Crunk Times, My friend.....Crunk Times

[icpurplepplalot 5,000+ posts]

Mike I will say this, I know alot of people give you shit, and you can be an *** sometimes, but you actually give damn good advice. My hat is off to you good sir.

2k, Like I have said, I really hope everything works out for you man. Just keep your head up.

 

[mokedaddy 5,000+ posts]

I may also recommend some smoking some weed. It will help you sleep, eat and feel better.

I know Mike wont agree with it and maybe not even you but it does work for some people. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[cpierce 5,000+ posts]

I may also recommend some smoking some weed. It will help you sleep, eat and feel better.
I know Mike wont agree with it and maybe not even you but it does work for some people. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

Hungry, Happy, Sleepy

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

I don't think you're crossing the line I just think she needs to realize that only the really really well off couples have a lot of money when they start out. My parents had hardly any money when they first got married but they are big timing it now. It just takes time. Instant gratification is a horrible trait our youth of America has become used to.

I could not agree more, and I have been guilty of it myself.

Yes, my parents have lived modestly all of their lives -- but they made it and like yours, they plenty of money today. It was simply a different mindset. You provide for security first -- and then, occassionally, a luxury.

I don't ever recall wanting for anything when I was growing up. The truth is that we really do not need most of what we want. Nor does it make us any happier when we get it.

 

[TulsaMike 10+ year member]

Mike I will say this, I know alot of people give you shit, and you can be an *** sometimes, but you actually give damn good advice. My hat is off to you good sir.
2k, Like I have said, I really hope everything works out for you man. Just keep your head up.

Well in my 26 yrs i've experienced more than most people 2x my age. figure someone else might as well try to learn from my experiences.

I may after a while but not right now. it's been a couple years since I've felt like this so I don't really remember the stages. Yeah, I'll have to find a weekend fun after a couple months, I really have no desire to have *** right now though.
yes, I used to take tylenol pm, might have to go buy some.

I'll try and find something, it's just hard because my friends aren't really helping me. if they were willing to help me this would be easier but the advice I've gotten is, "man just go out and get real shitty and go fuk someone." yeah, that's real good advice, I'll really take that to heart //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/rolleyes.gif.c1fef805e9d1464d377451cd5bc18bfb.gif

i hear ya. not the best advise

I'm glad to see you finally chiming in and giving some real advice. I knew you'd come through eventually. Yeah I've always been that way, I just can't bare the thought of her being with someone else.
if an opportunity does arise it'll have to be a **** good catch for me to want to jump on it. I will eventually be happy it'll just take some time.

I don't think you're crossing the line I just think she needs to realize that only the really really well off couples have a lot of money when they start out. My parents had hardly any money when they first got married but they are big timing it now. It just takes time. Instant gratification is a horrible trait our youth of America has become used to.

i agree

eh she can handle buying nice things on her own. She makes pretty good money for our age. She bought an 800 dollar couch and an 800 dollar washer and dryer in the same week. I dont' think money was a big factor I just think it tied in with her saying, "I do such nice things for you and buy you nice things and yet you don't seem to care." Which true, she did do all that but I did appreciate it. I guess I just didn't handle it the right way. That's a strike on me.
I agree. Mike has been very helpful with this, I'm very surprised.

thanks man, I'm trying.

1st rule: dont blame yourself. you have done everything you can, this is her decision. not yours.

I have a feeling, now this is just a far stretch theory, that she started having doubts because of how I was acting. You know, whenever you get into a relationship you get comfortable, to comfortable and sometimes you forget to show and appreciate what you have. Which you know I still always told her I loved her and showed her affection I just suppose maybe when she bought me things I didn't thank her as highly as I should have. and like I said that's a strike on me. But anyways, perhaps she started getting upset and then whatever this mess is came along. Now she has two big things going on and it's just to overwhelming and to much for her to handle so she gets distant and neglecting. Now things are really bad and now she just thinks she's better off on her own until she knows what to do. That's what I'm starting to think now anyways.

see above.

 

[mokedaddy 5,000+ posts]

I have a feeling, now this is just a far stretch theory, that she started having doubts because of how I was acting. You know, whenever you get into a relationship you get comfortable, to comfortable and sometimes you forget to show and appreciate what you have. Which you know I still always told her I loved her and showed her affection I just suppose maybe when she bought me things I didn't thank her as highly as I should have. and like I said that's a strike on me. But anyways, perhaps she started getting upset and then whatever this mess is came along. Now she has two big things going on and it's just to overwhelming and to much for her to handle so she gets distant and neglecting. Now things are really bad and now she just thinks she's better off on her own until she knows what to do. That's what I'm starting to think now anyways.

