Un-fvcking-beleiveable!!!!!!!!!

[bds0688 10+ year member]

Definitely don't go about this the wrong way, but do take action. My dad died when I was 15. We were able to pay off our house with his insurance, and some maintenance needed on it and such. Nothing major, but it needed done. My mom fell into a slight depression when I was around 18. Money became thin, and I have loaned her probably close to 1.5K, without ever seeing a dime back. I don't expect to, but it would be nice, since she is still providing the house and luxuries*cable, internet that I am using*. However, she has not taken money without me knowing.

Once you cool down, maybe talk with your mom. See why she didn't just ask, if she's embarassed about the situation, or feels threatened? Maybe she was going to lose both houses? Debt collectors and money situtatuins turn nasty really quickly. Hell, see if she's depressed, or been squandering money. Again, no attack on your mom or her character. But maybe something's distracting her and is allowing bills to get backed up.

I think my mom fell into her depression because both my sister and I were out of the house with work and school, and she had no one there. At 17 I imagine you're a senior, and as you say, planned on moving out. Not that moms don't want their kids to leave, but without a husband or companionship there, can bring them down, and cause poor performance or other habits/squandering. Just talk it out, and definitely make it a point to tell her you want paid back.

 

[bigbangtheory 5,000+ posts]

I think cheesehead mentioned it. I am not really sure what you can do if it is a joint account, cause then she can take it out as much as you can. In that case, you could be screwed. Sorry, but just how it will happen.

I don't see how she could have taken it out if it was your account.

Also, try talking to her when the both of you calm down. Nothing gets solved when yelling at eachother. Usually cooler heads come out on top, most times.

Hope it all gets worked out and sounds to me that your mom needs to work on some things as well as you do. Maybe seek some help together to talk about your problems.

Sorry about your dad too, my fiance's father passed away a few years ago and is very hard to deal without a loved one that had such a huge impact on your life.

Also, once again Quest proves what a complete and udder douche he is. I think him and BMXfeg should become lovers!

 

[Chevillac 5,000+ posts]

people have some ****ed up family members haha.

 

[TeamPSI 10+ year member]

KILL KILL KILL lol

My wife wonders why she isnt on my accounts! hahah

 

[hazardous0388 10+ year member]

should have never givin out bank account info. /you. sorry for your misfortune though =(

 

[spl guru 10+ year member]

one reason i dont even trust family.....

Sounds like u got a crappy family

 

[SRim23 5,000+ posts]

see i know my mom would never do that shit without asking ever. my mom would of been smart enough to sell the home that she couldnt afford first before she would consider taking money from me to help pay for it.

at the very least id loan her the money if she asked, but shed never steal it from me. not cool.

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

A few months ago my mother asks me to help pay on taxes for our home up north, about 4-5 grand, I agree seeing we plan on moving back.... I go to check my account that my father made for me and it had $12,000 in it I get my recipt and see $500 I flicp the fvck out and go home and ask my mom she starts *****ing about "O I needed ot for the taxes they were past due blah blah blah...
Are you fvcking kidding me? I can't beli this shit now I'm going to be fvcked and can't get my own place like I planned to this summer, I really don't want to sue my own mother but this shit is rediculous!!!!!!!! //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/verymad.gif.3f39c5c2fd57527b671fad3efdfac756.gif

You just need to be glad you still have a mother. She knows what is best for you, and your money.

 

[PV Audio 5,000+ posts]

you didnt pay shit!
at 17 you make shit!

go convince yourself you are the man of the house. your dad died to get away from his whiney daughter.

my cousin carlos stole $9K from my house once. i was pissed, but didnt come on a board to cry about it. you live and learn thats all, but denying my folks money has never happened. they are in their 60's now and i still buy them alot and send them on trips.

You know, I like people like you. I really do, because it's just interesting to see how others think. Here you are, near at 30, and think that you know what is going on in someone's clearly polar opposite household. It is very possible to make good money at 17; it just takes hard work. I helped pay ~8.5k towards my car, which apparently isn't possible from your point of view.
I won't in the least feign to be just scraping by, but some of the things that we've gone through many wouldn't handle. Money means just about nothing when it comes to family; have you ever wondered why many highly affluent people have horribly dysfunctional families?

The money was left for HIM, and seeing as you're too dense to realize it, a will is non-negotiable between the parties involved, MEANING: whatever is subdivided among its recipients is meant only for those respective parties. Whoever received what is then allowed (obviously) to do whatever they wish with said items that are willed upon them. So, his mother has no right, legal or otherwise, to take the money without his consult and consent.

How do I know this? My parents are in the process of making a will right now, and I previously had no idea what was involved. So, before you begin assuming you know things and back up your viewpoints with ridiculous claims such as your cousin stole 9k from you and you didn't mind, realize that you are not the only only one who may go through hardship; by monetary means or otherwise.

 

[ThomasG 5,000+ posts]

To the OP. Handle your shit. That or take it up the ***... 11.5 grands worth up the ***.

 

[ThomasG 5,000+ posts]

I wasn't sure if it was 17 or 18. I think I opened an account at 17, but I'm not sure.

I opened an account all by myself at the age of 17.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

Not much you can do... You can ***** all you want, but that won't do anything to get your money back... And suing is out of the question.. Shes your mom..

I would have no issue suing my mother.

However, in this instance, he has no case as she was on the account and was authorized to make such withdrawls.

 

[quest51210 10+ year member]

You stupid beaner.

well i guess in that case, anyone who has ever won a lottery didnt pay for their new home, cars, etc.
oh, and btw quest...you didnt pay for your new HHR either....Exxon Mobil did. get a job scum.

You're ignorant and assuming. Cling to your "my life was hard" bullshit, and speak as if you're the only one who truly understands hardship.
Another belittling comment, and only 29? My my my...

When your 17 year old son is helping you pay your bills, you have a problem.

The money was not hers, period.

You act as if no money was left for her, and as if the responsibility of being a parent gives her the right to things that aren't hers "for the good of the family".

If the family is the mother and the son, and he can afford to pay bills himself... I fail to see how this is anything but better for the mother.

If she had access to the account, you can't legally sue her, even if he wanted you to have the money. Which is why you never have a shared account because one person can legally take every penny out of it and there's nothing (legally) that you can do about it.
You should have immediately had that money put into a private account under your name. I noticed earlier you said it wasn't a shared account, but if that were true, she wouldn't have had access to the money without forging your name, and that in itself is a felony.

Sucks bro, if times are hard, she shoulda came to you and asked. Her just taking it like that is flat out wrong, and not telling you about it afterwards is just as bad. My mom's been nothing but good to me so I can't say what I'd do, but that certainly sux de nuts.

You black inner city kids make me laugh... not knowing how to speak proper english and all. (stereo type, anyone besides quest is asked not to take offense)
**** if black people can be racist but I can't.

You really have no clue what the **** you are talking about do you? It is a scientifically proven fact that blacks cannot be racist and if you try and prove thats not how it is then it just means you are that much more of a white devil racist yourself.
It's like trying to say water is not wet.

hmm hopefully an engine will fail.or one of habiib's cousins is sitting next to you.

hopefully there is some turbulence and the coffe cart spills on you cause 3rd degree burns.

people have some ****ed up family members haha.

To the OP. Handle your shit. That or take it up the ***... 11.5 grands worth up the ***.

hahahaha

 

[Chevillac 5,000+ posts]

hahahaha

oh.

 

[Johnny Drama 5,000+ posts]

Real quick input...

If you mom or dad is still on the account there is nothing you can do. If they are not on the account not only can you go after you mom, but the bank as well.