Ever snapped on your woman and said stuff you regret?

[bdawson72 5,000+ posts]

ive done it

 

[Cahm Rohn 10+ year member]

Yeah its rough I married a year ago when I was only 19 and we have had some major arguments, but I have learned that the problem comes when the communication is lost, when something is wrong talk about it cause blowing up is like getting smashed its only a matter of time before you feel like shit.

 

[iamamp3pimp 5,000+ posts]

without reading the replies, ill tell you a little story about my previous relationship.

that thing that you did, just saying things to be hurtful, its what my last relationship was based on. thats all we did was cut each other down, and eventually it failed, and i boned out. It was the most horrible year plus of my life. now, with the girl that i am with now, i couldnt possibly even see myself cutting her down in any way. we were friends first, relationship second. it sounds like you have the latter, in your relationship.

heres something that i pretty much live by

when i get mad, i leave.....because "I'm sorry" doesnt make the things that you said go away. I dont want to say something that i cant take back, so i write. When i am frustrated, happy, somber, upset, etc, i write. I keep a journal infact and that helps me out as well. I was in your position a couple years back, but much worse. I was a violet person, but i never hit anyone......just broke a lot of valuable shit. started drinking and that did nothing for me.........All that i needed was a few good friends, and life is really good to me now.

-Robin

 

[Slammed 5,000+ posts]

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[iamamp3pimp 5,000+ posts]

dont let her see that you wrote this as a nother way of apologizing btw......sometimes its nest to keep shit to ourselves

 

[Mitch86 5,000+ posts]

Yeah. Like that time I yelled "STOP CRYING YOU ****IN CUNT, it's not like you aborted TWINS or anything!"..

 

[reneeb7363 10+ year member]

Bro things like that will happen, it's honestly just a part of love and a part of marriage - nothing's perfect and if it is, you need to take a second look. Friends, Family, Loved ones, whatever - you'll always fight for no reason sometimes, for good reasons others, but you'll always fight. Pick up the pieces, start building again, and do whatever you can not to make the same mistakes as you have in the past, it's all that you can doIt's good that you set your problems at ease and that it's said and done, because some people cant **** it up and shut it up long enough to do that, just dont take shit for granted and strive to be better.

Shit happens, it's life.

As you stated, I think you just need to work on talking about things that bother you before it builds up into an outburst like what happened today. I'm not married but I can relate with a family situation between my mother and I many years ago. We went through a rough point where we were constantly fighting and I never wanted to be home. I would just come home and she would instantly start a fight with me over stupid stuff. I said a lot of things I regret to this day but we eventually worked it out.
This easiest way to solve a problem is by talking, you can't always read each others minds.

Haha. Her sister dated a guy for 5 months, then they got married in June. She says that me and Lindsey argue alot, and it pisses lindsey off because she tries to make it sound like their perfect and we're not (her sister is the middle child and is pampered by their parents). I always tell lindsey just wait. If people aren't arguing it means someone is giving in too much, and sooner or later it's going to surface.

Sounds rough brother, I cant tell you that its very easy for to people to drive each other up the wall and not realize it. I dont know the things im doing wrong until my girl and i get into a fight, and vice versa. When something bothers either one of you, you can put it off because you love them, that stuff piles up though. She was wrong to blow up on you, but im sure she felt justified. You made the situation much worse by reacting defensively, for which no one can blame you. Its one of those things dude, were if you find yourself in that situation to remain calm if you can, its not easy belive me, but if you can, she will calm down too. Perhaps instead of talking to us though, maybe you should explain how you feel, not just apologize, but really dig down and find out between the two of you were these angry emotions are coming from. Best of luck man, you'll patch it up.

We spent a long time talking about it, and we're over the whole thing now. I just posted so I could vent even further.

COMMUNICATION is teh NUMBER 1 TOOL every marriage should have...it's not an easy tool to use and it takes constyant practice! The more you use it the stronger your relationship will become. Doenst mean you won't fight ever again...relationships can grow from it too if it is done carefully and respectfully.

Great advice in here from you peers...nice to see the sharing.