Dude, stop thinking like that. Quit blaming yourself. I know its hard and I know you will keep thinking about it but you have to do your best to stop thinking is there something I could have done. The answer is most likely not. All the women I have dated had no problem expressing if I was doing something wrong, but the relationship would still end. People fall out of love, people think grass is greener elsewhere, people have second thoughts. There is nothing you can do about it right now. So just chill. Maybe take a vacation if thats feasible. Come to Dallas, we'll party. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

I actually moved to Dallas not too long after a bad break-up. It really helped.

 

[TulsaMike 10+ year member]

I could not agree more, and I have been guilty of it myself.
Yes, my parents have lived modestly all of their lives -- but they made it and like yours, they plenty of money today. It was simply a different mindset. You provide for security first -- and then, occassionally, a luxury.

I don't ever recall wanting for anything when I was growing up. The truth is that we really do not need most of what we want. Nor does it make us any happier when we get it.

i hear ya on that. I'm one of those people that like to make sure bills are taken car of first, once thats done if there is anything left half of it can be blown the rest goes into savings.

 

[TulsaMike 10+ year member]

Dude, stop thinking like that. Quit blaming yourself. I know its hard and I know you will keep thinking about it but you have to do your best to stop thinking is there something I could have done. The answer is most likely not. All the women I have dated had no problem expressing if I was doing something wrong, but the relationship would still end. People fall out of love, people think grass is greener elsewhere, people have second thoughts. There is nothing you can do about it right now. So just chill. Maybe take a vacation if thats feasible. Come to Dallas, we'll party. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif
I actually moved to Dallas not too long after a bad break-up. It really helped.

hell, come to tulsa, i'll buy you a beer and share some of my experiences, that'll make you feel better. i assure you //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

 

[Pimpedout97]

I am not knowing...My other TV can get HDTV channels over the air. Does this mean I do not need a tuner?


What woman is not needy?

What is pretty good money? The ability to buy stuff isn't what makes you wealthy, imo. I could buy a $5,000 couch...but I won't. I'll rock the patio furniture. It isn't what you make, it's what you spend.

We actually study this in micro. Think about buying something like pots and pans. People do not think about the pot and pan...what they are buying is the image of a nice family dinner and that pots and pans are a mechanism to make such a mental image a reality. I wanted 18s for a while, not because I am a basshead, but because I have a mental image of wanting to be this "cool" guy. I still try to devise ways from time to time to replicate what other people do as cool so that I will be cool as well.

I am thinking this 100 items idea has merit. I am just hoping I can get teh gf to buy it.

HD and digital signals are different. I believe it was a federal law that all LCD's needed to be manufactured with the digital tuner. It started with different sized TV's and then moved to all TV's.

 

[Pimpedout97]

yeah I'm sure you've seen more then I have. good info for sure.
well it's just hard not to blame yourself. I mean something goes wrong you just assume that your to blame or you at least had a hand in act.

well I've already arranged a meeting with the folks in Ohio here next weekend. Dallas is much closer, perhaps I could hang out with you and Jntar sometime in the near future. Maybe just stay a night or something.

Tulsa is MUCH closer, it's like an hour and a half away. Sadly, I'm through a transitional state right now and haven't drank anything in two weeks, coming up on three. but you can have a beer and tell me the stories //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif

anyways, I guess I'm gonna try and do some sh1t, I'm tired of sitting around mopping about. Thanks for all the support guys, it means a lot to me.

Better yet, come here and I will drink and tell you the courageous story of a young Swede who won the Conn Smythe trophy.

 

[Pimpedout97]

I can tell crunk times is getting deep because the replies are multiple paragraphs.

 

[Pimpedout97]

what in the fuk does that mean? //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif

Apparently you don't watch hockey. More stories my friend. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[Pimpedout97]

It's good to have an anonymos forum to complain to.

I agree. It's easier to open up to strangers because if I don't like the response I can just close out the browser and you all will disappear.

 

[mokedaddy 5,000+ posts]

well I've already arranged a meeting with the folks in Ohio here next weekend. Dallas is much closer, perhaps I could hang out with you and Jntar sometime in the near future. Maybe just stay a night or something.

If me and Justin cant make you feel better than there is no hope for you at all. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif

 

[Pimpedout97]

If me and Justin cant make you feel better than there is no hope for you at all. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif

I should harass via text. That makes me feel better.