I am too nice

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

My problem is I am too nice and I trust people too much.

As a result people perceive my kindness as weakness

and I am haunted by betrayal.

People keep taking advantage of me, trying to manipulate me, abusing my trust, blowing me off, saying bad things behind my back, lieing to me, stealing from me, or being just plain rude and disrespectful to me.

I am a an extremely mellow, kind, loyal, and laid back person with good morals, integrity, and try to surround myself with good people.

But when stuff like this keeps happening to me it makes me become more and more cynical, mistrustful, spiteful, angry, and paranoid.

So I am trying to brainstorm ways to stop this from happening.

Obviously if people dont sense any weakness than there will be nothing to exploit. So I am trying to limit and completely eradicate those signals or indications that give the impression that I am someone that can be ****ed. I know Randy Savage seems like someone no one would **** with, so I guess I want to become more like him.

I have always had self esteem issues but I am now at a point where I do beleive in myself to the utmost and have very few limiting beliefs about myself.

I have everything going for me in life and destined for great things.

This seems to be one of the few things holding me back.

If any of you guys have any advice it would be greatly appreciated. Thankyou.

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[Speedbump3]

I think you try being more like Tappin Azz.

 

[Ken448 10+ year member]

can we all have your avatar?

 

[AllStar1500bd 5,000+ posts]

If I may...

You are probably still in your hometown that you grew up in, surrounded by the same sights and sounds day in and day out. You're probably not in a University. You probably have the same drama causing "friends" that seem to put you into difficult situations.

Any of that remotely true?

 

[snoopdan 5,000+ posts]

My problem is I am too nice and I trust people too much.
As a result people perceive my kindness as weakness

and I am haunted by betrayal.

People keep taking advantage of me, trying to manipulate me, abusing my trust, blowing me off, saying bad things behind my back, lieing to me, stealing from me, or being just plain rude and disrespectful to me.

I am a an extremely mellow, kind, loyal, and laid back person with good morals, integrity, and try to surround myself with good people.

But when stuff like this keeps happening to me it makes me become more and more cynical, mistrustful, spiteful, angry, and paranoid.

So I am trying to brainstorm ways to stop this from happening.

Obviously if people dont sense any weakness than there will be nothing to exploit. So I am trying to limit and completely eradicate those signals or indications that give the impression that I am someone that can be ****ed. I know Randy Savage seems like someone no one would **** with, so I guess I want to become more like him.

I have always had self esteem issues but I am now at a point where I do beleive in myself to the utmost and have very few limiting beliefs about myself.

I have everything going for me in life and destined for great things.

This seems to be one of the few things holding me back.

If any of you guys have any advice it would be greatly appreciated. Thankyou.

I think we're brothers seperated at birth //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/fyi.gif.9f1f679348da7204ce960cfc74bca8e0.gif

 

[Fandl 10+ year member]

Personality, tough thing to change. I guess my only advice would be to try and be cautious about what you say and to who. Can't let it get to you, being too nice isn't a bad thing, but I can sympathize with the obvious drawbacks stated.

 

[Tiger Bass 5,000+ posts]

You may be able to find some useful information at rsdnation.com

 

[MurderedOut 10+ year member]

That's nice Preston.

 

[vgeek 10+ year member]

Simply become more cynical and less trusting. You need to realize that the world will get you if you don't get the world. Pick your friends better so you will have less drama.