I know that you have made up now, but from a womans POV... sincerely apologize for adding fuel to the fire, then romance the heck out of her and show her you still love and care for her. (the little things--bubble bath with candles --foot massage, etc.) Remarkably you will then be able to calmly talk about what upset you so bad and hopefully avoid the fight in future. Your love for her is very obvious...she is a lucky woman!

 

[bikinpunk 10+ year member]

dont let her see that you wrote this as a nother way of apologizing btw......sometimes its nest to keep shit to ourselves

I'm not that lame. If I want to **** up, I'll do it to her face, not show her a website.

 

[iamamp3pimp 5,000+ posts]

I know, im just putting in my .02.

lol

 

[Belunt 10+ year member]

When I was a kid I had it out with this one girl in a mcdonalds when we broke up. I ripped her head off calling her white trash bjtch and shit. She really was white trash though her stepdad later went onto molest her, her brother wanted to watch while we fvcked, and I used to smoke weed with her mom all the time who made strange passes at me, family was a joke and this is just a fraction of the crapfest which was her life. We left the mcdonalds and went our seperate ways, I got high with a few guys after leaving mickeyD's and started walking home through the neighborhood. Next thing I know I feel like someone is jabbing me in the back, mind you I packed up assloads of the ganj and thought it was one of my guys fvckin with me. So I start yelling "ouch" everytime I get hit. Finally after a few good hits I turn around and see some guy swinging a pipe on me, look past him and there are a few other guys dumping out of a car starting to run towards me. Out numbered and no weapon on me I took off running and made it to some guys house. I waited it out there for a little bit before walking home. Not that I regret telling her off, she was human scum. Not saying she wasn't smoking because she was. Last I heard she's got a kid with some gangbanger living in a trailerpark outside Joliet.

 

[HitManSE 10+ year member]

Try this, next time around IF for some reason one of you is in "snapped" mode. You both should agree to LISTEN to the other person regardless of how hard it may be.

That goes especially for yourself since you do admit thats a issue for you.

If your BOTH yelling then there is no communication going on, its just loud words flying around and neither one of you will be happy about it afterwards. This way the outburst will be 95% shorter, later when things calm down talk it over.

Sure its hard to do, but its worth it.

Good luck.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

When I was a kid I had it out with this one girl in a mcdonalds when we broke up. I ripped her head off calling her white trash bjtch and shit. She really was white trash though her stepdad later went onto molest her, her brother wanted to watch while we fvcked, and I used to smoke weed with her mom all the time who made strange passes at me, family was a joke and this is just a fraction of the crapfest which was her life. We left the mcdonalds and went our seperate ways, I got high with a few guys after leaving mickeyD's and started walking home through the neighborhood. Next thing I know I feel like someone is jabbing me in the back, mind you I packed up assloads of the ganj and thought it was one of my guys fvckin with me. So I start yelling "ouch" everytime I get hit. Finally after a few good hits I turn around and see some guy swinging a pipe on me, look past him and there are a few other guys dumping out of a car starting to run towards me. Out numbered and no weapon on me I took off running and made it to some guys house. I waited it out there for a little bit before walking home. Not that I regret telling her off, she was human scum. Not saying she wasn't smoking because she was. Last I heard she's got a kid with some gangbanger living in a trailerpark outside Joliet.

You have the strangest relationships of about anyone I have ever met.

 

[Imtjnotu 5,000+ posts]

my and my girlfriend have been together and fight over the same things...ipods and cars and how she is smater then me but yea that has happend to me before..all u can really do is appologize for the next week and show her u love her...dont let this happen again tho because thats when things can get even worse...trust me

 

[Belunt 10+ year member]

You have the strangest relationships of about anyone I have ever met.

I could go on for some time about the strange relationships and ****** run-ins I've had in my lifetime.

With the girl I'm with now. We were in a portillos eating and arguing, after it got heated and loud I picked up a barbecue sauce and threw it at her. She got up and left after this, I looked up and everyone sitting around me was looking at me waiting for me to follow. I barked "can I help you" while shoveling a pile of fries in my mouth. Some got up and moved, I stayed and finished my beef sandwich. I don't have any regrets other than letting my food get cold, we later made up and her shirt came out stain free.