Anyone else really struggle to make it through life at some point?

[bonesninja 5,000+ posts]

This came out because i saw " The Pursuit of Happyness" last night. But basically, have any of you guys really struggled to make it through some rough times? For me, it was about 6-7 years ago. My 2nd son was just born and me and my gf at the time lived in a very small 1 bedroom apartment. I worked at a local stamping/powder coating facility making $9.00 an hour and we had no car and no close family or friends that could watch the kids every now and then. Luckily, i only lived 2 blocks from my job so i could walk there, but many days i went to work with an empty stomach and no lunch because i spent every dime on food for the kids and paying rent and utilities. Hell, we didn't even have a phone or cable tv cause we could not afford it.

Then i got lucky one day and a guy i knew who owned a junk yard, sold me a 89 Ford taurus that was pretty beat down for $65. It ran really good to my suprise and i used it to find a better job making $12 an hour with lots of overtime available. So i saved up some more money and bought my gf a car so she got a job at JCPenney's selling shoes. Then about 2 years ago, i got another job, where i still work at, that paid $15.25 to start and now i'm up to $25 an hour and my wife still sells shoes. We are not hurting for money anymore, have 4 cars, cable TV and a full refridgerator, and are currently saving up the 20% down needed to build our own home.

At times, it was realy tough for me, especially since i was in the army and never needed anything. Sometimes, i really questioned my ability to be a provider for my family and even at one point was toying with the notion of *******. So i just wanted to say to everyone, that if you keep your head up and really focus on your goals, you can reach them.

Anyone else?

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[.::DuD3::. 10+ year member]

i guess im too young to have overcome great feats and accomplish any long term goals.

 

[LeofromtheH 10+ year member]

i've gone through some tough times myself this past year, with my parents divorce, and moving out on my own. but obviously it doesn't amount to your struggles. i have a long way to go as only being 19, but i appreciate everything i have, and hate it when friends just takeeverything for granted. friend of mine gets everything handed to him, even his job he has now was gotten buy his parents. but shit, you gotta grow up sometime. reality will slap him in the face one day.

but good inspriational story btw. and umm.. how was the movie? it looks good

 

[bonesninja 5,000+ posts]

i've gone through some tough times myself this past year, with my parents divorce, and moving out on my own. but obviously it doesn't amount to your struggles. i have a long way to go as only being 19, but i appreciate everything i have, and hate it when friends just takeeverything for granted. friend of mine gets everything handed to him, even his job he has now was gotten buy his parents. but shit, you gotta grow up sometime. reality will slap him in the face one day.
but good inspriational story btw. and umm.. how was the movie? it looks good

i give it a B+..slow start, predictable ending but good movie nonetheless

 

[TylerBD12 10+ year member]

i saw that movie last night too...pretty good...

i hope i never have to go through anything like that. but you never know. i watched my single mom go through that with me and my 2 other siblings. i dont know how she did it

 

[j3bus2k3 5,000+ posts]

I never had to go through anything like that but recently my life has been shit. About 5 weeks ago, while riding my sport bike, I was jacked and took a baseball bat to the helmet whereby I was unconcious for a couple hours. In that time they stole my bike and about $6000 worth of tools, stands, lifts and an extra set of wheels from my storage unit. The police arrested 3 on it but never found my bike. Hoping that insurance would come through, they didnt. They said it sounded "too hollywood" and would not write me any check until the bike was found or credible evidence was found to conclusivly prove it was real. They are instead fronting an effort to get me $6000 for all the stolen goods in my storage unit though. But at least I had another means of transportation and wasnt SOL....that was short lived. My 1994 acura dided about 2 weeks later and its $2200 to repair to its sitting out front, dead and I'm out a car. But lukily, a family friend gave us his old car for free knowing the shit I've had to deal with these past couple weeks...thats my holiday story but its of no comparison to the movie...

 

[bigbangtheory 5,000+ posts]

