Its all about compromise.......I used to hide ish all the time from the wife and in the end she always finds out what you did, no matter how good you are.
So I tell her up front. If bills are being paid, clothes on our backs, roof over head, food in our stomach's and savings, then I should be able to take some money per year to do what I want to do.
I always bring up her getting her nails done or tanning, which I never ***** about her doing, but cost a good grand per year with both of them, which is as much as I put into my stereo system. Least I can sell my ish if I needed to, which I have done before....actually many times, lol!
Usually shuts her up.......well sometimes, lol! Woman are going to be woman. They bish about everything. Well most do anyway.....