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[TulsaMike 10+ year member]

no prob

 

[TulsaMike 10+ year member]

I know the feeling my friend. My ex-wife kicked me out after 4 yrs of marriage out of the blue.

 

[Pimpedout97]

I think I may break up with my GF. I never really liked her so it isn't that hard for me to do.

 

[TulsaMike 10+ year member]

and doesn't it just BUG the hell out of you? I mean didn't you stat replaying stuff in your head and when you first stated noticing things and what could have caused this change?
she keeps saying she doesn't want to hurt me. but god how can you not hurt me?

yea it did for a while. then i found out she got an std w/ the first guy she started sleeping with after she left me. (this was when i was still angry about it) made me feel a little better.

It is going to for a while until you replace it with something.
Keep in mind, it may not be your fault and there is nothing you could do about it. The girl in the cube next to me broke up with a guy because his penis was too skinny. But that relationship only lasted 3 or 4 months.

i went the creepy route and was stalking her(we lived in the same apt complex like 100 yds apart) and then i let myself get reallly depressed and sleep deprived. made some stupid mistakes with some pills. required some therapy and medication.

well I guess only time will tell that tale. but I'm not going to replace her for a long long time. I'm not going to be in a serious relationship for a while. I have a feeling this is going to put me in a state of not opening up. Because I fully opened up to her and look at the outcome. I mean for christ sake this is a person I could see myself being with the rest of my life.
what a dumb fuking reason. Wow. That's like me saying I'm going to break up with a girl because she has to small of *****.

The only GOOD that I can see from any of this is I have learned a lot from this relationship and have gained so much knowledge because of it.

I truely hope this experience doesnt cause you to clam up and not put your heart on the line again some day. I can understand not being in a serious relationship for a while. I went 3 yrs before starting to date again. So take whatever time you need to heal. but dont close off your heart for good.

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

I think I may break up with my GF. I never really liked her so it isn't that hard for me to do.

Well don't be boring about it. Create a thread announcing your decision and send her the link.

 

[Pimpedout97]

Well don't be boring about it. Create a thread announcing your decision and send her the link.

I've decided to be nice about it. It is the new iceteebone. I actually enjoy the attention from a female so I think that is why I haven't done it yet. Outside of the Pistons, she is really not my type of person.

 

[Pimpedout97]

You should talk to NG.

 

[Pimpedout97]

I've tried that...he doesn't have much advice. I'm trying to arrange a weekend to go up to Ohio though and hang out with him, aaron, and Jason. Everyone on the forums has been so kind and so great to talk to. Almost better then my friends who have been with me since 7th grade.

You should come a little farther north. I could probably get all you guys free drinks.

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

My advice = Dev's advice.

Whatever he says, put me dwn as well.

 

[Pimpedout97]

lol, I'm not drinking dude. this thursday will be three weeks since I've drank. drinking would only put me in a worse state then I'm already in.


he won't be back till thursday

Good then you can be the designated driver.

 

[Pimpedout97]

I have to get a converter box. Even with the coupon, it is gonna cost me $$.


ha!

My gf isn't either and we work out okay.

You can. As long as you are getting good sleep and eating good, you will be okay. Take it one day at a time.

awwww

An LCD should have a built in digital tuner.

 

[TulsaMike 10+ year member]

see even though I'm mad at her I would never wish for something bad to happen to her.
yeah I know about the sleep part. at least the last couple of days I've been getting enough sleep. Well sort of.

Oh dude, I won't be able to put my heart out on the line for a long time. That's crazy you went 3 years though, god I sure as hell hope I don't dwell that long. I'll want to shoot myself if I think about this that long. I'll try mike, I really will try but this is that time period when you think you can never be happy again.

1. eventually, you will probably get angry about it (at least i did, at first i was hopeful like yourself, that will wear off if she's not willing to work it out.)

2. it will take a while, i certainly hope it doesnt take you 3 yrs either(if it does so be it, just find someone that will give you a bj or fuk you once in a while 3 yrs is too long to wait)

3. I know all to well what you are talking about. Just make sure you get as much sleep as you can, if necessary take some sleeping pills ever once in a while, i still go through periods where i cant sleep, i usually take a sleeping pill about every 2-3 days so i can get at least 2 nights of good sleep a week.

4. this will pass and you will be happy again. it will just take time. my suggestion, find something productive to do withyour time.

yeah, all i can do is handle one day at a time.
aww?

indeed.

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

lol, I'm not drinking dude. this thursday will be three weeks since I've drank. drinking would only put me in a worse state then I'm already in.


he won't be back till thursday

Oh, well then I will advise you and it will be the same as his.

First, women are crazy. They do not think like men so we can't always make sense of what they do.

Second, from what I can tell you have done all that you can do. You have unequivically told her how you feel and that you are willing to do whatever it takes. Apparently she also thinks that whatever "it" is there is nothing you can do to change it since she really will not talk to you.

Third, I think that your basic philosophy of cutting off contact and not hanging out with her is the correct one. It will help you get through this faster.

Fourth, I don't think that you should have a "mourning" period. It may be a while before you find someone else that you really interested in, but when the opportunity arises I think you should not go overboard in applying the "lessons" that you learned form this experience. You were happy being yourself, you will be again.

Finally, and I hope I am not crossing the line here, but her economic needs may just not match up well with where you currently are. Your financial situation is consistent with people of your age. Her needs, however, are not consistent with people of her own age. That has nothing to do with you and everything to with what life has handed her.

 

[TulsaMike 10+ year member]

she's not one of those needy women is she? you know, the ones that think the world owes them the best things in life and think its your job to give them to her.