Well mine are a little different. I have always had family there for me.(Thank god) Back a few years ago I was way above my head in bills. Over 60000 dollars due to my stupid knucklehead decisions on Audio, cars, rebuilds and then not being happy and starting all over. I just wasnt very mature and was living a very material life as money wasnt an issue with me. I had many CC's and money at hand due to a half way decent job at that time. Well how the tides turn sometimes. I ended up hurting my back and getting into a fight with a vend attendent lady at one of my stops on my route. Well my boss took their side as the lady had a manager there cover for her. Go figure, if the vend attendet lady lost her job then that supervisor would had to cove her spot till they found someone else. So I ended up getting the shaft. Boss told me you can either take a paycut or you can quit. I said, I cant quit, I have bills out the whazoo and I need my benefits. Boss tells me well we will pay ya, but you will go from 15 some an hour to 9 something an hour and you wont have any benefits as you will be working in the warehouse. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/frown.gif.a3531fa0534503350665a1e957861287.gif So there I am with all these bills, living with a ***** of a girlfriend at the time out in bumfugged egypt. So had to take it and swallow my pride. So kept working for another 7 months there and then ended up hurting my back there and the job said I did it out of work which is BS. Cause all day long I lift big *** 40-100 pound boxes like elvenbillon times a day. So not only are my bills piling up on me as I cant pay shit. Now my back is fuxored and still is too this day. Then out of no where my car gets stolen as I am helping some guy on his route. Something I wasnt supposed to do anyway. I come back and my 1985 Cutlass Surpreme is gone! The one time I parked it outside of the fence due to me being late and it was stolen. Was pretty much a show car as I didnt even drive it everyday. I lost over 5500 in audio, 2gs in rims, 3000 in cds/dvds as I only had liabilty on it as I cut down my insurance cause of the cut in my wages. Go figure! So there I am, Shitty job, shitty back,shitty g/f and car just got stolen and already owe over 60'gs from previous cars and audio and other stupid shit. So talk to my mom and she tells me you need to just start over. Thought about it for a while...........ok 2 days, lol! I quit my job and took 2 months to really think shit through with myself. Was very depressing as all I had was my family. Decided to move back home with parents as they helped me out. Mom bought me a 1994 Thunderbird as I lost all my vechichles cause I decided to clear my debt and go bankrupt. I think it was chapeter 7 which takes care of all if I am not mistaken. So had no job for a while as I was depressed and also though about *******. Then one day just woke up and felt good. Did a bunch of applying for jobs and was called on a few and decided doing loss prevention through K-mart. I am in managment now and do ok. Make a little over 10 bucks an hour, but dont have all the bills and stress like before. I have 2 cars, and had a house that I was paying my parents to live in as they got something else a couple years back. Then I ment my current G/f who has two kids and we have one on the way. So moved out with her to a nice condo/apartment. Is 1200sft of apartment, so is like a condo, lol! My house was just to small. Currently house is for sale or rent to own and I am much happier with my life. Yes sometimes it still gets depressing, but hell that is life and I can deal with that. I do need to cut back on the audio thing though, lol!

Thanks for bringing this up Bones. Good topic. I am just bored as I highly doubt most will take time out to read that. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[bigbangtheory 5,000+ posts]

I never had to go through anything like that but recently my life has been shit. About 5 weeks ago, while riding my sport bike, I was jacked and took a baseball bat to the helmet whereby I was unconcious for a couple hours. In that time they stole my bike and about $6000 worth of tools, stands, lifts and an extra set of wheels from my storage unit. The police arrested 3 on it but never found my bike. Hoping that insurance would come through, they didnt. They said it sounded "too hollywood" and would not write me any check until the bike was found or credible evidence was found to conclusivly prove it was real. They are instead fronting an effort to get me $6000 for all the stolen goods in my storage unit though. But at least I had another means of transportation and wasnt SOL....that was short lived. My 1994 acura dided about 2 weeks later and its $2200 to repair to its sitting out front, dead and I'm out a car. But lukily, a family friend gave us his old car for free knowing the shit I've had to deal with these past couple weeks...thats my holiday story but its of no comparison to the movie...

I know excatly how you feel. Should read my post. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif Shit sucks mang, truely sucks. I hope you get your money bro. Shit always happens to the best of us. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/frown.gif.a3531fa0534503350665a1e957861287.gif

 

[j3bus2k3 5,000+ posts]

I know excatly how you feel. Should read my post. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif Shit sucks mang, truely sucks. I hope you get your money bro. Shit always happens to the best of us. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/frown.gif.a3531fa0534503350665a1e957861287.gif

Just read it mang. We kinda went through the same thing. Glad you pulled through bro. And yea, I hope one day I wake up and see my bike on a flatbed...in pieces or mint, I dont care, I want my bike //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/tongue.gif.6130eb82179565f6db8d26d6001dcd24.gif

 

[bigbangtheory 5,000+ posts]

Just read it mang. We kinda went through the same thing. Glad you pulled through bro. And yea, I hope one day I wake up and see my bike on a flatbed...in pieces or mint, I dont care, I want my bike //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/tongue.gif.6130eb82179565f6db8d26d6001dcd24.gif

Yeah dude, it will be fine. Just dont get too depressed. You are still young as am I and I have went through it and I am much better because of it. Trust me you will be fine.

Hope you do get your bike, cause I wish I still had mine too. Although that was a nother dumb invesment for me. Only had that bike 6 months and then sold it, lol! Paid 4gs for it and sold it for 2gs. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/blackeye.gif.66a1670f5aaf7f406e783a63e3387dc5.gif Was a Honda Hurricane 1100.

