do honestly love this girl telling her and then closely observing her reaction could be a very good indicator of where you stand in the possiblity of a longterm/permanent relationship.

As my wife and I got to know one another better and better in the beginning of our relationship the day that I woke up realizing I was truly, deeply, head-over-stumbing-heels in love with her I told her immediately. There are many reasons for this which I won't get into here but in my case it turned out well, I'd say //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

 

[SyKo13 5,000+ posts]

Never tell anyone that you love them unless you are certain that you truly do. Don't tell a woman that you love her simply to separate her from her panties. It might be nice in the short run but it will end in "tears before bedtime" (as my wife likes to say) in the long run.
As for who says it 'first' I don't think it makes a difference. If you've decided for yourself that you do honestly love this girl telling her and then closely observing her reaction could be a very good indicator of where you stand in the possiblity of a longterm/permanent relationship.

As my wife and I got to know one another better and better in the beginning of our relationship the day that I woke up realizing I was truly, deeply, head-over-stumbing-heels in love with her I told her immediately. There are many reasons for this which I won't get into here but in my case it turned out well, I'd say //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

//content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/nono.gif.eca61d170185779e0921b0faa9704973.gif Stereotype lol, I'm not that kind of person at all, I just want to settle down, I know it's too early, but I want to do that....

 

[SyKo13 5,000+ posts]

There is only 1 tiny little microscopic problem......

She lives in Texas and I live in Cali......//content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

 

[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

There is only 1 tiny little microscopic problem......She lives in Texas and I live in Cali......//content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

The only response I personally have for that is at least YOU could drive from where you are to where she is...

Outside of that I can't say I have much sympathy. (try being separated by literally half a planet and then get back to me //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif)

And as far as the stereotype remark goes it wasn't an assumption that you would do such a thing, friend. Just advice not to do so in case you might be apt to do so.

 

[SyKo13 5,000+ posts]

The only response I personally have for that is at least YOU could drive from where you are to where she is...
Outside of that I can't say I have much sympathy. (try being separated by literally half a planet and then get back to me //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif)

And as far as the stereotype remark goes it wasn't an assumption that you would do such a thing, friend. Just advice not to do so in case you might be apt to do so.

1500+ miles //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif, I'm starting school this tuesday...I been trying to find a job, just so that I can go see her....Now that I think of it that's the only reason I want a job....

I was jk about the stereotype lol, I would never do that to a woman man....Never, not even think of it, I'd have to hate myself id I did that, just the thought of doing that breaks me, makes me feel less man.....