you must press the valet switch with like 10 seconds of starting the car
the harness im talking about with be small with 4 wires it will plug into the RS relay pack next to the ribbon harness... It will have a blue, purple, orange, and pink wire. These wires will be no more then for inches long the blue wire is your status wire or you can use the blue wire in the RS ribbon harness which is what i used to do as i never liked to the end look of the mini harness