 

[young_gun 10+ year member]

Well, I'm 19 but its been rough for me too. My father died when I was 13 and for 6 six years its been hell really. Its just me and my mom, all of dads side of the family kinda lost touch after his death (she was his second wife) and all of my family lives across state anyway. Dads insurance didnt pay out when he died for some BS reason and he was our only source of real income. Mom got a job at a mechanic shop that was real good, benefits and good pay. Then (behind her back) the owner sells the shop to one of the mechanics. He doesnt like mom around and says he wont take it unless shes fired, so she comes in one day and BAM shes layed off. No thank you, good by, or anything (MF'ers). I had been working there too, so I said F off and quit too. Mom then got a few BS jobs at tech support or Freds to help with bills and such and I tried to find a job. Bills are always piling up and we try to do what we can.

Earlier this year she filed bankrupcy but that really only got the creditors off our backs and kept our car from getting repossessed. We still have to pay the house note/bankrupcy payment/ and utilities. We dont have a phone or tv now, dont really need it and cant pay for it. Mom has finally got a good job with the state DOT dept and is getting good benefits and works with people she likes. I'm in college and I'm trying to help myself. Things are still really hard.

And to top that off, yesterday someone (one of my friends appearently, still have to find out who) came in and took $400 out of her purse which was all we have until after Xmas and that was to pay the power and bankruptcy payment. So right now I dont know what to do. I'm just ready to give up, trying to make an honest living just never works it seems. Anway, thats my story, thanks for the thread, nice to vent to someone ya know. Thanks alos if anyone read my life story,lol.

 

[young_gun 10+ year member]

Just read bigbangs post. That really sucked man, I'm glad to hear you pulled out of it. How jobs do good people is really sickening sometimes.

 

[Lil Poot 5,000+ posts]

financially, not really, even though i'm about 5k in debt right now, it's not too bad, i've got a good job and am about to get a better one building learjets.

before i moved to west virginia though, i was in way over my head in drugs. got my girl knocked up and she got an abortion without even telling me she was pregnant. she told me i was too out there from dropping acid all the time to be any kind of a father or have any say in the decision. after that, it got real bad, snorting 80mg of oxycontin everyday, smoking about 1/8th of kind bud a week, drinking hard, that went on for about a year. one night i mixed 120mg of oxy with 20mg of valium and took about 8 shots of bombay sapphire. i sat with a 12 gauge in my mouth for a while that night, before i had something of a moment of clarity, called a friend over. answered the door still holding it, he went to take it away from me slowly and i tried to yank it back, it went off putting a hole in the floor between us, about 6 inches from our feet. the next day i decided i needed to get away from that whole scene and moved back in with my parents who had moved to WV a few years before. been doing really well since then, even though i'm getting ready to move back to kansas i've grown beyond all that and i'm not worried about falling back into old habits.

havent seen the movie, or even previews, i dont watch tv. whats it about?

 

[bigbangtheory 5,000+ posts]

Just read bigbangs post. That really sucked man, I'm glad to hear you pulled out of it. How jobs do good people is really sickening sometimes.

Thanks!

Yes, it sucks as that was my favorite job I have ever had. Now I am afraid to go out and get a physical job because of my back. I actually need surgery, but from other people telling me and me actually knowing someone that had it done, I really just dont need it right now.

I actually can get a job right now working for Kraftmaid Cabinerty. They start off over 11 I think it is and go up extremley fast. Thing is it is very fast paced and shit my back hurts me when I do the dishes. Probably dont help that since I quit that job that I am pushing 300 pounds and I am only 5-10. I really need to do something about that. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/frown.gif.a3531fa0534503350665a1e957861287.gif

 

[bigbangtheory 5,000+ posts]

financially, not really, even though i'm about 5k in debt right now, it's not too bad, i've got a good job and am about to get a better one building learjets.
before i moved to west virginia though, i was in way over my head in drugs. got my girl knocked up and she got an abortion without even telling me she was pregnant. she told me i was too out there from dropping acid all the time to be any kind of a father or have any say in the decision. after that, it got real bad, snorting 80mg of oxycontin everyday, smoking about 1/8th of kind bud a week, drinking hard, that went on for about a year. one night i mixed 120mg of oxy with 20mg of valium and took about 8 shots of bombay sapphire. i sat with a 12 gauge in my mouth for a while that night, before i had something of a moment of clarity, called a friend over. answered the door still holding it, he went to take it away from me slowly and i tried to yank it back, it went off putting a hole in the floor between us, about 6 inches from our feet. the next day i decided i needed to get away from that whole scene and moved back in with my parents who had moved to WV a few years before. been doing really well since then, even though i'm getting ready to move back to kansas i've grown beyond all that and i'm not worried about falling back into old habits.

havent seen the movie, or even previews, i dont watch tv. whats it about?

Wow! That is some crazy stuff there. Glad to see you moved on to better things. Also how did you get a job building lear jets? I wouldnt tell your boss about this stuff. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/uhoh.gif.c07307dd22ee7e63e22fc8e9c614d1fd.gif